Mom indicted for hiring stripper for son

[yogi]

‘It didn’t harm him,’ mother says of effect on 16-year-old sonThe Associated Press
Updated: 5:32 a.m. ET May 29, 2005NASHVILLE, Tenn. - A mother faces criminal charges after she hired a stripper to dance at her 16-year-old son’s birthday party.

Anette Pharris, 34, has been indicted by a grand jury on charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor and involving a minor in obscene acts. The boy’s father, the stripper and two others also face charges.

“I tried to do something special for my son,” Pharris said. “It didn’t harm him.”

About 10 people under the age of 18 were at the birthday party in September, including minors who were not related to the family, authorities said.

Police spokesman Don Aaron said minors are not permitted in adult establishments.

“A person shouldn’t be allowed to circumvent that law by hiring a stripper, a lady who took all her clothes off and spent a good amount of time dancing around minors,” he said.

Anette Pharris took photos at the party and tried to have them developed at a nearby drug store. Drug store employees notified authorities, police said.

“Who are they to tell me what I can and can’t show to my own children?” the mother said.

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Seeing as she was knocked up with the kid at 17, she probably isn't the best mom in the first place, but it sounds as if her heart's in the right place. I mean, how is this any different from taking him to an R-rated movie? It's not as if she hired an SP! (Wish I had that for my 16th!)

 

[tom25]

Wish I'd had a mom like that!!!

Tom

 

[Cock Throppled]

What - porn isn't good enough for her kid? I might have thought this was great when I was 16, and it may not harm him (it's probably a lot better than letting him play Grand Theft Auto), but at 16 does a boy need MORE stimulation? At 16 I'd get a hard on licking a stamp. The harm here is probably the way he perceives women - and more so - how his mother and father see women.

 

[chiefwiggum]

At 16 I'd get a hard on licking a stamp.

Wow - what was on those stamps?

 

[sirlickheralot]

Farking Puritanical Nazi's should take their heads out of their as*es

The reality is that by 16 this kid and many of his peers are probably already sexually active. I doubt if the sight of a naked woman dancing is going to corrupt him. If she had of bought him a firearm for his 16 th birthday nobody would have made a peep and the right wing morality nazi's would consider her a fine upstanding mother. But God forbid that she allows her son to see something as 'disgusting' as a naked woman, that grounds for tarring and feathering her. What a farking twisted society that glorifies guns and villifies nudity.

 

[chiefwiggum]

The reality is that by 16 this kid and many of his peers are probably already sexually active. I doubt if the sight of a naked woman dancing is going to corrupt him. If she had of bought him a firearm for his 16 th birthday nobody would have made a peep and the right wing morality nazi's would consider her a fine upstanding mother. But God forbid that she allows her son to see something as 'disgusting' as a naked woman, that grounds for tarring and feathering her. What a farking twisted society that glorifies guns and villifies nudity.

Don't think either a gun (unless the kid's a sport target shooter, or a legitimate outdoorsman) or a stripper is an appropriate gift for a 16 year old.

Yeah, he may be sexually active, but hiring an exotic dancer for your child's birthday is, at the very best, in poor taste.

 

[sirlickheralot]

Don't think either a gun (unless the kid's a sport target shooter, or a legitimate outdoorsman) or a stripper is an appropriate gift for a 16 year old.

Yeah, he may be sexually active, but hiring an exotic dancer for your child's birthday is, at the very best, in poor taste.

I think its in much poorer taste for parents to buy their children kiddie memberships for the NRA, or for parents to buy their children firearms, however neither of these things are illegal.

If you don't want your kids to see stippers, porn, etc don't allow them to see it, but I don't think the state should be allowed to arrest parents who allow their children to see these things just because someone else thinks its in poor taste. My mom allowed me to read playboy and watch R rated movies when I was younger and I didn't turn into a seriel killer or rapist.

