I've been on the receiving end as well Miss Gia so feel your pain. I don't use much make up anymore but take care making sure i'm presentable. Take time off work and have to travel for hours. It's annoying and disrespectful to say the least.
I would say tho, more so when i started, it can be a nerve racking experience. I've thought about bailing at the last minute but always maned up.
I believe Felina mentioned once how nervous she was when she first switched roles and hired a male sp.
Not condoning it, but it's likely not all are "creeps" and some just had cold feet.
Some ladies ask for references but i doubt that would eliminate the problem.
It's awkward asking, they might have only seen someone for an hour anyways, and unless you know her, she may not have good intentions for you.
I would never bail. Here's what i do, maybe it could help you.
I prefer to start with email, introduce myself and what i'm looking for. I find it's more personal than text. A little back and forth here and we both can get a feel for each other. It also can help enhance the experience.
Also i think a phone call would be better than taking a reference from a stranger.
If you live in an apartment perhaps you could just give the building or area and meet in the lobby or somewhere so you don't give out the room number.
A couple i have seen only give general location by text then phone only for room number just before.
Other that that maybe reach out to some ladies who have been around a while, i'm sure they have figured out how minimized this headache.
Hope that helps.
