Need Help ... Please Answer (Condom slipped off during sex)

[Mr. Lux]

I am a complete mess writing this post, early yesterday morning I saw an SP and during sex the condom rolled off without me or her noticing. It was 5-10 minutes thereafter I realized that I was unprotected and had to stop. I do not feel any symptoms atm and 100% am getting a full checkup to make sure I am clean but I am just in fear of the worst. I always play safe, even CBJ never BB, but to have this happen is a such a feeling I can't express. Feel so ashamed right now and am in dire need of advice.

1) When is the best time to get a checkup?

2) What can I do in the short term to neutralize the chances of a virus manifesting?

Please help me in which ever way you can, I am so disgusted I allowed this to happen... Just need some advice if you have anything to share.

Thank you

 

[nickcan]

PEP can also be used to treat people who may have been exposed to HIV during a single event unrelated to work (e.g., during episodes of unprotected sex, needle-sharing injection drug use, or sexual assault).


http://aids.gov/hiv-aids-basics/prevention/reduce-your-risk/post-exposure-prophylaxis/

Sex workers are a higher risk group and if you are paranoid I suggest going to a walk in clinic and asking for PEP.
Odds are very low you got HIV but if you want to improve your odds of not catching anything you might want to take it within 72 hours.

Was she a higher risk SP by that I mean needle marks on arms (low track provider)? I personally think higher end SP's and lower volume reduces your risk somewhat.

Other sti's you can't really do anything about such as HSV & HPV no cure. Chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphillis you have to wait about 6 weeks to make sure you didn't catch anything.

 

[mikehawksbig]

I am a complete mess writing this post, early yesterday morning I saw an SP and during sex the condom rolled off without me or her noticing. It was 5-10 minutes thereafter I realized that I was unprotected and had to stop. I do not feel any symptoms atm and 100% am getting a full checkup to make sure I am clean but I am just in fear of the worst. I always play safe, even CBJ never BB, but to have this happen is a such a feeling I can't express. Feel so ashamed right now and am in dire need of advice.

1) When is the best time to get a checkup?

2) What can I do in the short term to neutralize the chances of a virus manifesting?

Please help me in which ever way you can, I am so disgusted I allowed this to happen... Just need some advice if you have anything to share.

Thank you

It happens. The only symptom you'd feel this soon is anxiety.

Be a grown up and go to the STI clinic at the CDC and they will check for what they can now and advise you. Somethings can't be tested for unless in outbreak, and you generally don't want to take antibiotics unless you know you need them.

No replacing the advice of real specialists for anonymous internet users. There isn't anything you can do yourself to neutralize anything you picked up. I read one dolt here who said that he urinates after sex to "flush out" anything he might have caught.

Don't go fucking around until you get a clean bill of health. If you are married, you've got a prostate infection or urethritis for the next couple weeks.

 

[nickcan]

See this is why you go to a dr. They actually know. My info is that Chlamydia, gonorrhea show symptoms in a few days, it's HIV you have to wait 6 weeks to 6 months for it to show up on tests.

All this stuff is irrelevant, don't waste your time reading different advice from different people and just go to a doctor.

I read that it can take up to six weeks for syphills and chlamydia 2-3 weeks but can take up to 6 weeks.

http://smartsexresource.com/about-stis/types-stis

 

[nickcan]

Wasn't that jesuschrist/normisanass/etc? That guy was a real gem, he took pride in showing me (it was allll his idea, he brought his laptop and an external HD into the coffee shop where we met...I had no idea he was gonna do that!) pics of him barebacking the SP's he "helped". He then asked me for a free session because he was "saving up for a trip."

I wonder if the SP's knew they were getting bareback or he paid extra and they agreed?
My guess is that it's older Asian providers (rimming specialist's) and not as likely to be caucasian SP's.

 

[nickcan]

After you get professional advice try to think about why the condom slipped off. Maybe the lubrication slipped inside, pre cum lubricates the inside or your penis is wider at the base and therefore you can always have concerns with condoms staying on... just to name a few. There are ways to keep safer with experience and being creative. Cockrings over condoms also can help the condoms stay on.
btw ...Good luck ... you aren't ever alone in dealing with these issues

I think the majority of the cases where the condom slips off is from going soft, if a man is fully erect and normal sized the condom doeesn't usually slip off.

 

[mikehawksbig]

Wasn't that jesuschrist/normisanass/etc? That guy was a real gem, he took pride in showing me (it was allll his idea, he brought his laptop and an external HD into the coffee shop where we met...I had no idea he was gonna do that!) pics of him barebacking the SP's he "helped". He then asked me for a free session because he was "saving up for a trip."

He was doing the Lord's work.

 

[Mr. Lux]

Thank you so much for the replies, definitely makes me feel less alone in this horrible situation. Also NO Mike & Badger I will not be seeing any other SP's until I am completely cleared, would never want an SP to have to go through what I am feeling now. I have an appointment booked for this coming Tuesday and pray that everything works out fine. Thank you ladies and gents for your advice and please please PLEASE stay safe out there.

Nick thank you for the links, PEP is something I will definitely learn more about and ask my health care professional on Tuesday, I found this link aswell which gives a concise overview of risks http://www.itsyoursexlife.com/gyt/the-most-common-stds/

Emily thank you for your suggestions and being so comforting, if I am clean and decide to partake in more of this hobby after this experience I will use your suggestions as well as find some others.

 

[leoghaire]

Thank you so much for the replies, definitely makes me feel less alone in this horrible situation. Also NO Mike & Badger I will not be seeing any other SP's until I am completely cleared, would never want an SP to have to go through what I am feeling now. I have an appointment booked for this coming Tuesday and pray that everything works out fine. Thank you ladies and gents for your advice and please please PLEASE stay safe out there.

