Phone Manner

[Yman]

Perhaps I'm persnickety, but I hate condescending phone manner. I just got off of the phone with a woman who addressed me as ' hun ' -- no doubt short for ' honey '. I've never talked to this woman before and I find her language disingenous--as well as lacking enthusiasm. For me it sets off alarm bells that her service will be similar. Anyone else feel the same ?

If I were talking to Marlene Dietrich I might have felt differently

 

[Yman]

Oh, and if anyone is curious this is the woman I was talking to :http://vancouver.en.craigslist.ca/ers/974043196.html

I was pretty pumped up after seeing her photo but my enthusiasm was quickly tempered after our brief conversation

 

[moi]

she's so pretty....and i have the same gucci purse as her in the third pic lol!!!

 

[87112]

Read this.

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=99427

 

[Yman]

I was actually smitten after seeing her pic....and that doesn't happen often. And she is quite reasonable in her fee too. Something just doesn't add up.

 

[Yman]

Read this.

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=99427

That`s too funny.

I too wondered if she was potentially transgender or full op, but her adams apple, hips and arms all suggest 100 % woman. shwing.

 

[Thatotherguy]

Perhaps I'm persnickety, but I hate condescending phone manner. I just got off of the phone with a woman who addressed me as ' hun ' -- no doubt short for ' honey '. I've never talked to this woman before and I find her language disingenous--as well as lacking enthusiasm. For me it sets off alarm bells that her service will be similar. Anyone else feel the same ?

If I were talking to Marlene Dietrich I might have felt differently

Well, having not heard the phone conversation in question, I can't really make any judgments, but calling somebody 'hun' isn't necessarily a sign of condescension. In parts of the USA it's normal for women to call pretty much anyone hun, with absolutely nothing negative implied. Maybe it's a figure of speech she grew up with? Of course, maybe she really was being condescending. I guess you're really the only one who can judge that.

 

[Guardian Angel]

Well, having not heard the phone conversation in question, I can't really make any judgments, but calling somebody 'hun' isn't necessarily a sign of condescension. In parts of the USA it's normal for women to call pretty much anyone hun, with absolutely nothing negative implied. Maybe it's a figure of speech she grew up with? Of course, maybe she really was being condescending. I guess you're really the only one who can judge that.

Good thing she is not from Newfoundland, you would get an instant, "yes my love " greeting. There are many beautiful women with little communication habits that you could miss out on because you are offended by their verbal descriptions they label on you.

I think you are being way to analytical for the purpose you were hoping to see this pretty gal for.


G.A.

 

[Yman]

Good thing she is not from Newfoundland, you would get an instant, "yes my love " greeting. There are many beautiful women with little communication habits that you could miss out on because you are offended by their verbal descriptions they label on you.

I think you are being way to analytical for the purpose you were hoping to see this pretty gal for.


G.A.

I did say in my first post that there was a general lack of enthusiasm from this girl.

Of course I imagine we all have some figures of speech we utilize that is overused and it weakens the effectiveness of the language. We're probably not even aware of it as its become habit. When a stranger calls me their ' friend ' or ' love ' it grates. I'll admit I become more analytical.

A gorgeous beauty becomes a little less so if she is lazy with her language.

On the other hand if she's gorgeous and totally foul mouthed skank who throws in a ' hun ' here and there.....I'm good to go I'm just a dog like the rest of you who wants an enthusiastic fuck !

 

[mclovin76]

i can understand the fake hun or babe thing but what would you rather b called from now on when i call an sp when they ask my name im gona say my name is nacho. Or pedro, or pablito lol im ok with hun makes me think shes gona suck my cock goooood

 

[mclovin76]

then when i bust a nut on her face ill say " you like that hunny bunny "

 

[Dasha]

We have to call you something...lol.

Just think of our side for one second. I field about 30 calls per day and 80% of them are WOT's, Rude, or jerking off on the other end while I talk about services. It's hard to gauge someone right-away over the phone but what else would you rather she called you? King? Sir?

What i find incredibly rude is guys who call, converse, sound like we're hitting it off and after asking many detailed questions where I answer with laughter and fun, they just hang up when one answer isn't what they want to hear. Like, "how old are you"...click. or, are you Asian...click.

I save every WOT and rude hang-up as 'never answer, never book'.

We all have to do business over the phone and that IS the business side of these dates. In person, it's another story.

Just my 2 cents. I was pissed off at rude hang-up guys. I saw the title of this thread and had to vent.

Thanks.

xox
Dasha

Perhaps I'm persnickety, but I hate condescending phone manner. I just got off of the phone with a woman who addressed me as ' hun ' -- no doubt short for ' honey '. I've never talked to this woman before and I find her language disingenous--as well as lacking enthusiasm. For me it sets off alarm bells that her service will be similar. Anyone else feel the same ?

If I were talking to Marlene Dietrich I might have felt differently

 

[dagashi]

Perhaps I'm persnickety, but I hate condescending phone manner. I just got off of the phone with a woman who addressed me as ' hun ' -- no doubt short for ' honey '. I've never talked to this woman before and I find her language disingenous--as well as lacking enthusiasm. For me it sets off alarm bells that her service will be similar. Anyone else feel the same ?

