me and my ex reconciled recently and everything was great for like a week then we fell back into our old pattern all over again and we haven't spoken since
Absolutely. I've been with my SO on and off for the last ten years. Frankly, our previous splits generally had to do with my faults and decisions, but she saw past them and forgave. I now recognize how lucky I am to have her and choose not to repeat my mistakes. Reconciliation is possible with forgiveness, but both parties need to change previous patterns.