I totally agree and thank you so much for saying this. From my limited time in the kink community I noticed there is a trend of many Doms being covertly or overtly just abusive, and in general, there is just not enough education on consent and building trust through discussing boundaries as part of pre session/scene planning. In my opinion this thread request would fall under the BDSM umbrella, and a lot of harm can be done in these dynamics without mutual trust, clear communication of boundaries and limits, and safe words/signals, awareness of possible triggers, and awareness of what draws you to a particular role (ie, as a Dom, do you want to feel love and devotion from your sub, do you feel empowered being trusted to lead yourself and your lover as the conductor of pleasure). I am confident that there are tons of providers in this city who might be down with this sort of kinky passionate and extremely sensory heightened experience but I think many would be turned off by mentioning the hard core stuff off the bat as Canto has said. I would probably suggest to look for ladies who fit the bill of what you like physically, and start off with GFE first few sessions, and then you can slowly start introducing kink and the power dynamics with small steps.
