men who see sp's would they make good husbands

[sevenofnine]

just to be fare i thought i would start this,
i made some i guess not very popular comments in the thread about dating sps
so here is is.

i have lived a double life since i started this almost ten years now. lied to my wife kids. hid money and finances lied about it,

i don't see me or a man who does this, as a good catch
given the same circumstances or something similiar i would do it again.
it made sense to me, i had my reasons still do
but still i have lived a lie for ten years.
is that someone you want to live with for the rest of your life with.


any way im not interested in a relationship
if i found myself single tomorrow
the last thing i would do is look for a women to spend the rest of my life with.
simply not interested,
been there done that as they say. never again.

but still,
i will throw it out there
do you think married men who see sps would make a good husband
or a man in general who sees sps how much would you trust him to be your soul mate.

 

[uncleg]

If your hobby/addiction did not deprive your wife and kids of anything other than honesty, why worry about it ?

 

[InTheBum]

Let's face it...if you get married and poon... you are a piece of shit!!

Also, you will burn in hell for eternity!

 

[CisForCookie]

After reading this post, I almost wanted to quit the hobby and take up knitting.

Uhhh *NOT*

Married men who don't see SPs don't neccessarily make better husbands than those that do. Tons of dead beat dads and abusive boyfriends out there.

 

[poorboyv6]

I see sp's, and I would make a great husband. I would definitely stop hobbying if I enter into a healthy monogamous relationship.

 

[TheEmpress]

I think the way you are.. Married to another woman, is perfect. You get to spend wonderful time with the person, with out the reality of life. Best of all at the end of the day, the two people go their separate ways. My toilet seat is down in the middle of the night, and I have plenty of closet space I think many marriages would work better if each had their own home, or one of those plyg houses, house within a home.. Get-a-way, people need space

 

[Puddlegurl]

Hmmm, interesting thread, You post "Men who see SP's , would they make good husbands?"

"Married men who see SP's are of a different situation then just "men" in general.

Personally I would not get into a monogamous relationship with a married man who saw SP's because I know eventually he would see them again and is a master of deception. Let's face it, men HATEconfrontation so if a married man can get his needs met by an escort/SP and still come home to a happy functioning home , what's the harm?

As a woman, I do know the harm. Eventually, you will HAVE to deal with you're unhappy bedroom. I think alot of woman know their hubby's are straying but they are straying themselves so don't want to ask any questions.

Men would rarely ever know their woman are cheating as we are the master's of planning, covering tracks and most have worked through all the "what-ifs" long before we get naked.

I hear men say all the time "She won't do this, or that, or just doesn't like this or that." I always giggle and think either " Have you even asked her?" or "well, don't worry she'll do it for the guy she's talking to online " , maybe the ex she's reconnected with on Facebook??

Men are men, since the beginning of time you've been hunters and love the rush of the conquest and thats why I'm so attracted to you all.
With all that said, I do also have clients whom wives know and encourage their pooning as they are best friends and content with the non-sexual nature of their relationship, more like life long companions.

Single men who poon I think is fantastic that you're mature enough to get your needs met and not prey on lonely woman who are looking for "Strings"
I would definatly get involved with a single pooner if we fell in love. Especially if he's played with a few differnt ladies, sampled per say and still returned to me as I would feel much more relaxed knowing he has sampled and I was still "all that" to him

IMO XOXOXO

just to be fare i thought i would start this,
i made some i guess not very popular comments in the thread about dating sps
so here is is.

i have lived a double life since i started this almost ten years now. lied to my wife kids. hid money and finances lied about it,

i don't see me or a man who does this, as a good catch
given the same circumstances or something similiar i would do it again.
it made sense to me, i had my reasons still do
but still i have lived a lie for ten years.
is that someone you want to live with for the rest of your life with.


any way im not interested in a relationship
if i found myself single tomorrow
the last thing i would do is look for a women to spend the rest of my life with.
simply not interested,
been there done that as they say. never again.

but still,
i will throw it out there
do you think married men who see sps would make a good husband
or a man in general who sees sps how much would you trust him to be your soul mate.

 

[laurel love]

You can get a lot of mileage out of guilt!!

That is knowledge gained as a kid from listening to the married women chatting when they didn't know I was there.

They knew. Yes, they sure did, and, that was how they managed to negotiate better situations, ya might say.

Give me an honest reprobate before a self righteous abstainer any day.

All that perfection is hard to stare at every day, but, the fellow who may stray about periodically is, at least, human.

As long as he stays clean and keeps me happy, well, actually, I would be out helping myself too, right?

Why are we married again?

 

[TPH]

Pretty stupid if you ask me unless you have a woman that likes swinging and stuff. Mine likes that and I really don't care if she gets pounded by another guy. She don't care if I go out and pound another chick. But I admit, I don't tell her about my SW stuff. If a hoe wanted a loving man that just cared about her she would be stupid to date a pooner. Once you taste the sweetness of paid pussy you can't ever go back. Paid pussy is too easy.

