my babies are back today...

[edmontonsubbie]

....and I know they miss me. That's not bragging or imagining things...I just know they miss me. Lord knows I miss them.

We all have family, relations, whatever.....how do you keep the vanilla seperate from the chocolate? I have had some experience in just dropping a "hint" or two to the one I'm chatting with...and finding that there is a spark of interest. Obviously not enough of a spark to find what I seek....but a spark all the same.

So, the question will be....how do you...if you even bother....manage to seperate your vanilla life from your D/s life? Perhaps this is just an indulgence and that's cool too. For me...definitely not....I seek the full meal deal and to my own peril...but, at least I have clarity. I've come close a time or two and that's likely more than most can say. I will be satisfied with that if "that" is all that I find.

kindest,

eddie.

p.s....i reread this and it makes no sense...but i will push publish anyway...because it does.

 

[dan1]

real meal deal

Eddie

The real meal deal is something you find at a take out place. It costs about $4.00 - and it is (sadly) only worth that much. Madison Avenue - thanks for cheapening the food experience.

I have had two long term relationships. Neither woman was interested in BDSM. They were both really fine people and BDSM was not what drove us apart.

I have come to the conclusion that you cannot expect one person to provide everything in your life - sex, love, humour, compassion, personal psychologist, den mother, out - door enthusiast, traveler etc.

For better or worst, and it might be Clintonian, I have managed to persuade myself that it is okay to have the ocassional foray into BDSM. As much as I enjoy it, I limit it.

You need to do what you need to do, but having said that, I don't know why you need to divilge all your secrets.

cheers

dan

 

[edmontonsubbie]

hey dan....very good points and thank you for them. While I can't promise nor would fail to interject my personal thought processes as I comment on things....I can and certainly will stop with the personal aspects of my life that have absolutely no business on here.

Thanks man....now where's the rest of that Dominique review????

kindest,

eddie.

 

[dan1]

response to eddie

Hi Eddie

Please accept my apologies....

I did not mean for you to interprete my last line as meaning "I don't understand why you divulge all your secrets on this forum" .

Instead, I meant that perhaps you should consider not revealing all your secrets to everyone you love.

Personally, I think that each person you know and care for can hopefully share a certain aspect or aspects of your personality. It is impossible to expect one person to understand and fully accept all of the intricate facets that make up who you are.

I may get lots of flack for the following comment but - I don't believe that the urge(s) that drive our interest in BDSM is well understood even by alot of the participants (god knows I have spent a fair bit of time reading texts and wondering about myself ) . If many of us do not really understand ourselves, then asking someone whose knowledge and experience are pretty much vanilla to understand and fully accept your BDSM interests much less participate, is I think, a pretty big expectation.

However, back to the main point, please ponder/muse/write on. I appreciate the thoughtfulness of your posts. If we can not discuss the relationship between BDSM and the balance of our lives on this forum - where can we?

cheers

dan