I think its pretty twisted when a society thinks its okay for parents to glorify and indoctrinate their children into the gun culture but labels them as criminals for allowing a young man on the verge of adulthood to see a naked woman.

 

[chiefwiggum]

So how young can the kid for hiring a stripper to still be okay? 15? 14? 13? Some kids are sexually active at 11 or 12 - how about then? Who gets to decide at what age it's appropriate?

The parents? Okay, maybe parents should decide when it's okay for kids to drive. Or drink. Or own guns. Or everything.

Not saying the mom should be in jail - but some things are just not okay.

 

[yogi]

"Not being offended" isn't one of your rights!

Things I don't like:
Parents who teach their kids to hate those of other races, nations, & religions.
Violent video games.
Obese people in tight and/or revealing clothes.
Song lyrics that are violent & degrading to women.
Crackpot religions that teach people that sex & our bodies are evil.
Teenage girls who snap bubble gum in their mouths (the smell of bubble gum also disgusts me).
Rap/hip-hop music.
People who try to convert me to their religion.
Doctors overmedicating people.

Yeah, I don't like these things & many more, but you know what? That's tough titties for me. I don't have the right to not be offended. That's the price of living in a free society. There will be aspects of it that rub us the wrong way. Too bad, so sad.

If we were to outlaw everything that's wrong, bad, or in poor taste, we'd be even more buried in laws than we are now.

 

[sirlickheralot]

So how young can the kid for hiring a stripper to still be okay? 15? 14? 13? Some kids are sexually active at 11 or 12 - how about then? Who gets to decide at what age it's appropriate?

The parents? Okay, maybe parents should decide when it's okay for kids to drive. Or drink. Or own guns. Or everything.

Not saying the mom should be in jail - but some things are just not okay.

Driving - On public roads is a public safety issue therefore the state has the right to impose restrictions.
-On private property parents should be allowed to teach their children at a younger age if they choose. My cousins grew up on a large farm and learned to drive their dads truck so they could help with the chores.

Drinking - In public keep the current age limit
-15 and under parents shouldn't be allowed to give their children alcohol as it has been proven to affect brain development in young people.
-16 and older parents should be allowed to serve their own children alcohol in their own home if they choose.

Gun Ownership -I'd never any kid of mine own a gun but I wouldn't arrest someone if they allowed their child to own a gun. I would make a proper training program mandatory though.

Strippers, Porn, etc - It should be up to the parents at what age they allow their children to learn about sex and the human body. If you arrest parents for allowing their children to see a stripper, then what about nudists who take their children to nude beaches and resorts, should we arrest them to. I personally don't believe in teaching children that sex and nudity are obscene and are something to be ashamed of. I don't think people like you should be allowed to force other parents to pass your puritanical sexual hangups onto their children. Some sex educators believe it is never too early to teach children about sex.

-I don't have a problem with age restrictions for entering public strip clubs and R rated movies.

 

[_Ruffian_]

world's greatest mom.


enough said.

 

[lenharper]

No, it is never too early to teach children about sex.

But, I think it must be said that showing kid's porn is not teaching them about sex -- it is showing them what the male based fantasy of sex is. I know very few women who actually orgasm without serious manual stimulation when engaged in anal sex -- but according to porn this is a normal occurance. I know very few women who orgasm (or desire) a full on facial come shot but it is derigour (sic) in pornography, shit women in porn scream for more when a guy shoots on thier tits or ass. It ain't real and to show this to kids and try and say it is real is wrong -- for borth men and women and that has nothing to do with puritanical views of sex. it is just misleading confusing bullshit for young people of both sexes.

 

[wolverine]

Drinking - In public keep the current age limit
-15 and under parents shouldn't be allowed to give their children alcohol as it has been proven to affect brain development in young people.
-16 and older parents should be allowed to serve their own children alcohol in their own home if they choose.

In some European countries, children learn how to drink wine at a young age...not sure how young, but definitely younger than 15. How brain-damaged are they?

