Long time to climax

[rampart]

Health Nurse,

I am in my fifties and in excellent physical shape and have no problem getting or maintaining an erection. Was at my doctor recently for my annual and everything was AOK+. I have a new SO who is hot physically, mentally etc. I can go and go and go but I have a bit of a time climaxing. My SO gets great enjoyment out of the long lasting effect of me staying hard but is feeling a bit insecure that I may not be turned on by her which is not the case.

I would like to know if this is physical or psychological that I can stay hard for so long and not climax. It is quite the workout to get to the climax stage and when I finally do climax it ranges from normal to earth shaking. Cum quantity is the same as always as well.

Also, as normal I still maintain an erection after I climax which as usual has always been a hit with any women that I have been having sex with.

Thanks for providing this service.

 

[Health Nurse]

Health Nurse,

I am in my fifties and in excellent physical shape and have no problem getting or maintaining an erection. Was at my doctor recently for my annual and everything was AOK+. I have a new SO who is hot physically, mentally etc. I can go and go and go but I have a bit of a time climaxing. My SO gets great enjoyment out of the long lasting effect of me staying hard but is feeling a bit insecure that I may not be turned on by her which is not the case.

I would like to know if this is physical or psychological that I can stay hard for so long and not climax. It is quite the workout to get to the climax stage and when I finally do climax it ranges from normal to earth shaking. Cum quantity is the same as always as well.

Also, as normal I still maintain an erection after I climax which as usual has always been a hit with any women that I have been having sex with.

Thanks for providing this service.

Hi Rampart

Sorry about the delay in getting to your question.

There can be a large range for what is considered “normal” for the time it takes to climax (cum, ejaculate).

Even for the same person this can change depending on fatigue, mood, certain drugs/medications, sexual position etc.

It is impossible to diagnose conditions over the internet but I can give you some suggestions.

You have said that you are concerned that it is taking more time than normal to climax. This is known as delayed ejaculation.

This is not an uncommon concern for men in a new relationship.

Dr Patti Britton has said that it can be related to men feeling safe in new relationships. Another thing she mentioned was that partners can often take responsibility for what is happening to the man, blaming themselves. In trying harder to make him reach orgasm they may make the problem worse.

As the relationship is new I would suggest that you give it a bit of time and see how it goes.

If you find that it is something that is still bothering you I would suggest that you get in contact with your family doctor to discuss the situation. This is for a physical checkup as well as to make sure no prescribed medication is causing a problem.

If everything checks out at the family doctor I would suggest a visit to the people that specialize in sexual health. Below are links to their web pages.

Local resources in the lower mainland.

Dr David R. McKenzie
http://www.davidrmckenzie.com/

Dr Pega Ren
http://www.smartsextalk.com/index.html

Dr Bianca Rucker
http://www.biancarucker.com/

Dr Marelize Swart
http://www.femalethoughts.com/

On Vancouver Island

Victoria:

Julian Young
http://www3.telus.net/youngconsulting/index.htm

Sylvain Boies
http://www.bctherapy.net/


Nanaimo:

Mark Giesbrecht
http://www.markgiesbrecht.com/



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