Health Nurse i have a problem with low sex drive. Im 34 great shape but really have no desire for sex, is there something out there that will get me more in the mood? Like theres no point taking Vigra if ur not in the mood to do it. Would you reccommend testerone shots? Has anyone tried them before?
Low sex drive
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I wouldn't recommend testosterone shots because I've read the body can get dependent on it and stop producing its own testosterone, thereby compounding the problem.
However, I recently drastically cut back my caffeine intake and found it really helped my libido get back to normal. I then Google'd it and found others with the same caffeine effect, the theory being the stimulating effect of caffeine triggers a bit of a fight-or-flight reaction in the body and moves blood away from your private parts.
Something to try anyway
Of course, I defer to the Health Nurse if she says differently...
I would kill for a low sex drive. I've tried going to doctors to get them to give me medication where the side effect is killing the sex drive, but they refused. I wish I was you my friend. Having a sex drive is a horrible thing. Can ruin a man's life.
I don't think women realize how powerful a man's sex drive is. I wish I could kill mine.
If I were you, I would be happy about it. You can now focus your attention on more productive things in life.
I don't think women realize how powerful a man's sex drive is. I wish I could kill mine.
If I were you, I would be happy about it. You can now focus your attention on more productive things in life.
I got the same issue more or less. I'm in late 30's and I have low sex drive for months - eg I don't feel the need to masturbate, watch porn or fuck etc - then all of a sudden I go nuts. When this happens I can fuck pretty much anything that moves and goes to my taste.
I blame the low sex drive to the continuous frustrations in my life, continuous stress and the fact I have two jobs. So I'm kinda not really worried.... The main issue is that I can almost never relax and hence the low drive. I found that smoking pot alter my body/brain chemistry in an interesting way. It slows down my brain to a point that I get so relaxed and worry free that I get into an opposite state almost. I get aroused and start to think only about sex. I really discovered pot in my 30's and I mainly use it as a sexual enhancer and stress reliever.
To me having a low sex drive has almost ruined my life as my SO has an average drive and she can't understand why I'm not responsive to her demands. Problem is if we ever go on vacation in the US for example I can't smoke, therefore I can't do it, so any vacation outside of Canada is no fun for me....
This is so fucked up that I'm almost to the point of asking a doctor to prescribe it for medical reasons.
I would be curious to hear about anybody else's experiencing the same effects from pot and if it can be medically prescribed for these reasons.
I blame the low sex drive to the continuous frustrations in my life, continuous stress and the fact I have two jobs. So I'm kinda not really worried.... The main issue is that I can almost never relax and hence the low drive. I found that smoking pot alter my body/brain chemistry in an interesting way. It slows down my brain to a point that I get so relaxed and worry free that I get into an opposite state almost. I get aroused and start to think only about sex. I really discovered pot in my 30's and I mainly use it as a sexual enhancer and stress reliever.
To me having a low sex drive has almost ruined my life as my SO has an average drive and she can't understand why I'm not responsive to her demands. Problem is if we ever go on vacation in the US for example I can't smoke, therefore I can't do it, so any vacation outside of Canada is no fun for me....
This is so fucked up that I'm almost to the point of asking a doctor to prescribe it for medical reasons.
I would be curious to hear about anybody else's experiencing the same effects from pot and if it can be medically prescribed for these reasons.
Hi Deep Threat
One recent journal article I read said that 15% of men ages 18 to 59 suffer from low or no sexual desire.
Patti Britton has worked with low sexual desire in men for many years. The most common causes she has found are listed below. Many of these can lead to a shutdown of sexual desire if the concern is left unresolved.
Physical/physiological issues. A common cause can be a low range of testosterone. Also the side effects of certain drugs can cause problems as well as plain old physical exhaustion.
Psychological issues. Poor self-esteem; low sexual self-esteem; low feelings of sexual self-worth and feelings of not being adequate for themselves or as a lover to their partner.
Mental issues. Misunderstanding about what is a normal frequency of sexual desire; conflicts with partner in a relationship with mismatched sexual desire levels.
