Looking for the unicorn (or maybe not)

[waldojnk]

Hi all,

I am going to be in Victoria this weekend. I am looking for what may be that unicorn. The one that really just wants to jump your bones from the start and open to it all. Truly makes you feel like she can't get enough of every part of you. I don't get out often and want to make it worth while. Looking for the following:

Age: Less than 35
hair: has some
independent\agency: doesn't matter
Build: Slim or spinner, but ok with some curves (not into BBW)
Options: pretty much anything including bbbjcim
Cost: been saving, so if the above boxes are ticked I am ok.

Thanks all!

 

[waldojnk]

Thank you for the recommendation. I don't think I'll be able to see her though. I don't do this very often so I won't have any references for her, and I will not give out my personal information as part of her screening. But I appreciate the recommendation.

 

[dattyspecialist]

IF: Zoey, Emma, Livianna
VIPS: Toni

 

[Fiona]

Thank you for the recommendation. I don't think I'll be able to see her though. I don't do this very often so I won't have any references for her, and I will not give out my personal information as part of her screening. But I appreciate the recommendation.

Pretty tall list from a new client without giving any references or info . Doesn’t fly these days . Good luck .

 

[FreeG]

Pretty tall list from a new client without giving any references or info . Doesn’t fly these days . Good luck .

Agreed!!

Get over this inhibition to "share private info", or get over finding the "unicorn". The well-reviewed and well-loved indies in YYJ all have long-standing reputations - you have FAR less to worry about giving your personal info to them than you would to CC companies or car dealerships, say.

Anyway, you listed a bunch of requirements, you got a well-regarded woman that fit them, don't expect any more from folks here...(and certainly don't expect sympathy on your refusal to screen).

 

[MrSOG]

Nope, there are still decent SPs out there who don't require screening in my experience. I've got nothing against an SP requesting this but totally get it if a dude is reluctant. It just limits your choices. IMO, it's nothing like giving your personal info to a car dealership. Unless they might call your wife and let them know you are shopping around for a new car.

Overall I agree with Fiona and FreeG's sentiment, you don't need to worry about it too much. The reputable SPs who have a history to go on have no reason to share your info. But mistakes happen so I get your concern.

By the way, I recommend Zoe Rosehip but I have no idea if she requires references.

 

[waldojnk]

Alright... so I figured this might happen and should have kept my mouth shut... but I didn't and I don't like being attacked unnecessarily.

First off, I clearly stated I do not partake very often. What I didn't state because I didn't think I needed to was that when I do partake it is with an agency. I am not from Victoria (also clearly stated) so not only are my only previous experiences with an agency (not accepted as references by 90% of independents from what I have seen) they are from an agency in another location.

To both of you (Fiona and FreeG), at no point did I say I felt Zayla was being unreasonable. In fact I completely respect her choice and any SP who decides this. Which is why I clearly stated I wouldn't contact her, not that I would see if I could try without or that I thought it was ridiculous. I however, expect that you will respect my decision to not trust my personal information in a situation like this. I did not state anyone's choice for screening as being unreasonable, in fact I thought I was very polite in saying it was my choice to not even contact her because of that. I was not, nor would I contact anyone that has that requirement and argue my case. You can have your stance and I will have mine. I am fully aware that this could and likely will limit my options. And so be it, but please don't attack me or criticize me for my choices when I wasn't doing that myself to you or others.

I hope you both have a great day and honestly I mean it when I hope that everyone stays safe (in any method you choose to do so).

 

[Fiona]

Alright... so I figured this might happen and should have kept my mouth shut... but I didn't and I don't like being attacked unnecessarily.

First off, I clearly stated I do not partake very often. What I didn't state because I didn't think I needed to was that when I do partake it is with an agency. I am not from Victoria (also clearly stated) so not only are my only previous experiences with an agency (not accepted as references by 90% of independents from what I have seen) they are from an agency in another location.

To both of you (Fiona and FreeG), at no point did I say I felt Zayla was being unreasonable. In fact I completely respect her choice and any SP who decides this. Which is why I clearly stated I wouldn't contact her, not that I would see if I could try without or that I thought it was ridiculous. I however, expect that you will respect my decision to not trust my personal information in a situation like this. I did not state anyone's choice for screening as being unreasonable, in fact I thought I was very polite in saying it was my choice to not even contact her because of that. I was not, nor would I contact anyone that has that requirement and argue my case. You can have your stance and I will have mine. I am fully aware that this could and likely will limit my options. And so be it, but please don't attack me or criticize me for my choices when I wasn't doing that myself to you or others.

I hope you both have a great day and honestly I mean it when I hope that everyone stays safe (in any method you choose to do so).

