Life in Vancouver

[letitrock]

I thought this would be a good topic of discussion

I'm not sure if any of you perbs have noticed or really care, but Vancouver is pretty damn cold. Nobody talks to each other just for the sake of it, you cant approach someone just for friendly convo/getting to know them without them thinking you're some sort of creep.

This goes especially for women! I've noticed lots (not all) women will only give you the time of day if you resemble some sort of underwear model, or you're wearing some sort of expensive designer suit, hinting that you make good coin.

Thoughts?

 

[letitrock]

This is intersting because many visitors from other parts of the country or world that have visited here claim Vancouver is one most friendliest city they've been to. Of course they don't live here and cant see the long term of that statement.

I personally have never had a problem with people in vancouver when Ive had to ask for help for whatever reason.

True that vancouver is a higher scale city in some cases, or at least this is how some promote it, but it depends where you are of course.

But I do know what you mean as I see what you are referring about on robson street mainly. Some people on that street can be a little stuck up.

But when it comes to your money comment.........show me one who DOESNT love money!??

Well, it hasnt happened to me personally, anyone I end up talking to is usually pretty friendly, but some stories I've heard over the years sort of make me ashamed to live here..

Sure everyone loves money, but for women to shun men because they dont make 100k a year? Pretty shallow if you ask me

 

[FortunateOne]

Im very curious about your last comment. Why and HOW do you know that woman shun men that make less than 100K?
Did you have some sort of experience with this or let down. I dont make 100k personally and I dont care really. There's way more important things in life than $$ when you look at the big picture.

I would have to ask how the OP knows that the women know that the person chatting to them in the Starbucks lineup does or does not have $$. I would have to say that although flattering, the majority of attractive women get tired of having guys chat them up in the Starbucks lineup, in other words assume that they are available, and at some point would just like to get on with their day like everyone else.

 

[letitrock]

Im very curious about your last comment. Why and HOW do you know that woman shun men that make less than 100K?
Did you have some sort of experience with this or let down. I dont make 100k personally and I dont care really. There's way more important things in life than $$ when you look at the big picture.

I already stated this hasnt happened to me, but this is the overall vibe you get from women in Vancouver. I've heard stories from friends and read things on other forums as well. Also like I stated earlier, not ALL women

Have you ever tried to hit on an attractive female in Vancouver? How often do you hear of success stories where the guy that randomly hit on the hot chick is now dating her exclusively?

 

[letitrock]

I would have to say that although flattering, the majority of attractive women get tired of having guys chat them up in the Starbucks lineup

This discussion wasnt meant to get too detailed, just a general discussion, but it can go in any direction..

In this case, it could be geared more as a question for the ladies and how they would like a guy to approach them

Dont take everything I say to heart guys, its just a discussion on an internet forum

 

[Surrey's Jewel]

People here are cold ....

I always thought we were a friendly bunch but then I saw a client the other day who moved here 4 years ago from L.A. and is moving back because he says the people here are cold. I was quite suprised and saddened to hear that.

 

[letitrock]

I always thought we were a friendly bunch but then I saw a client the other day who moved here 4 years ago from L.A. and is moving back because he says the people here are cold. I was quite suprised and saddened to hear that.

There's proof, even americans hate it here!

 

[Willingham]

Main and Hastings is very friendly. Go check it out and wear your rubber gloves.

 

[jeepjeep]

I will tell you soon. Two weeks till my trip.

The boards here have seen friendly enough.

I am not sure I have ever noticed much difference in big cities, they are all a little cold compared to smaller towns. Nor have I seen much difference between when I made little money and now when I make a lot of money.

I do see a very big difference now that I am fairly thin verses when I weighted 350 lbs. Sad in a way. I have always been a very friendly person myself. Though a bit shy.

 

[westcoast555]

I beg to differ

This is intersting because many visitors from other parts of the country or world that have visited here claim Vancouver is one most friendliest city they've been to. Of course they don't live here and cant see the long term of that statement.

I personally have never had a problem with people in vancouver when Ive had to ask for help for whatever reason.

True that vancouver is a higher scale city in some cases, or at least this is how some promote it, but it depends where you are of course.