If I was that kid, I would have thought that the stripper was cool...but I would have been seriously weirded out if she was hired by my mom.

 

[Herb_The_Perb]

Strippers, Porn, etc - It should be up to the parents at what age they allow their children to learn about sex and the human body. If you arrest parents for allowing their children to see a stripper, then what about nudists who take their children to nude beaches and resorts, should we arrest them to. I personally don't believe in teaching children that sex and nudity are obscene and are something to be ashamed of. I don't think people like you should be allowed to force other parents to pass your puritanical sexual hangups onto their children. Some sex educators believe it is never too early to teach children about sex.

I second the motion.

 

[Arizona40]

Your missing part of the picture

“I tried to do something special for my son,” Pharris said. “It didn’t harm him.”

About 10 people under the age of 18 were at the birthday party in September, including minors who were not related to the family, authorities said.

Weather she has or has not the right to show her 16 yr old son porn is questionable but where does she think she has the right showing porn to children that are not hers?

 

[sirlickheralot]

Weather she has or has not the right to show her 16 yr old son porn is questionable but where does she think she has the right showing porn to children that are not hers?

I do agree that she doesn't have the right to expose children that aren't her own to a stripper, unless of course the other parents were aware that a stripper was going to be present and didn't have a problem with it. I think its common courtesy to ask permission before exposing someones children to something they might find objectionable. Even if she didn't have permission I don't think its a serious enough offence to warrant an arrest.

 

[Kev]

This women was so far out of line in her actions, but if i was her son i'm thinking this is to cool. (As a mature adult i can say that now.)

If i was a parent there is no way in hell i would expose my 16 year old son to strippers. I wouldn't shelter him either, but sex isn't the thing he should be thinking about. I know its on his mind, but i would prefer to divert his attention elsewhere, like sports or....the ballet. (I'm kidding)

One of the problems i see and hasn't been addressed yet is..... the son to the best of my knowledge didn't request female strippers at his party. (Maybe hes gay?) What happens when we forse situations on children and there not ready to deal with it? A whole lot of shit thats what. Are we going to here form this kid 5 years from now, how he was traumatized from this whole event that it lead him to rape someone?

We can say that won't happen. Unfortunately it does, and to frequently i say.

 

[DJLAW]

ok, lets put it this way, how old were you when you first went to a strip club? the first time i went into one i was 17. of course, i got kicked out. the next time i went into one and didnt get kicked out i was 19. some of my friends however, were 17 and didnt get kicked out. what is the difference between 16 and 17? guys dont need their moms to see strippers. why charge a woman who did what the kid was gonna do anyways?

 

[sirlickheralot]

Are we going to here form this kid 5 years from now, how he was traumatized from this whole event that it lead him to rape someone?

We can say that won't happen. Unfortunately it does, and to frequently i say.

Actually Kev studies have shown that the majority of serial rapists are brought up in sexually repressed homes. Society probably has more to fear from some kid whose parents are bible-thumping prudes than from this kid. Numerous studies have shown that sexually repressed societies tend to have highter rates of crime and violence.

Unfortunately the US attitude towards sex seems to be regressing. They slash funding for sex education and increase funding for abstinence programs. They vote against a UN resolution to fund a global AIDS education and prevention program because it allows health workers to discuss condom use rather than just abstinence. It shows you how repressed and regressive the US is becoming that the only countries to vote with the US were Iraq, Iran, Sudan, Libya, Syria and the Vatican.

 

[BobbiVan]

No, it is never too early to teach children about sex.
I know very few women who orgasm (or desire) a full on facial come shot but it is derigour (sic) in pornography, shit women in porn scream for more when a guy shoots on thier tits or ass. It ain't real and to show this to kids and try and say it is real is wrong -- .

Well... I may not Orgasm with a facial... but to tell you the truth... ... I love it!!

I grew up watching porn. I never thought that it was all REAL, or RIGHT, but it looked like fun.... and when I tried it out for myself, it WAS fun... trial and error folks...