 

[RacerCarl]

I think it all boils down to your own sense of morality. In Japan, a married man can have an extra-marital affair as long as he pays for it with money and not love. It's just an accepted part of life there that men are not designed to be fully monogamous.

That being said, my own morality says that if you have to lie to your wife to hide what you are doing then you aren't a very good person. If you're open about it, and you have a wife that accepts it(happens more often than you might think), then there is nothing wrong with it.

 

[CisForCookie]

Bottom line is.....it depends what your view on life is and how you see people (s) in general so there is no real answer to this.
Morals, upbringing, life's peer pressure or many bad relationships can come into play imo.

Speaking for myself......honestly....I had a great upbringing and respect people as a whole. Why I see escorts is simple....

I had a lot of bad relationship in my life and convinced myself that some people are meant to be single. So.....having said that, I see Sp' s because ..............by choice............I am single and thats it.

But I can honestly say this because I know myself as a person and that is........if I was in a relationship I would NOT be seeing escorts!! Plain and simple.

Id rather work hard at it and try working things out if problems arose.

WOW...the similarity is uncanny...

Gotta add, that my mom didn't hug me enough as a child... but I'll save that for my sessions on the couch with my shrink in the future.

In all seriousness though, SPs make it POSSIBLE to be happily single and to my grandma's dismay I love being care-free and single

I still have a EI princess, black amazon goddess, a midget, mile high club membership, 2M1F and 1M2F in my bucketlist before I can possibly even CONSIDER settling down...

 

[shyboy123]

I like to see escorts because I don't have time to invest in a serious relationship right now in my life, and I don't have any friends with benefits at the moment. I think if and when I do decide to settle down I would make a great husband, and I don't think I would need to see an escort if I had a wife (I hope!). I do enjoy the thrill of booking and meeting a girl for the first time, and I admit the wonderful variety keeps me from choosing a regular so far.

While this is obviously a self serving male perspective, I would hold a lot more respect for husband that saw escorts discreetly rather than being a complete dog and chasing girls publicly and having mistresses on the side etc. I think that is so much more disrespectful both to the wife and to the girlfriend who maybe doesn't know the terd is married?

 

[vancity_cowboy]

i have lived a double life since i started this almost ten years now. lied to my wife kids. hid money and finances lied about it,

i don't see me or a man who does this, as a good catch

and i would have to agree with you

 

[*trinity]

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Personally I would not get into a monogamous relationship with a married man who saw SP's because I know eventually he would see them again and is a master of deception.

That is my opinion exactly. You said it perfectly.

 

[CJ Tylers]

AFAIC, if a guy can be open & honest with his wife/SO & she's not upset by it (truly not upset, as opposed to the "I'm fine" line...)... then I don't see why not. However, you have to understand that it is still cheating... it's easy to sugar coat it, but it's still really what it comes down to. If the wife/SO would be upset by a guy continuing to see sp's, then he should really decide what he wants more, SP's or SO's.

 

[InnocentBoy]

Uh dont know what kind of men you deal with, but women are by far the ones who dont deal well with confrontations. It's practically instilled on them by nature.

Personally I would not get into a monogamous relationship with a married man who saw SP's because I know eventually he would see them again and is a master of deception. Let's face it, men HATEconfrontation so if a married man can get his needs met by an escort/SP and still come home to a happy functioning home , what's the harm?

 

[BrokeBastard]

The biggest reason I think it's wrong for a married man to see an SP is because there's always a risk catching a STD. When you choose to sleep around you take the risk of catching something, but your partner shouldn't be exposed to the risk.

 

[Puddlegurl]

Uh dont know what kind of men you deal with, but women are by far the ones who dont deal well with confrontations. It's practically instilled on them by nature.

I deal with EVERY kind of man

 

[Puddlegurl]

Hell, we don't wanna hear about your SW stuff.....don't imagine she would either.

I second that...

 

[dreamer222]

For different take on this. For some older married pooners relationships with SPs may actually keep marriages together. After many years of marriage even in relationships that started off sexually exciting/fulfilling the passion cools. Not infrequently one partner (in this example the wife) stops trying (kids, work, tired, etc.) and sex becomes a chore and a "duty". When this occurs the husband's choices are: to keep raising the issue (and fight about how it is not good enough), give up and watch his own sexually extinguish, find a new "relationship" with a non SP (which if one is successful will probably lead to divorce), or stay married and maintain the positive parts of the marriage while seeking sexual fulfillment with a SP. This last approach has historic roots. In many cultures and time periods, it was normal not to expect that one person to be everything and, for men who could afford it at least, it was normal to have a mistress where he could explore his need for passion. I know from my discussions with SPs that many of their regular clients report this as their situation.