online dating/ideas for finding someone
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Unfortunately, most of good students spend so much time studying, so they don't have much time for dating. But you can join some club for students; like any sport activities, maybe badminton, volley ball, swimming, hiking or even dancing club. I think the best place to meet someone is from doing similar activities. At least you know that you will have something in common.
I like my bf so much because we do a lot of things together, especially golf...
Active people are more fun than the lazy ones, of course!
I'm well aware many ladies use the service just as I would - but by and large I think it's a waste of time. You're also making it seem like I'm using the service for the sole purpose of finding a piece of ass and that's also not really the end goal here. I'm not opposed to having 'fun' along the way, but I'm more of a one-woman kind of guy.
At the same time I'm relaying my own personal experiences, so while I never found it to be useful someone else along the way might think it's the hottest thing since the Wii. I've met maybe 15 different women through this method - and they all ended up being either super boring, not looking quite like their pictures, flakey, and a combination of the hot-cold, hot-cold mind game that I refuse to play. I pretty much came to the consensus that the only women using the internet were only using this because it clearly is their last option and that meeting someone in real life just won't happen otherwise - read "issues".
It's wonderful to hear that you are a hidden gem it seems but I assure you that most of your fellow ladies are nothing short of lousy. Maybe we should just cut to the chase and get married in Vegas? I'll pay for the chapel, you splash for the Elvis minister? Deal? LMAO. Kidding...
At the same time I'm relaying my own personal experiences, so while I never found it to be useful someone else along the way might think it's the hottest thing since the Wii. I've met maybe 15 different women through this method - and they all ended up being either super boring, not looking quite like their pictures, flakey, and a combination of the hot-cold, hot-cold mind game that I refuse to play. I pretty much came to the consensus that the only women using the internet were only using this because it clearly is their last option and that meeting someone in real life just won't happen otherwise - read "issues".
It's wonderful to hear that you are a hidden gem it seems but I assure you that most of your fellow ladies are nothing short of lousy. Maybe we should just cut to the chase and get married in Vegas? I'll pay for the chapel, you splash for the Elvis minister? Deal? LMAO. Kidding...
In all seriousness, online dating is just another option of meeting people. But just don't get your hopes up too high. For every 20 messages, I sent out, I get only 5 responses and of the 5 only 1-2 had any good initial chemistry. Don't be expecting to meet Katherine Heigl or such, but "real" women. So don't put too much hopes into it, just try it and have fun!
The difference is that many women put that their looking for "honesty" in their profiles, that their sick of "playing games" - when of course they are just as guilty as men of doing the same things.
In fact imo it's worse because men generally don't whine about these things, they just deal with it.
Another sad fact is you see a very attractive woman on a dating site and you have to ask yourself why?
It's like when I read on this board about escorts having problems meeting men, it makes me laugh.
If you can't meet someone when you are attractive, try being a short man or a fugly girl. Then you will have something to complain about.
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ma1234
Tuula, leave poor chilli alone. He just said he is too short to find a woman, and guys like this tend to have a Napoleon-complex. They need to brag about how big their cocks are and how many women they can fuck. 
dating sites waste of time
Dont bother with the dating sites.
My old gf and I set up an account for her sister. (lavalife)
Kind of in secret, as her sister was really overweight, maybe 250lbs
had no job and was a bitch, 24 and hadn't had a date in 5 years.
But what the hell, my gf wanted to find her someone, and none of my friends were interested. So we made an account, and would screen any interested men.
This was not some perverted ad, we made a very nice classy, romantic one.
Within a week, she had 50 men send smiles. I kid you not, a girl who probably never had a guy flirt with her in her life, was getting tons of attention. The guys were all sorts, all ages, many were very good looking.
Within a month she had 120 men smile or send mails.
There is really noway a normal guy can meet a women on these sites. An average looking girl would get dozens of men interested each day.
There are a few really hot guys, that basically go throw these average lonely girls like a hobby.
Dont bother with the dating sites.
My old gf and I set up an account for her sister. (lavalife)
Kind of in secret, as her sister was really overweight, maybe 250lbs
had no job and was a bitch, 24 and hadn't had a date in 5 years.
But what the hell, my gf wanted to find her someone, and none of my friends were interested. So we made an account, and would screen any interested men.
This was not some perverted ad, we made a very nice classy, romantic one.
Within a week, she had 50 men send smiles. I kid you not, a girl who probably never had a guy flirt with her in her life, was getting tons of attention. The guys were all sorts, all ages, many were very good looking.
Within a month she had 120 men smile or send mails.
There is really noway a normal guy can meet a women on these sites. An average looking girl would get dozens of men interested each day.
There are a few really hot guys, that basically go throw these average lonely girls like a hobby.
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ma1234
The biggest problem the online stuff has created is it gives people (especially women) way to many expectations - that they probably wouldn't otherwise have. Ever notice the trend of profiles with a list of demands and wants a mile-long almost ad-nauseum. It's akin to a begger becoming a chooser. It's all just an act, because having an online profile is the "in" thing to do for the time being. Why else would a truly attractive woman want an online profile? To meet a man? Please - like the 15-20 guys that hit on her a day in person can't turn into anything meaningful over the course of a year? That's a modest 5,000 encounters a year. Think about it.
