Married SP's

[Oh_Claire]

some of the thoughts you guys dish out are so deep... Wow. I guess I will never really know what will happen in my own life, I dont' think I could ever tell someone about this hobby of mine

In the case that the roles would be reversed... yes I would be jealous, but I'd rather not know. I would never want to find out, or hear about it, or hear a confession, just don't ever tell me.
I'm the kind of person that pretends everything is ok in the world and that makes my day happier.
I don't feel guilt, but I feel compassion. I'm also a huge hypocrite and a possessive/jealous person.
I don't want my SO to look at other women, I want to be the centre of his universe. I don't know, that's just the way I am on my own.
That's maybe one of the several reasons why I am no good in relationships
its not that I'm a liar, I just often bend the truth to avoid akward situations.

Oh look at me rambling again.

I haven't slept and it's hot and muggy, I'm in Barbados supposed to be having fun and I'm trying to stir things up on PERB when I should be with Emma having a pina colada... !!!

Ok I'm a bad girl, someone spank me and tell me to go back to my holiday.

You know what, everyone, thank you so much, you are wonderful! I am addicted to chatting with you all you're so much fun.

Can't wait to see you all again, I'm going to try really hard not to waste my vacation on a PC!

 

[Sixpak]

any time I"ve had relationships I've kept it a secret. I think that anybody would react in a negative fashion, your wife, my SO, whatever?

I don't think I could ever tell someone I was dating about what I do, nor do I think I could confess my current lifestyle to someone I wanted to marry 20 years down the road, I mean, why hurt his feelings if he doesn't need to know?
Why ruin it?

I always said that Claire is awesome!!! What she states makes sense too ... only drawback is if the mate ever finds out....then there has to be a lot of explaining and understanding. It would be ideal if the person never had to know, otherwise there might be 'visions', impressions, etc lingering in the back of his mind. If he really loves you then he should understand. Some types would never understand though, especially the jealous types you mentioned. So, to really love a person, do you have to know everything about their past? (Not in my opinion)

 

[Oh_Claire]

hey sixpack, wanna get married?
so what do you do for a living
funny you should ask. I have a great desk job. executive assistant for XYZ company.
really? that's cool. me too.
let's go to vegas.

 

[Lady Companion]

I'm from the 'honest is the ONLY policy' camp....

at least as far as mates go. I know there are ladies out there who are married and have partners who are unaware - and please realize that I am by no means judging them.

My personal opinion on the matter is that anybody in my personal life needs to know of my alternate profession. If I am going to be intimate with somebody, or if a relationship is progressing to the point where I see there is potential for our hearts to get involved (not necessarily the guy you just go out with for fun a couple of times and never get physically or emotionally involved with) then IMHO they need to know. I can't fathom a relationship getting to the point of me wanting to spend my life with a man and him not knowing I work, or have worked, as an escort. That simply isn't fair in my eyes.

Some men will be able to handle it while it is going on, others will be able to handle it if it was a part of your past, and still others won't be able to handle it at all. Whichever category they fit into, they should know before their hearts get tangled.

There are a host of wonderful benefits which come with being a courtesan, however one of the major downfalls is the potential relationship problems which may come up. For us, it is a calculated risk, but it is one we need to be open about.

I don't know about you, but I get enough positive regard, approval and 'love' as LC. That is only a part of who I am. I want and need anybody in my personal life to love me for ALL of me (and that includes the part I play as LC) and not only love me for what I show them. I think we all deserve that.

As for what to tell your clients - I suppose that is really up to you. If I happen to get married while working there are certainly some gents whom I would tell. Those would be the ones whom I consider to be more friends than clients. The ones who know my real name and whom I've established a real rappore with. As for the clients whom I only see on occasion or whom I don't feel particularly close to - I doubt I would tell them. After all - we and they are living a bit of a fantasy when we meet. There is no need to divulge your matital status (which is a personal detail) if you haven't divulged other personal details to them.

