Newbie Question re 1st time - Demi/CA

[GR23]

Hi all,

I am a newbie here and to the whole SP thing. Here is a bit about my first experience a few days ago....

I wanted to try the services of Natalie @ CA and had booked it, got there and was shown to a room but then told "she hasn't shown up would you like to try another?". I had heard of bait n switch, but I guess I could have walked but I stayed and took an hour w/Demi.

Well, she was cute enough, and I was somewhat nervous/shy as a first timer. I don't know if this put her off but she really didn't do anything to relax me much. Right away saying things she wasn't into (so i didn't even bother to ask about the Greek isles where I have never been, but apparently from what I have read later she does), which was not encouraging. Anyhow we start with some massage, and then she gives me head but then she notices some bumps on my balls and won't do anymore than the bj, saying she isn't 'comfortable'. Honestly I have no STD's. Now I know I can't prove it, can she prove she doesn't? I am not the most hideous guy, but being a bit older, life has put it's marks on me and I certainly not a perfect body. I just wish I had left when I had the chance, or only paid for 1/2 hour or 45, I would have felt a bit better as I would have liked have had something more than what I got.

Unlike other businesses, I guess there is no recourse here? I should have asked the receptionist(?) about a discount as the one I came for wasn't there? Should I have complained? Now I am discouraged and not sure to bother ever again. I am a very clean, and considerate person, so I felt kind of bad being treated this way. I think as soon as she saw what bothered her she should have spoke up then, as when she was giving me head I said how about climbing on top, and she said "after' you cum from this but after that nothing! Am I wrong or what.

I need other perbs or SP's to share their thoughts, advice or whatever.

Thanks to any of you for your input.

 

[islandguy]

Bumps on the balls. Demi may not be a doctor but I'm sure that anyone in the medical field would have put on gloves and treated you with caution.

 

[planetsmurf]

sorry to hear about your experience but i am kinda glad she was trying to be safe. the last thing i want from a visit to an sp is an STD

 

[GR23]

They are small moles, like some people have on face or other parts of body. I am shaved down there and so they are visible if some on is near there. But I'm sure there are healthy people that some of you may have been with that have them too and may have you just never seen under the hairier coverings.

Anyhow the early polls indicate I'm out of luck so I will have to stick to those who know me.

Too bad for when I was seeking some adventure, but I can understand I guess.

Thanks for the input folks.

 

[GoodKat]

sebaceous cysts

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/menshealth/207663.html

 

[sidewinder]

bumps on balls

...Or they could be genital warts.

A variant of HPV or human papiloma virus. There's a fair amount about this in the health section of PERB. Statistically over 1/2 of sexually active people manifest genital warts sometime in their career.

Most are harmless other than visual. A small fraction carry a virus which causes cancer of the cervix in women.

It's one of the things that you can get even if you wear condoms, because it transfers skin-to-skin. (as does herpes and syphillis)

The usual treatment is having them cauterized off in a clinic or doctor's office with liquid nitrogen.

 

[D.E.M.I]

Apopology to GR23...

I am sorry that you felt like I was put off and didn't do enough to put you at ease. In fact I am a bit surprised, because I like to think I can read people and am very into massage, and other sensual relaxation techniques. Honestly I didn't realize you were nervous or a newbie. Unfortunately Natalie wasn't able to see you, but I happily filled in for her. As for the bumps on your balls. I am no health professional all I know is that when I am unsure of something I don't mess with it. My sexual health is very important to me! I noticed them right away. BUT was still trying to get you to enjoy your happy ending with cbj and covered hand job when you suggested I hop up on it! Normally I would have been on it like white on rice. I guess I should have said something right away, but was trying to be a sweetheart and let you 'finish' without the off putting observations. I hope that all made sense... Have a great day!
xxx DEMI

 

[GR23]

Thanks for all your input, and you too D.E.M.I., though I thought I was pretty clear in my saying `my first time w/SP` and that `I was quite nervous`. I also think as soon as you felt your uncomfort you should have been more honest than saying you would get on top "after I came" (guess I should have known when you said that).

Re. GoodKat/E. Humperdink, from what I googled these aren`t the white things, nor do they look like the herpes ones. Closest is a type of skin tag. I have seen my doctor about them (I have had them for a number of years now, they aren`t increasing or anything, I don`t think of them as active, but more as permanent), and he said to just leave them alone as they are `benign` (I was in relationship at time that he was aware of and he said they are not contagious).

I can understand SPs being concerned, I had just never given it much thought because I had seen the doctor about them, and it`s never bothered any women that I have been involved with (possibly because they were less visible when I has furrier there). So you ladies better look closer at the hairy balls out there!

Anyhow, I might consider the freezing method sidewinder mentioned but don`t look forward to it! (grimace)

This is a bit off topic, but again, as a newbie, I want to say that I think this is a very interesting site (https://perb.cc) and you all express yourselves very well and it seems a quite well spoken group here. I read enough web stuff and it never ceases to amaze me how some of the most mainstream sites (news etc) can attract the most extreme, crazy, badly written, responses that I have yet to find here (and am so glad I haven`t). I`m not saying I expected that here, but having seen so much everywhere else it was noticeable in it`s absence here.

Sorry for the long blab but thanks again to you all.

 

[SirLongShaft]

Re. GoodKat/E. Humperdink, from what I googled these aren't the white things, nor do they look like the herpes ones. Closest is a type of skin tag. I have seen my doctor about them (I have had them for a number of years now, they aren't increasing or anything, I don't think of them as active, but more as permanent),


so to cap the thread, you have an unidentified growth on your balls and u seem upset that an sp wouldnt give you fs, to me demis manner was much more that what most would have given..and id suggest until you get those bumps figured out stick to those you know and those who dont mind guys with bumps all over their balls..lol

 

[Ghostwheel1969]

If you should ever encounter;another seemingly wart-riddled specimen,"When in doubt,don't be shy to walk out.".

Englebert Humperdink

And we'll all of us thank you for it!

GW

 

[Old Lover]

Skin Things

I have a couple of spots on my head and chest that look a little like warts but they are not. A couple of years ago I went to the doctor and had one removed from the top of my head that was being bothered by my hard hat. the doctor said it wasnt a wart but something else not contagious. I think it is an old guy skin thing. Last year my fishing buddy was sitting around camp in his shorts and told me that in the past year he had developed a rash of them up and down his legs. He dosenot hobby. I was last tested last October only a couple of rub and tugs since. Maybe if you carried your full panel test results in your back pocket you could put these ladies at ease if you have these moles. I dont blame these ladies for wanting to be careful.