Another thing to factor in...you could meet this same person on the street and they wouldn't have the same attitude. And you wouldn't have 50 other average joe's competing for the same girl at that same moment.
It's also laughable when I read over and over again ladies saying "they're tired of meeting men in bars" - online is just as bad if not worse - because now the guys who are too shy to meet you in a bar have no problems whipping up a message too.
And in the end it really is just a numbers game. I don't have time to write 8-10 different women everyday - and maybe that's why I had disappointing results? To be honest though, I don't think I could find 8-10 different women on any given day to contact because the pickings are quite slim. Maybe it's because I'm shorter than average and my profile isn't outstanding? One never knows. I'm realistic at least... I don't go after the 5'10+ ladies when I'm only 5'8/9. But I also know I don't want someone who is 5'2 and 150lbs who calls themselves "average" either.
Be honest - be real and I'll happily oblige. It goes both ways.
Another thing to factor in...you could meet this same person on the street and they wouldn't have the same attitude. And you wouldn't have 50 other average joe's competing for the same girl at that same moment.
It's also laughable when I read over and over again ladies saying "they're tired of meeting men in bars" - online is just as bad if not worse - because now the guys who are too shy to meet you in a bar have no problems whipping up a message too.
And in the end it really is just a numbers game. I don't have time to write 8-10 different women everyday - and maybe that's why I had disappointing results? To be honest though, I don't think I could find 8-10 different women on any given day to contact because the pickings are quite slim. Maybe it's because I'm shorter than average and my profile isn't outstanding? One never knows. I'm realistic at least... I don't go after the 5'10+ ladies when I'm only 5'8/9. But I also know I don't want someone who is 5'2 and 150lbs who calls themselves "average" either.
Be honest - be real and I'll happily oblige. It goes both ways.
At work we have this beautiful Half Chinese/White gal 5 feet 8 beautiful face and smile and has been approached for modeling work. However here social life with guys just sucks. She dates the ugliest guy who have the confidence to actually ask her out. She claims she goes to clubs and most guys dont hit on her at all.
Online dating is an easy ice breaker
I know a lot of people who met online and maybe they did not get married but they did date for a while
its like meeting almost anywhere else except you are a lot less shy and you can avoid really hurting someones feelings, or getting your own hurt, I guess.
yes pictures can be deceiving and more flattering but so can the right makeup and/or proper lighting
a girl looks much hotter in candlelight than sunlight.
and if nothing else, if there is no romantic connection you may have still made a great friend.
I have never really went online trying to find a SO but it has happened and though it didn't last we're still great friends and he is probably one of the best men I have EVER known or even met.
I know a lot of people who met online and maybe they did not get married but they did date for a while
its like meeting almost anywhere else except you are a lot less shy and you can avoid really hurting someones feelings, or getting your own hurt, I guess.
yes pictures can be deceiving and more flattering but so can the right makeup and/or proper lighting
a girl looks much hotter in candlelight than sunlight.
and if nothing else, if there is no romantic connection you may have still made a great friend.
I have never really went online trying to find a SO but it has happened and though it didn't last we're still great friends and he is probably one of the best men I have EVER known or even met.
I have had friends who frequent these dating sites, and yes, it is a easy for them to pick up a lonely, fat chick and have an easy bang. Also - some of the girls on these sites are BITTER! You can sense their bitterness almost instantly through their profile, almost man-haters! One tell-tale hint is that they emphasize that they don't want any "mind games".
I think that would be an irrelevant factor - many of my friends have online dating profiles and they faired about as well as I did save for the odd one-nighter, but nothing meaningful has ever come from it.
I have one friend who most women would consider "hot". Tall, built, and always dresses pretty decently. Has zero problems meeting women in clubs. In fact, quite often girls will go after him without him ever having to do anything. Yet, put him online - and he's as bad as that nerdy dude with super pale skin and coke bottles for glasses. That's when I know for sure the women on these things are doing it purely to gauge their "worthiness" and to give themselves a false sense of importance.
That's when I come to the conclusion it's almost better to just send out a copy-and-paste style letter to each girl vs. taking the time write something genuine and sincere. If the less-than-stellar girls are getting 350+ msgs a week and the odds yours is going to get deleted or lost anyway, why waste the time? But of course - all women want someone "genuine and sincere"
I'm still not impressed, even with free ones like PoF and CL.
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Tuula2
"I too, see alot of good looking men on dating sites and ask myself why are they single, but it can be for a variety of different reasons, I don't judge them for it, because I don't know their "real story"."
See Tuula that's what women just will never get.
Generally hot guys go on the internet to get laid, they never ever have the intention of finding a "relationship". Why would they? If you can get laid, and lay as many women as you wanted why would you settle for just one girl?
Generally hot women go on the internet to find a partner.
So when you see a hot woman on the internet looking for a man, you have to seriously wonder what is wrong with her.
That's the difference.
"I too, see alot of good looking men on dating sites and ask myself why are they single, but it can be for a variety of different reasons, I don't judge them for it, because I don't know their "real story"."
See Tuula that's what women just will never get.
Generally hot guys go on the internet to get laid, they never ever have the intention of finding a "relationship". Why would they? If you can get laid, and lay as many women as you wanted why would you settle for just one girl?
Generally hot women go on the internet to find a partner.
So when you see a hot woman on the internet looking for a man, you have to seriously wonder what is wrong with her.
That's the difference.