Having never been married (yet) I can't comment on the ideal age. I figure I will know when it is right. Psychological studies show that we are quite set in who we shall be by the age of 27. However, that is statistics, and has no real baring on individual cases. I have seen marriages which began at 18 and are still going strong 30 years later, and I have witnessed marriages which formed at 35 and were in shambles 2 years later. People will likely give you advice from their personal experiences, but only you know what is right for you.

I really can't stress enough though how strongly I feel about honesty being an integral part of any strong and real relationship.

 

[Oh_Claire]

Bc

there is somewhere in BC near cranbrook we can move to.
Polygamy is popular there so why can't I have a few husbands?
Hey, here's an idea, let all have a big honeymoon! there is NOTHING HOTTER than a girl being worshipped by 2 guys, one eating, while i'm sucking... massaging, fondling, pumping, MMMMMMM
then a big messy SPLAT all over my chest in the end. at the same time.
Holy I'm getting worked up... Gotta go have a smoke or something sigh...
I haven't had sex in FOREVER! Someone please rescue me! I'm too horny!

So about the polygamy thing... I can cook. Which one of you 2 can clean? red? 6pack? one of u can do the dishes, the other can vacuum, I'll cook and we'll all eat together naked. But here's the deal: no kids. You can't eat naked with kids around!

 

[Sixpak]

hey sixpack, wanna get married?
so what do you do for a living
funny you should ask. I have a great desk job. executive assistant for XYZ company.
really? that's cool. me too.
let's go to vegas.

I ACCEPT your proposal !!!
Do you like a long engagement or a short one? Or a forever one?
I am getting crazier over you the more I read your posts. (I have a post of my own for you!! )

one eating, while i'm sucking... massaging, fondling, pumping, MMMMMMM
no kids. You can't eat naked with kids around!

I don't know if you would have time for anyone else once we are together! If you like multiple partners though, I will have to develop multiple personalities! Just for you. And if we have kids we have to eat them? Sweet kids are better than crabby ones I bet!

 

[Oh_Claire]

Of course I'm going to wear white!

What kind of girl do you think I am!!!

 

[Sixpak]

Oh man a buck short and a day late!! I hope you haven't given yourself to someone else in holy sexamony already.

6pack can clean up.
Are you gonna wear white?

You are late that is for sure!!
Claire IS all mine - ..going to go and be with her in 3 weeks!!!
I know you would like to tag along and hold my bag or something!
But you may not want to be around when I start to 'clean up'!! LOL
All in fun though - sounds like Claire has captured our hearts and mainly your imagination.
Any color Claire wears will be awesome! I can hardly wait. And I hope it doesn't bother others that see her sooner that she will be holding back for me.

 

[Sixpak]

Sore loser or what?
Can't count or read either? LOL .... Nobody else sees 666
Your chain must have been yanked to pull you back to a lower number!
go back to your yanking.....
(Distemper shots might help)

 

[logsplitter]

Nothing like fucking a married woman in her old man's bed when her husband comes home early!

For sure I would not want to fuck another man's wife. I value my nuts, my cock and my life too much!!!

 

[Avery]

Logsplitter, a lot of married guys wouldn't castrate you; they's probably buy you a beer for giving them a good excuse to ditch their wives!

 

[Maury Beniowski]

You don't hear about it that often, but I was wondering what happens when an SP is or gets married? Does this effect the relationship with the gentlemen? How so and how much?

You may not hear about it often, but it happens... A lot!

Furthermore, the effect is no different than most long-term relationships. Yes, the sex is good at first, as it is with any new relationship. But it eventually degenerates into a typical mundane affair. As an example, think of a tradesman who begins a relationship with his SP squeeze. At first, he's really good around the house, fixing this, fixing that. Over time, the "To Do" list begins to grow, and much to his wife's frustration, she can't understand how he can be so diligent in his work outside the home, and leaves jobs wanting around the house. By the same token, he can't figure out why she doesn't put out in bed like she used to, while at the same time, she's a real nymph with her clients.

The only explanation is as the French put it so succintly, "C'est la vie, mon ami!"