Newbie question

[Triteck]

OK, I got a question for you guys.
For myself personally half my enjoyment and half of my arousal was when I made my partner orgasm
I found my one and only experience she did not orgasm. I’m guessing this is something typical that happens cause it’s kind of about the guy not the woman do you bring it up to them? Do you ask them but the only thing is if you ask them the big turnoff for me is if they fake it
For example, I love going down on a woman and make her orgasm.
I went down on the one escort after five minutes. I stopped. I don’t think I was doing much for her if what everybody’s thoughts on this.

 

[Newuser505]

Don't focus on the end goal. It'll just end up frustrating for you and annoying for her. Instead, just focus on foreplay, passion, and intensity. If it gets there it gets there, if not, well she's still likely sopping wet and having fun.

You do you though.

 

[rinamood]

I went down on the one escort after five minutes. I stopped. I don’t think I was doing much for her if what everybody’s thoughts on this.

If I ain't doing it for her, there's nothing to be fussed about. Either try something different, or move onto another SP who is more physically responsive if you'd prefer.

It's your session, and your own preferences on how it goes. This is an experience for you first 💫

 

[Dawgspeed]

Start with some Light kisses .. Nibble your way down .. Teasing all the way .. If she is not wet and lips fully aroused, begging for attention .. When you arrive ..
Take the body clue .. carry on doing something else .. Enjoy your visit ..

Then look for another SP like Rinamood has mentioned that is more responsive to your pussy eating ways

Cheers

 

[VinVan]

I’m like you OP, I enjoy it when the woman has pleasure as well; but pleasure sometimes involves and O and sometimes not. I wouldn’t get too hung up on it being the end goal.

To a certain extent the whole paid SP experience is an illusion; you pay and the good ones will create an environment for 30-45-60-90 minutes where you feel seen and can nut. But is it really so different than dating in real life where there is an elaborate dance to present a version of ourselves we want the other to be attracted too (at least initially)?

As highlights from the story below suggest, the O in the SP world (as in the dating world ) is often faked and is a self-esteem tool to bring you back to the boudoir. Which is not to suggest that some SPs don’t actually have orgasms with their clients. Some of the providers who post on Perb have spoken about their experiences. But to expect someone to have orgasms with 4-10 men a day is a little unrealistic.

FWIW, the tacit understanding is the SP is paid to focus on your pleasure; if you can find a way for your pleasure and her pleasure intersect, then that for me is a relationship worth cultivating because you have managed to connect on a different level.

From a 2010 NBC story cobbling together a number of scientific studies on fake orgasms:

“women reported using these vocalizations to ‘speed up’ their partner’s ejaculation due to boredom, fatigue, discomfort, time limitations,”

“Importantly, 92 percent of participants felt very strongly that these vocalizations boosted their partner’s self-esteem,”

“In Brewer’s survey, more than 25 percent of women routinely used vocalization to fake it. They did it about 90 percent of the time they realized they would not climax. About 80 percent faked using vocalizations about half the time they were unable to have an orgasm.
Women do this because their men are so goal-directed they won’t stop until a woman climaxes, the authors say.”

“So women vocalize as a way of saying “attaboy” even if they weren’t all that excited. As one woman told Muehlenhard, “I pretended to have an orgasm so that my partner would [finish]. He couldn’t [finish] until I orgasmed.”