If I were talking to Marlene Dietrich I might have felt differently

In general, I have no problem with the little cutesy nicknames – it seems to kinda break the ice – at least with me. Though, as you mention, she's lacking enthusiasm, so, that might affect things. So far, anyone who has use names like "Hun" or "Sugar" or something of the sort with me, has come across as being genuine. So, maybe that's the difference.

About phone manner, how about the guy that calls up and the first thing he says is not 'hello' or 'hi' or 'how are you, my name is Bill'

The first thing he says is : HOW MUCH IS IT.

Classy, eh?

I tend to want to hang up on these people, and used to respond to them in a not so friendly way. But a while back i decided that maybe the reason they asked this question first was because they just didn't know any better. Past experiences, cultural barriers, fear of the phone (yes some people HATE using them and don't really know how to properly have a conversation on them).

Definite good point Nina. I always worry about how I come across on the phone. I'm not a fan of the phone to begin with, especially when calling someone for the first time, ESPECIALLY when calling an escort ! I tend to get overly nervous, and rush through the conversation, which tends to make it a bit too business-like. Definitely have some work to do on phone manner on my end. However, I would never start off with "How much is it?" or anything of the sort.

And, good on you for reasoning with the rude people on the other side!

 

[dagashi]

We have to call you something...lol.

Dasha, you were one of the people I was thinking about when I was talking of SPs using endearments, and having it sound genuine. You've definitely had the best phone demeanor of any SP that I've called, and it added to the excitement as I trudged through the snowstorm to see you!

Again, it sounds like Yman found the lack of enthusiasm while using "hun" added to the condescension.

 

[Aynia]

Wow, I see Christmas cheer is overwhelming.


I really don't think Katyln was trying to do anything other than give you a perception of how difficult it can be to juggle.

Personally, I would suggest a second work phone, as that really is the simpliest. I turn mine off with an update voicemail ( sometimes forget that ) and never have to worry about it ringing at the wrong time.

Might be a avenue worth visiting. I keep my personal/work world very seperate and I do admit I do get frustrated with the ruder " Can you tell me your services" or How much introductions ( only because there is NO ad out there that doesn't have it)... but not because it is an inappropriate time, but that 10 of those calls, can get annoying and eventually someone will recieve the " it's on my ad" response.

No one is perfect, and this world requires your "service" face be on 24/7.

I guarantee you even those sugar coating and saying it's all gold.... has a bad day too. guaranteed!

Go easy on her boys, really don't think she was trying to be "princess like".

 

[dagashi]

Wow, I see Christmas cheer is overwhelming.


I really don't think Katyln was trying to do anything other than give you a perception of how difficult it can be to juggle.

Personally, I would suggest a second work phone, as that really is the simpliest. I turn mine off with an update voicemail ( sometimes forget that ) and never have to worry about it ringing at the wrong time.

Might be a avenue worth visiting. I keep my personal/work world very seperate and I do admit I do get frustrated with the ruder " Can you tell me your services" or How much introductions ( only because there is NO ad out there that doesn't have it)... but not because it is an inappropriate time, but that 10 of those calls, can get annoying and eventually someone will recieve the " it's on my ad" response.

No one is perfect, and this world requires your "service" face be on 24/7.

I guarantee you even those sugar coating and saying it's all gold.... has a bad day too. guaranteed!

Go easy on her boys, really don't think she was trying to be "princess like".

Hey Aynia, this post might go better in the other thread, also about phone manner, that Katlyn started.

 

[Aynia]

Hey Aynia, this post might go better in the other thread, also about phone manner, that Katlyn started.

LOl

I caught that....


There's that not so perfect part again....

 

[visiting]

Aynia,

I agree,

The answer seems pretty simple to me, I would only answer a call, if I am in a position to talk 100% freely, if I am not, that is why there is voicemail. The second phone is the best, and is common. I know some phone companies, you can have 2 lines on the same phone, but I would think it would be safer to have to different phones..... much safer I think....

Sure I may answer if it's someone I know calling, and ask them if ok to call them back later, but not if it's someone new.

I think this avoids all problems. I mean is it possible the person calling is hard of hearing? Is it possible that your in a club, a bar, or restaurant that is noisy, and the caller can't hear you well..

Signed, Mr. Murphy...



Now as to what the SP's call you, everyone is different, and with different voices. There are some ladies that can say anything, and I am happy, others call be by my name, and it doesn't sound so great.....

 

[Yman]

LOl

I caught that....


There's that not so perfect part again....

Just pure coincidence I started this thread even before reading Katlyn's thread....lol. This thread is sort of similar...but more about phone manner and the english language

 

[Thatotherguy]

I did say in my first post that there was a general lack of enthusiasm from this girl.

Yeah, that's why I said that you're really the only one who can judge if she was actually being condescending. If you were basing it solely on her saying 'hun' then I would have thought you were crazy (well, that's not actually true, I just would have thought that you didn't know that many women use that term commonly), but it was clear that it wasn't only the term that you were referring to.