My first time...some of us aren't cut out for this.

[Phyn]

So last week I went to an AMP for my first FS experience...asked for someone who had been recommended here.
From the moment she walked through the door she was fantastic. First of all, she was exactly my dream woman in every way...so beautiful, so sweet, so funny... real girlfriend material. She made me feel entirely welcome and was so warm and humorous that any jitters immediately evaporated. Yeah I know...it's what she does for a living, right? But I felt an instant connection and once we talked for a few minutes seemed to be liking me a lot too. I can be damned charming when my Irish is up.
It was disorienting. My rational mind knew that I was paying for her attention and that she was very good at giving it fully. But as the minutes went by and we talked and touched each other, my heart started doing little flip flops.
We very quickly moved from an excellent traditional massage to total naked fun. I won't bore you with details, but we both enjoyed it greatly, and I loved pleasing her as much as she did me. Her body produced an extreme response to my attention (a long, long round of DATY) that she claimed rarely occurred. There was cuddling and pillow talk and all that mushy stuff.
She really seemed to like me, said many flattering things about me, and there was no way to tell if the heart connection was an illusion or not. It didn't matter. What she gave me was priceless, regardless of the depth of her sincerity. She is a person with whom I could enjoy spending many hours, simply as a friend. I don't meet many women I respond that strongly to...and I do meet quite a few women. It's not like I don't get sex elsewhere if I want it...but I don't know anyone like her.
I walked away thinking I just had to see her again and very soon. This could be addictive...I could seriously get attached to this woman. I think maybe I lack the ability to compartmentalize my emotions in a way that seems to be necessary to enjoy what some of you refer to as The Hobby.
She asked me to come and see her again soon. I'm not sure I can stay away, but I can't afford to be a regular....and my heart is seriously at risk. Guess I'm too emotional for this game.
What a girly-boy I am, and proud of it! Hahaha!

 

[The Lizard King]

1) This should be in the Review section

2) Don't get too carried away...yet. On the surface, she's a great actress and you got your money's worth. But, I guess you never know, anything can happen. Right? Sure but don't count on it.

3) Yes, you are a girly-boy

 

[Phyn]

1) Review? I thought of it more as a confession...but let the mods decide, I guess

2) Yes I'm an idiot, as you imply...but not so stupid as to think that this report reflects anything but my subjective experience of the session. She is a professional, an actress if you will, and I understand and respect that. The point of the story is that this rational understanding has little impact on my emotional response.

3) I might be a lesbian trapped in a man's body.

 

[The Lizard King]

No, no, no. You're not an idiot, I'm just implying that the chances are vastly against anything beyond a client - SP relationship. If it works out that you beat the odds and something comes of it, and you're happy with it, then that's great. Didn't mean it to be perceived as derogatory in any way.

 

[Phoenix]

This not a review. No names were mentioned and Phyn's problem is the emtional attachment he finds while playing in this hobby.

"I could seriously get attached to this woman" as you said and she could just as easily get attached to your money. You are correct, it is what she does for a living and by the sounds of your post she is very good at it.

It sounds like you are very lucky to find this SP as your first experience.

 

[wolverine]

Some pooners have asked how to tell if an SP has an interest in you outside of the SP/client relationship.

My advice to that is to go her a couple more times, so that a comfort zone is established and you get to know each other. If she still likes you well enough, ask her if she wants to meet you for a coffee or a drink. The worst thing that can happen is that she says 'No thanks, I don't date clients'.

 

[Phyn]

LK, I truly took no offense at your comments. Thanks.

I am thankful to this board for providing a forum for an honest exchange of experiences, opinions, and information. Reviews posted here led me to this wonderful woman who provided me with comfort and pleasure when I really needed it.

And yes, I was lucky to meet her...I'm grateful for an experience I will never forget.

Now excuse me while I go find a girlfriend so I can stop pining like a lost puppy.

 

[hugedman]

Phyn

I wonder which AMP was this than can provide such beautiful lady who you are attracted to dearly...?

 

[Storm]

If you're an emotional individual

Who is easily led by his heart my best advice to you Phyn is to stay as far away from her as you can.

 

[hitrack]

Go for it, and I hope it works out because every pooner should date a SP and vice versa just so each one can come to the conclusion this was a rocks in my head idea from the start. That way you only got hit by the bus once to know it hurts.