Nick thank you for the links, PEP is something I will definitely learn more about and ask my health care professional on Tuesday, I found this link aswell which gives a concise overview of risks http://www.itsyoursexlife.com/gyt/the-most-common-stds/

Emily thank you for your suggestions and being so comforting, if I am clean and decide to partake in more of this hobby after this experience I will use your suggestions as well as find some others.

Cancel your appointment for Tuesday. That is way too soon to know if you caught anything or not. You should consider a temporary hiatus of a couple of months just in case

 

[badbadboy]

I am a complete mess writing this post, early yesterday morning I saw an SP and during sex the condom rolled off without me or her noticing. It was 5-10 minutes thereafter I realized that I was unprotected and had to stop. I do not feel any symptoms atm and 100% am getting a full checkup to make sure I am clean but I am just in fear of the worst. I always play safe, even CBJ never BB, but to have this happen is a such a feeling I can't express. Feel so ashamed right now and am in dire need of advice.

1) When is the best time to get a checkup?

2) What can I do in the short term to neutralize the chances of a virus manifesting?

Please help me in which ever way you can, I am so disgusted I allowed this to happen... Just need some advice if you have anything to share.

Thank you

Well Mr Lux, I guess you will have to marry her now

But in all seriousness, relax, get tested and communicate with your SP.

Not sure if you bookmarked this page because all your questions are answered here:

http://smartsexresource.com/what-to-do-if/condom-broke

That's the Health Nurse's web page.

 

[Mr. Lux]

Again thanks guys for all the info, I went to the clinic earlier today and as some of you mentioned it is way to soon to have any kind of testing administered. Was told to come back in 4-6 weeks for 95% accurate testing. The clinic on Knight offers Rapid 1 minute HIV testing aswell as other options such as such as syphilis, chlamydia, ect ect...

Also I was told the chances for males to catch any type of disease through vaginal intercourse is far less than the risks to females. Found that interesting but the reason being is that women have softer and weaker tissue which is more susceptible to bleeding. Just something to note as I was not aware. I never believe BBFS should be offered but to women who are considering it, DON'T... You have much more to lose than your partner.

 

[overdone]

I think the majority of the cases where the condom slips off is from going soft, if a man is fully erect and normal sized the condom doeesn't usually slip off.

it might help if sp's actually bought more than one size/brand of condom

after all they do fit differently, one size/brand doesn't fit all

I've met far too many sp's who only have one kind available

 

[mikehawksbig]

Cancel your appointment for Tuesday. That is way too soon to know if you caught anything or not. You should consider a temporary hiatus of a couple of months just in case

Or don't and go get medical advice from a real doctor. They will tell you when and how you should get tested.

 

[Elle Diablo]

it might help if sp's actually bought more than one size/brand of condom

after all they do fit differently, one size/brand doesn't fit all

I've met far too many sp's who only have one kind available

Or perhaps if you know what brand /size you prefer you could let the lady know or bring a couple of them with you. :thumb:

 

[Elle Diablo]

I won't use condoms that unknown clients bring. I'll certainly go get some if a client notifies me early on.

Good call. I, myself, have never had an issue been brought to my attention of the condoms I provide. So really, I've not had to think outside of the box (pun :eyebrows.

 

[UhOh]

Did anyone suggest the chicken feathers cure?
This has to be performed on a fortnight, you have to burn 12 feathers in the middle of a rural road intersection at 12 o'clock midnight. The feathers must come from a virgin bird but at least one that's never had sex with man will do in a pinch.
Only problem is I can't remember if its midnight local time or GMT. Good luck

 

[lenny]

Also I was told the chances for males to catch any type of disease through vaginal intercourse is far less than the risks to females. Found that interesting

The chance of HIV transmission per a case like yours (vaginal BB sex) is around 1 infection per 1000 times, if the lady is HIV positive.

If she is not HIV positive, then you could not have become infected from that condom failure.

If she was recently tested negative for HIV, the chances of you being infected are about as likely as winning a huge lottery prize. IOW basicly nil.

If you are circumcised, your chances of infection are significantly less.

If she is a provider who adheres to the "everything covered" doctrine, then your main health concern ATM should probably be anxiety.

 

[UhOh]

His main health concern is herpes

 

[CLUB78]

The chance of HIV transmission per a case like yours (vaginal BB sex) is around 1 infection per 1000 times, if the lady is HIV positive.

If she is not HIV positive, then you could not have become infected from that condom failure.

If she was recently tested negative for HIV, the chances of you being infected are about as likely as winning a huge lottery prize. IOW basicly nil.

If you are circumcised, your chances of infection are significantly less.

If she is a provider who adheres to the "everything covered" doctrine, then your main health concern ATM should probably be anxiety.

This and Melody's advice to see a doctor. Plus, the main concern is blood. But then ask, where is the blood? Women sometimes bleed from their vagina, so viral loads will vary according to where she is her cycle, if she has a virus.

Also, don't forget about gingivitis. Bleeding gums means blood in your mouth, penis, where ever else, so it's also a good idea to see people with good oral hygiene.

 

[summerbreeze]

His main health concern is herpes

Hepatitis could be a concern as well but I think you have to let go of the fear and anxiety and accept that there is a low probability of catching something and that there are all sorts of venues where disease can be transmitted unintentionally in everyday life and just relax and let your fate unfold.

Dentist office, medical clinic, food stands, public washrooms, restaurants, social gatherings, (just shaking hands), crowded aircraft/long flight are all venues where people can pick up something from another person. Maybe its not sexually transmitted. So if you want to be a worrier, there are all kinds of thinks you can speculate about.

Most people just do their best to take precautions and accept that there is little chance from a probability perspective of the occasional and random unprotected contact with someone.