Nice Guys

[bcneil]

As an older guy, 36.
We all think things, like wow, going back to highschool, knowing what I know now.....snatch parade!

But I do work with many coops students each summer.
Sometimes you want to smack these young guys in their face.

One was going to lunch break everyday with this girl.
He confided in me that he liked her, but didnt know what to do.

I tried to explain, go for it. She will NEVER ask you out. if you dont be the man, you will NOT get her.
Simple as that. He stewed over it all summer. It was like watching a car crash. He never got the courage and they both left last summer, back to their different schools.

Rejections sucks of course. But as I get older, the times I was rejected by girls seems far less worse than the times I pussied out.

I have also had coop students that think they best way to get a girl to like you, is be the ass kiss.
It makes me cringe

 

[Webster]

My point is men and women are pretty similar and chase the same things so if me and my friend consider a nice girl a lottery win it proves NICE IS PRETTY DAMM GOOD.

Yes. Also pretty different AS INDIVIDUALS. One-size-fits-all advice just doesn't work that well.

 

[ReluctantPooner]

lol, almost forgot about this one: http://www.theonion.com/articles/but-if-we-started-dating-it-would-ruin-our-friends,11473/

Oh, how that sums it up so well............

 

[mimi]

I really appreciate all the responses. I will definitely pass on the links.

This fellow I am talking about has a dad who is drop dead, take your breath away gorgeous and, Christ, he picks up women like a magnet to filings as he walks through a mall, or down a street or anywhere. Women actually act like complete idiots around him. Most of the time he is oblivious. He only notices women when he needs something.

So young fellow doesn't understand why he hasn't inherited the 'gift'...he looks a lot like his dad, but, he is shy and for some reason doesn't have that uber-confidence. I think you have to be born with that eh?

Who knows what causes us to be attracted to people. I mean, have you ever seen a person who developed a crush on someone so totally not in their league? Ya know, when people say "you could do so much better" to one or both of the parties...and you wonder what drug your friend is on?

By the way al, I have never asked him if he has told her his feelings at some point in the past. He does take her out to dinner and movies and just hangs out pointlessly the way young folk do.

Gawd, her last boyfriend was the guy who plays a few chords on the guitar and has a recording contract pending (ya right) and I see him singing tunelessly on the street....

Ok...one more thing....how do we explain the fact that most douche bags scattering their sperm (in any receptacle they find) don't have many genes worthy of adding to the pool? And if they are the ones who are catching the hot chicks then the result is really good looking douche bags?

I guess if you are a douche then looks are important. Who would tolerate an ugly douche bag?

 

[westcoast555]

I really appreciate all the responses. I will definitely pass on the links.

This fellow I am talking about has a dad who is drop dead, take your breath away gorgeous and, Christ, he picks up women like a magnet to filings as he walks through a mall, or down a street or anywhere. Women actually act like complete idiots around him. Most of the time he is oblivious. He only notices women when he needs something.

So young fellow doesn't understand why he hasn't inherited the 'gift'...he looks a lot like his dad, but, he is shy and for some reason doesn't have that uber-confidence. I think you have to be born with that eh?

Who knows what causes us to be attracted to people. I mean, have you ever seen a person who developed a crush on someone so totally not in their league? Ya know, when people say "you could do so much better" to one or both of the parties...and you wonder what drug your friend is on?

By the way al, I have never asked him if he has told her his feelings at some point in the past. He does take her out to dinner and movies and just hangs out pointlessly the way young folk do.

Gawd, her last boyfriend was the guy who plays a few chords on the guitar and has a recording contract pending (ya right) and I see him singing tunelessly on the street....

Ok...one more thing....how do we explain the fact that most douche bags scattering their sperm (in any receptacle they find) don't have many genes worthy of adding to the pool? And if they are the ones who are catching the hot chicks then the result is really good looking douche bags?

I guess if you are a douche then looks are important. Who would tolerate an ugly douche bag?

By definition - if they're successfully scattering their genes...... They are 'worthy' genes (i.e.successful).

You HAVE noticed that dumb people are quite distressingly successful at reproducing right ?

If your pal is nice looking he needs to bolster his confidence by concentrating on somebody attainable.

As for tolerating ugly douche bags - men tolerate them.... Women are often attracted to the attributes of douchebaggery in their early peak reproductive years... They correlate with aggression, dominance and physical prowess and are therefore 'attractive'. Later on they will seek out males that are good providers.

The part I haven't quite worked into my genetic/sociobiological paradigm is why blowjobs are the most important thing in my life!

They must have a very important underlying purpose!