Emotional issues. Internal conflict about masculinity or self-image issues; external conflict in the primary sexual relationship, such as unresolved anger/resentments and also conflicts in a relationship unrelated to sex, such as issues concerning money, family, childrearing, power struggles etc...
Poor sexual performance problems. History of erectile failure; poor ejaculatory control; inability to please partner.
Body image issues. Caused by past negative judgments about his body.
Intimacy issues. Poor intimacy management skills or an ingrained tendency to avoid intimacy.
Exhaustion or stress, and anxiety. Feeling so worn-out or distracted, there is no energy for sex.
Sexual ignorance. Lacking information or awareness about sexual realities.
Given the above I would suggest that you make an appointment at your family doctor. Discuss the issue with them. Make sure they give you a full physical, check blood testosterone levels and that any drugs you may be using are not causing any side effects.
If all that checks out ok I would suggest that you try and see someone who specializes in this area. Here is a list of local sex counsellors/therapist.
Vancouver:
Danielle Duplassie
www.shanti-centre.com
David Mckenzie
http://www.davidmckenzie.ca/
Bianca Rucker
http://www.biancarucker.com/
Pega Ren
http://www.smartsextalk.com/
Marelize Swart
http://www.femalethoughts.com/
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I would kill for a low sex drive. I've tried going to doctors to get them to give me medication where the side effect is killing the sex drive, but they refused. I wish I was you my friend. Having a sex drive is a horrible thing. Can ruin a man's life.....a womans sex life.
I am 50 and no man could ever keep up with me......It has killed all my relationships. I am now with a man in a wheelchair...he only has 10% feeling below the waist...The best man I have ever met....So I try to kill any desire...or need that I have.
I have heard all my life that a man thinks of sex every 10 secondsand wants it just as much....Where have all of them been...I screwed over 100 before I was 21..they talk the talk but.....Ya well...so here I am....Trying to forget what I have been feeling since I was 11....hum...
So I guess my point is you are not the only one.
I am 50 and no man could ever keep up with me......It has killed all my relationships. I am now with a man in a wheelchair...he only has 10% feeling below the waist...The best man I have ever met....So I try to kill any desire...or need that I have.
I have heard all my life that a man thinks of sex every 10 secondsand wants it just as much....Where have all of them been...I screwed over 100 before I was 21..they talk the talk but.....Ya well...so here I am....Trying to forget what I have been feeling since I was 11....hum...
So I guess my point is you are not the only one.
I was wondering if the Health Nurse had any recommendations for people in Saskatchewan? I read through the responses she gave, and found http://www.biancarucker.com/ to be potentially the most useful one for me. However I'm unsure of where to start web surfing/searching for help. TD
Hi Obsorne Cox
From what you have written it sounds like you have figured out what is causing your low sex drive at times.
Frustration, stress and physical exhaustion will certainly have an effect on your sex drive. It also sounds like this low sex drive is also affecting your relationship with your SO.
It seems that smoking pot has helped you with these feeling in your life, but has a few problems such as being illegal which makes it hard to get from your doctor and hard to travel with.
Stress and frustration can be common in life but like many things, high doses can have a negative impact on health. High stress levels have been linked to many health problems both physical and mental.
Many drugs (prescription or non prescription) can cause instant relief.
Everyone situation is different I just wanted to bring up that there are other alternatives than drugs to stress reduction. I just wanted to put that in as I have seen many occasions where drugs (prescription and non prescription) used to treat stress end up being the problem in someone lives.
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Hi tdactyl
Sorry I don't have any experience with health professionals in Saskatchewan.
I would suggest getting in contact with your local sexual health clinic. Any sexual health clinic I have worked at has a current list of people they like to recommend.
Here is a link to the sexual health clinic in Saskatoon. It looks like you have the option of just calling up and speaking with a nurse.
http://www.saskatoonhealthregion.ca/your_health/ps_public_health_sexual_health.htm
HN