But I do know what you mean as I see what you are referring about on robson street mainly. Some people on that street can be a little stuck up.

But when it comes to your money comment.........show me one who DOESNT love money!??

Going back to my University days I always noticed that a lot of cute girls would have snotty attitudes but when I approached one who was friendly and amiable - just for the sake of being a pleasant person - I would guess that they were from the Praires or a smaller town in BC.

Vancouver does indeed have an 'aloofness' that other places don't have. If you say 'hello' to people in your apartment building they sometimes look at you with a bewildered look... trying to figure out why you would talk to them.

Vanvouver think's it's laid back and cool but it's actually quite cliquey and uptight.

I hear it all the time and I've lived here all my life and travelled a fair bit too.

 

[letitrock]

Going back to my University days I always noticed that a lot of cute girls would have snotty attitudes but when I approached one who was friendly and amiable - just for the sake of being a pleasant person - I would guess that they were from the Praires or a smaller town in BC.

Vancouver does indeed have an 'aloofness' that other places don't have. If you say 'hello' to people in your apartment building they sometimes look at you with a bewildered look... trying to figure out why you would talk to them.

Vanvouver think's it's laid back and cool but it's actually quite cliquey and uptight.

I hear it all the time and I've lived here all my life and travelled a fair bit too.

Yes, that is a perfect description and example
This is exactly what I'm talking about

 

[smackyo]

I thought this would be a good topic of discussion

I'm not sure if any of you perbs have noticed or really care, but Vancouver is pretty damn cold. Nobody talks to each other just for the sake of it, you cant approach someone just for friendly convo/getting to know them without them thinking you're some sort of creep.

This goes especially for women! I've noticed lots (not all) women will only give you the time of day if you resemble some sort of underwear model, or you're wearing some sort of expensive designer suit, hinting that you make good coin.

Thoughts?

you hit the nail square on the head with this one. when i first moved out here 11 years ago, this place was awesome. it was a much better, friendlier place then it is now thats a given. i was back in toronto a couple of summers ago and wow, what a difference!

everyone there was so nice, more then happy to talk to you. as for the women, i went out a few times in toronto and was approached left and right by women chatting me up. that almost never happens to me here. i'm not the best looking guy out there but thankfully i've got personality coming out of my ass so i can over come that hurdle out here when i approach women but its like night and day.

i'm not sure if i can pinpoint when things here started to go down hill but this really isn't the city i fell in love with.

 

[smackyo]

I would have to say that although flattering, the majority of attractive women get tired of having guys chat them up in the Starbucks lineup, in other words assume that they are available, and at some point would just like to get on with their day like everyone else.

i think that perhaps thats the exact attitude that he is referring to on this thread. how the hell does anyone meet anyone if this is the prevailing school of thought? so you don't find the guy attractive or whatever thats fine, but does it kill you to engage in a little polite conversation with someone? i mean what else do you do in the line up, stare ahead at the menu aimlessly until its your turn to order?

its funny to cause you hear so many women talk about how they cant meet anyone or how there are no nice guys around yet when a guy does try to meet someone the prevailing attitude seems to be "go fuck yourself" just in body language instead of words kind of response.

if not for the natural beauty of this city, which the people who live here have nothing to do with but walk around with their nose up in the air like they put the mountians and the ocean here, this place would be a total shit hole.

 

[aznboi9]

its funny to cause you hear so many women talk about how they cant meet anyone or how there are no nice guys around yet when a guy does try to meet someone the prevailing attitude seems to be "go fuck yourself" just in body language instead of words kind of response.

I was thinking the exact same thing, kind of hypocritical really.

 

[BrokeBastard]

I thought Vancouver is one of the best cities in the world. Or at least that's what so many surveys say.

 

[sonoman]

Vancouver is a very cold city in terms of personality... I found even NYC to be friendlier than Vancouver, which really shocked me.

Agree. I've found the same; I've been to Boston, Philly, and New York and in each people were easier to approach and talk to casually.

Vancouver does indeed have an 'aloofness' that other places don't have. If you say 'hello' to people in your apartment building they sometimes look at you with a bewildered look... trying to figure out why you would talk to them.