 

[azen]

my gawd........y'all comment on the girlzzzz gettin' all jaded and stuff. wow...i didn't know so many of you had first hand experience at fallin' for someone and them fallin' for your money ook...women in general don't do this?...like men don't do their quirky things, and so on and so on and so on............pft! well thank you for being so informative. you MUST be all correct in what you ASS-U-ME.
thank you...azen

 

[dakota30]

Phyn is right on a couple of counts. This hobby is not cut out for everyone and it is more of an observation/confession than a review.

The reality is it's not for everyone.

Most women in general couldn't do it without feeling dirty, used, slutty, etc. It takes a strong woman to be an SP and walk away with her head up afterwards and leave the baggage behind. Most of the women here meet that criteria, I think.

It also takes a strong man to spend time with a warm and affectionate SP and walk away with his shoulders squared and think nothing more than 'damn!, that was a great f*ck', rather than 'hmm, she is so nice, I wonder if she wants to marry me and have my babies?'.

What it is is what it is. My 2 cents.

 

[dakota30]

And to add to this, no offense Phyn. I don't mean to imply that you are weak. You're just not wired to walk it off, and that's not necessarily a bad thing. Some people can handle east indian food, some can't. Some can handle skydiving, some can't...and so on. It doesn't make you any less a person, it's just not the thing for you. It's all good, I wish you well.

 

[captnsavaho]

Doodz! This is soo interesting. Let me step into the box and confess my sins.

Damn 18yr old on the stroll at Kings Cross and some blonde woman of my visual dreams in a slinky outfit lures me into her club and takes away my virginity. Damn Sydney rules the roost for poon-yata! This SP was so into the fact that she was here to take away some kids virginity she got her friend in on the act (for no extra and a 1hr session turned into 3 as I literally had no idea what I was doing ie. damn, I thought tits were a little firmer and whoa- damn that feels like heaven!). Anyways, turned out that my life turned from good christian private school boy to lower level SP support staff.

It's damn exciting getting into all this industry has to offer- so many good looking wonderfully strong women and everyone having a good time? What more is there to life- well back to reality, there are the personal relationshps we have to tend to. It is hard to seperate where the money ends and reality hits. Maybe it doesn't?

 

[Phyn]

Thanks all for your thoughtful comments.
The woman in question is definitely not jaded or mercenary. We shared a couple of beautiful, bittersweet moments that I will cherish. She said the same, and I absolutely believe her. Just because she makes a living from sex, does not mean she is hardened.
For other reasons that I will not discuss (it's complicated), I cannot offer her what my heart wants to. I made that clear, and we parted as loving friends. The business arrangement was quite separate from all that. My feelings were not just a result of the sex, which was very good but not the best ever. It's just that she is so perfect.
Some day she is going to make some lucky man very, very happy...assuming he is smart enough to look beyond any prejudice about her career choices and see the golden heart that she carries within her.

 

[gp67]

Don't feel bad Phyn. I've been there and learned a very hard, painful lesson myself. You can't confuse a nice client connection for a personal relationship. Not to knock the ladies, most of the ones I've met are very fine people. I know a few very closely and they have their own circle of friends and they aren't clients. I mean real friends, not business friends. Big diff.

A lot of guys meet a provider who they really click with. It's easy to want them to be a GF who provides a SPE. Reality check: it doesn't work that way. There's a reason you leave a donation at the door.

Good luck.

 

[Chef]

I agree with gp67

Phyn, you'll get over it. What happened to Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman doesn't happen in real life. I've met some SPs who are very nice people, maybe I'm wrong, but the bottom line is, it's all business.

By the way, what's a SPE?

 

[gp67]

SPE: Service Provider Experience. Used to make the point.

 

[Pan]

There are no hard and fast rules.
I dated an SP for some time (no, we met through outside influences) and she was my introduction into the Hobby. I once commented that I would like to see one of her co-workers naked, and she said "You can...for sixty bucks." (This was some time ago.) Suffice to say, it was money well spent.
These days I see certain SP's based on elements of character, wit, chemistry and physical fantasy fulfillment. A couple of these lovely ladies I consider friends, and have seen socially, but we are both well aware of the nature of the relationship. She is a gifted professional plying her trade, and I am a lecherous bastard who enjoys sport fucking with beautiful young girls. (A resource that my charms no longer provide in the wild...)
There is no reason that ones professional arrangements cannot be conducted in the spirit of friendship and mutual respect. I am friends with my lawyer and my mechanic as well, though I don't get to see them naked.
It is all a matter of how you relate to the women in your life. Some men are able to have platonic relationships with beautiful women, some are not.
To my delight, I am.