Yes of course that’s your choice , and ours . It just amazes me what trust men expect out of us , to not only let you in our private incalls or homes , to get naked but unwilling to give an inch to help us feel safe , how many men have been killed by sex workers vs Sex workers killed by their clients unwilling to be upfront ??
If you’re well reviewed & reputable service provider do you think we are going to risk our income just to mess with you ?

of course there’s lots of ladies who ask little for info , I am one . But I’ve found sooo many men contact me with their real name it’s so easy to check if you’re really real with Facebook , Linked-in etc I’ve never needed to push for more , but when I have I’ve been so thankful I did . So it’s very easy to pass up on gentlemen who set off red flags , I’ve been in this business 15 years , there’s never a reason to put ourselves in harms way just for a one time appointment with an out of towner , all your choices & feelings you are truly entitled to but just don’t be surprised if you don’t get tended to . Business is good right now so desperation is driving anyone reputable. 🙂 good luck

 

[waldojnk]

Yes of course that’s your choice , and ours . It just amazes me what trust men expect out of us , to not only let you in our private incalls or homes , to get naked but unwilling to give an inch to help us feel safe , how many men have been killed by sex workers vs Sex workers killed by their clients unwilling to be upfront ??
If you’re well reviewed & reputable service provider do you think we are going to risk our income just to mess with you ?

of course there’s lots of ladies who ask little for info , I am one . But I’ve found sooo many men contact me with their real name it’s so easy to check if you’re really real with Facebook , Linked-in etc I’ve never needed to push for more , but when I have I’ve been so thankful I did . So it’s very easy to pass up on gentlemen who set off red flags , I’ve been in this business 15 years , there’s never a reason to put ourselves in harms way just for a one time appointment with an out of towner , all your choices & feelings you are truly entitled to but just don’t be surprised if you don’t get tended to . Business is good right now so desperation is driving anyone reputable. 🙂 good luck

Thank you Fiona. I didn't want to turn this into a argument. I shouldn't have replied in the beginning as I did. I think this topic is a pretty heated one for both sides of the coin. I can't put myself in your shoes so I am not going to try. All I am going to do is try to respect your views and your requests. I simply ask for the same. Others may not, but for myself, I do now and will always respect the rules you or anyone else requires. And as you said, I may not get tended to, but maybe I will. Whether I do or don't is fine because I did it in a way that I felt would protect myself. Just as you or anyone else chooses to do. But again, these are just words on a computer screen. I can't prove my intent to you, so take it as you will I guess.

Again, have a great night and be safe.

 

[Smoothmover]

Agreed!!

Get over this inhibition to "share private info", or get over finding the "unicorn". The well-reviewed and well-loved indies in YYJ all have long-standing reputations - you have FAR less to worry about giving your personal info to them than you would to CC companies or car dealerships, say.

Anyway, you listed a bunch of requirements, you got a well-regarded woman that fit them, don't expect any more from folks here...(and certainly don't expect sympathy on your refusal to screen).

Never share your personal info

it isn’t because the SP isn’t reputable “today”, things change and 2 years down the road she may hit hard times, might have a pimp, etc and you get a message with a screenshot of your previous communications asking for $$$ to “keep this quiet”

Happened to me, fortunately I had used a fake name and they didn’t have anything other than my phone number, which I don’t have linked to anything personal about me

I ignored it and it went away, but it can and does happen

 

[luvsdaty]

Never share your personal info

it isn’t because the SP isn’t reputable “today”, things change and 2 years down the road she may hit hard times, might have a pimp, etc and you get a message with a screenshot of your previous communications asking for $$$ to “keep this quiet”

Happened to me, fortunately I had used a fake name and they didn’t have anything other than my phone number, which I don’t have linked to anything personal about me

I ignored it and it went away, but it can and does happen

I block 🚫 numbers that I no longer see just to avoid all that. In the words of Kahn Nunian

Never share your personal info

it isn’t because the SP isn’t reputable “today”, things change and 2 years down the road she may hit hard times, might have a pimp, etc and you get a message with a screenshot of your previous communications asking for $$$ to “keep this quiet”

Happened to me, fortunately I had used a fake name and they didn’t have anything other than my phone number, which I don’t have linked to anything personal about me

I ignored it and it went away, but it can and does happen

In the immortal words of Khan Noonien Singh " let them eat static"

 

[EdenFrost]

Many providers, myself included, that require screening normally delete all shared information after the first meeting, so you won't have to worry about what you mentioned above Smoothmover as long as you choose a reputable provider. I personally offer screening options that require no personal information, such as meeting at a coffee shop or restaurant of your choosing prior to our private encounter. I believe that safety and trust are so important to the client-provider relationship and screening is just for safety purposes. Its a completely different world out there for us providers in comparison to clients when it comes to safety.

Also if you or someone reading this are looking for a unicorn, I love getting to spend one-on-one time with another lady, as well as spending time with couples! If you want more details about what an encounter with me would look like please contact me directly. 💕

 

[Jtequila]

What if a person literally has almost zero online presence? I’m not on any social media so if I gave my real name how are you to look anything up?

 

[Heif101]

What if a person literally has almost zero online presence? I’m not on any social media so if I gave my real name how are you to look anything up?

Then they cant verify you? You would probably be asked to provide a different screening option.

 

[mrrich8472]

I block 🚫 numbers that I no longer see just to avoid all that. In the words of Kahn Nunian

In the immortal words of Khan Noonien Singh " let them eat static"

I gotta love any post that quotes Wrath if Khan!

 

[Bunghole1]

Go to a respected agency that has a highly reviewed provider who fits your desires. That is the best way to get past giving out personal information. At a agency such as sweet VIP you are welcomed to call yourself incognito. Pretty cool huh!?