Absolutely. I lived in a West End building for over two years and never once spoke to some of my neighbours there. The people I did talk to most were usually not from here, or even BC for that matter.

if not for the natural beauty of this city, which the people who live here have nothing to do with but walk around with their nose up in the air like they put the mountians and the ocean here, this place would be a total shit hole.

I have to agree. There's an arrogant sense of entitlement over the visible effects of geological events that happened millions of years ago.

I thought Vancouver is one of the best cities in the world. Or at least that's what so many surveys say.

Based on what indicators?? Those reports tend to be biased or superficial. For once, I'd really like to see those claims justified and criteria elaborated.

 

[MrPeterNorth]

As the old expression goes between my friends and I...

Vancouver is a beautiful city but the people are ugly.
Toronto is an ugly city but the people are beautiful.

I was there not too long ago... oh my god, wow. GTA stands for Goddamn Talent Agency as far as I'm concerned. Montreal ranks high in my books as well.

The problem with people, well, single people in Vancouver is that no one here knows how to flirt. Or flirt properly I guess. Everyone's too damn serious.

I find the typical Vancouverite thinks Vancouver is similar to other world-class cities like Tokyo, New York, Toronto, London, LA, etc. You know, cities where shit gets done, and banking is a large part of the job-market. I don't know when Vancouverites will wake up and realize Vancouver has just over 2 million people. Tokyo has 15 times the population... get real here people.

And as I like to quote a good friend, as far as Canada is concerned - All Roads to Corporate Gold Lead Through the Big Smoke. Toronto is the center of Canada, wake up, realize it, and get over it.

 

[Im Cuming]

Nice thread.

I agree, some people in Vancouver can be a bit up tight and a bit snobby.
Generally speaking, people here are so conservative. Afraid to look up, afraid to say hi, afraid to chat. Most people are afraid what someone else is thinking about them. I on the other hand chat with everyone. I don't give a rat's ass
what anyone thinks. I can't make everyone happy and i don't expect everyone to be my friend.
I m very outgoing, i try to get the conversation going and sometimes you will be surprised, it just needs 1 person to initiate things. I think personally people are straight out afraid what others think of them. That is the bottom line.

Someone mentioned , about chatting in a Starbucks lineup. Well ya i agree,
But it's a catch 22 sometimes. Sometimes you can chat with the person in front or behind or sometimes you get that look. I m personally not the most tactful person. I find a good way to get attention from a snobby beautiful women, is to bluntly pick out her flaws and say it out loud.
You will definitely get her attention.

P.s. Just don't take life seriously, and who gives a crap what people think.
9 times out of ten they don't care about you they care about what they look like or what's happening in there lives.

 

[InTheBum]

I thought this would be a good topic of discussion

I'm not sure if any of you perbs have noticed or really care, but Vancouver is pretty damn cold. Nobody talks to each other just for the sake of it, you cant approach someone just for friendly convo/getting to know them without them thinking you're some sort of creep.

This goes especially for women! I've noticed lots (not all) women will only give you the time of day if you resemble some sort of underwear model, or you're wearing some sort of expensive designer suit, hinting that you make good coin.

Thoughts?

FYI - The large majority of single good looking women in this city are working as whores to pay bills! As for the ones that aren't...they are too busy working 2 jobs and going to school, to waste their time dating!

Stick with the program...ie... surf Craiglist for SP's and book a session and pray things go well...like the rest of us!

 

[letitrock]

FYI - The large majority of single good looking women in this city are working as whores to pay bills! As for the ones that aren't...they are too busy working 2 jobs and going to school, to waste their time dating!

Stick with the program...ie... surf Craiglist for SP's and book a session and pray things go well...like the rest of us!

I wasnt really complaining about not being able to meet women, it was just an example of how people dont communicate in this city. Its more of a rant of the general vibe and atmosphere of this city

Im Cuming hit it spot on, everyone is too worried about what others think of them, but does that justify giving everyone you meet the cold shoulder?
Damn for once I'd love to go to a city where you can talk to women easily without them making you feel like you're breaking the law by talking to them.