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Aerts

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I am thinking of trying online dating. Basically, I am 24, am told I am smart and handsome, in university, and yes I have some activities but I still can't seem meet any women (I see my biggest two problems are I have a mental disorder and I can't drink anymore so bars=no). I don't like to think of the negative things in my life, but they have seriously affected me in all areas, maybe relationships the most, and this is probably the best my life has ever been but I do not have a woman. I have decided online dating is my next option. I am going to buy a digital camera, and sign up on plenty of fish and lavalife. I don't care if it is NSA sex, or a relationship, I don't give a shit as long as it's something. What do you guys think? Anyone had any luck with online dating? I feel like I am doing all the regular things where I should meet a girl, and it feels like I will be waiting forever, this seems like my last resort if I want non-SP sex.
 

chilli

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Have a good profile picture that clearly shows your face. No matter what anyone tells you women base their intial desision on looks the same way guys do.

Make your profile as humorous and as honest as possible, women generally read EVERYTHING in profiles.

Be proactive and send out 6-10 emails a day, use a witty subject line to standout (as women online get a ton of responses) and talk about something in their profile that interests you.

The first meeting, take an hour and meet over coffee. Do not even mention sex. Just flirt and have fun. Send them an email the next day tell them you had a nice time.

Always have 2-3 dates going at a time, never be honest and upfront about this. When they ask if you are dating anyone else, just say you're really busy with work and don't have time, but if you meet the right person - you will make time.

- despite what women say, they like a challenge and want what they can't have - you have to make yourself unavailable both physically and emotionally.

She's going to call you, email you, text you.... chase you - don't give in. Many women are like men in this regard in that they will pursue until they catch you and then lose interest.

So show some interest but not too much.

Lastly a piece of advise that I have learned the hard way... I have tried dating many many single mothers....

Don't. You'll be tempted... just don't - it's not worth the drama. Their a major pain in the ass.
 
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ma1234

My advise is to have patience. You will have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your princess ;)

Contact many women and eliminate quickly the ones you think you could never get along with. Don't stick around just because you are lonely.

Try to find someone similar to your age, education, looks and social class.

Best way to make yourself interesting is being interested in the other person. Don't be selfish or pushy, if you are shy take a course in public speaking or do whatever helps you to raise your self-esteem.

Just be yourself and don't have expectations too low or too high.

Good luck!
 

nanaimo1

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And when you post your ad, make sure you leave out the "mental disorder "part. ...
 

chilli

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Should I leave out the fact that I'm a pooner too?
All chicks dig threesomes.

Being a pooner saves you time on finding a third.

I would think that would appreciate your foresight and planning abilities.
 

Krustee

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I am thinking of trying online dating. Basically, I am 24, am told I am smart and handsome, in university, and yes I have some activities but I still can't seem meet any women (I see my biggest two problems are I have a mental disorder and I can't drink anymore so bars=no). I don't like to think of the negative things in my life, but they have seriously affected me in all areas, maybe relationships the most, and this is probably the best my life has ever been but I do not have a woman.

 

Krustee

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Have a good profile picture that clearly shows your face. No matter what anyone tells you women base their intial desision on looks the same way guys do.

These pictures are what I suggest you use, it conveys a happy confident man who is cheerful and a snappy dresser!










 

MrPeterNorth

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I would have to say at least in my own experience - online dating doesn't really work. Probably because I'm a hopeless romantic who wants to meet someone by chance than via a computer, but I digress.

The biggest caveat about online dating is it gives even below average women way too much credit. These are most likely women who in real life receive little to no attention while walking down the street, but all of a sudden online they're batting guys away left and right. They aren't used to that kind of attention. So it goes to their heads and before you know it - they too think they're hot stuff, and naturally attitude comes along with it.

If you can imagine this is type of fanfare a 'regular' woman gets, one can only imagine the amount of interest an attractive woman gets. I'd say it's the equivalent of meeting someone in a bar - they're there all on display, but mostly for a tease much like a peacock. Most of the hot ones don't actually want to meet someone - it's all about how much attention they can get it, and from whom - a popularity contest per se.

And even if you manage to hook-up with one of these girls my interest for them usually fades really quickly. The bottom line - if all these women were as great as they really claimed they were, they wouldn't be single.

And since when did 5'2 and 150lbs become "average"? Give me a fucking break.
 

SInCity67

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Why?
Hm... I knew this thread was a bad idea.
Mrpeternorth pretty much answer your question. Its bad enough hot girls in real life are gonna have about 5000 to 1000 interactions by age 23 and be so fucken socialize , your avg. man " chode " can no longer impress her. Now, you throw a ugly to avg. girl on plenty of fish, shes gonna get 25 to 100 emails daily and won't even respond too most of them. The ugly girls get there validation from online dating from desperate men , who haven't learned the social skills to succeed with woman in real life.

Trust me , download the RSD transformations and get your head in state. And go out in theworld and get real world experiences .
 

Aerts

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Trust me , download the RSD transformations and get your head in state. And go out in theworld and get real world experiences .
The torrent doesn't seem to work. You've made good cases though.
 

chilli

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How people meet...

--38% met at work or school
--34% met through family or friends
--13% met at a nightclub, bar, cafe, or other social gathering
--3% met through the internet
--2% met at church
--1% met by chance, such as on the street
--1% met on a blind date or through a dating service
 

Aerts

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How people meet...

--38% met at work or school
I guess I need to just start talking to more girls at school and ask them out for coffee. Any advice for meeting women on campus besides bars?
 
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ma1234

You're not meeting the right kind of women.
Remember, you said ALL women like threesomes.

Well, I am saying that 90% of them wouldn't want to get caught dead in a threesome. (jealous, self-conscious, finds it morally wrong, etc.)

Think a little before you make sweeping statements.
 
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