Life-changing events?

violetblake

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I visited my hometown recently, and getting together with all my friends and family, seeing my old stomping grounds lol, it got me to thinking about how much I've grown. Becoming an SP has certainly been a part of that, as it's contributed quite positively to my life.

Perhaps I'm just in a thoughtful and reflective mood today, lol, but I was wondering if any SPs and perb members would like to share what events changed their lives? I'm sure we all have many, hopefully not too many that are too drastic or tragic, but feel free to share whatever you're comfortable with.
 

sexytime

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1. Becoming a husband and stepfather.
2. Losing everything.

My life is full of experiences fit for some extraordinary story, but these are the two majors which although do not define me, explain a lot about me.
 

sevenofnine

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i guess my father being arrested for rape, news story after news story about it.
my life was bad before my family was fucked to begin with but this almost put me over the top

but you know the older i get the more happier i am
life is a process,
its not the destination or the goal its the journey you know
it really is the journey not the end the goal.
it took me along time to understand that
then i guess you understand it but you have to feel it in your soul your heart.

and i really have enjoyed the journey family kids love

i was out on my bike today and you think of goals weight speed time levels of fitness etc,

but thats in a sense a lot of words and nonsense, you have to enjoy it the cycle and i do, and i could go on forever.
its a form of faith a form of meditation.
a form of therapy,

like work every day since i was like fourteen, gives me something to do,
then kids a reason to keep working
simple things.
but very enjoyable

even seeing my sp
treating her like a women instead of an escort, using her to as therapy as a friend telling her stuff i never told anyone.

her letting me come back and doing it again.
you know at the end life is what you make it.

and i think people focus to much on the goal or success,
well success is living every day, one day at a time, caring about family friends and having them care about you,
yeah even escorts.

dont know whaat im trying to say but i think people have success wrong

and i think my father going to jail and my messed up child hood made me really look at what is success and what is important.

and its the little simple things and the journey every day the journey
 

storm rider

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Does having your eldest brother snuffing it in it in a car crash on New Years Day when he got engaged to be married on New Years Eve count?

SR
 

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And dont ever underestimate how valuable a Canadian or USA citizenship is, millions in Asia will do anything to score either citizenship. Literally anything.
 

Robert Upndown

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The birth of my daughter
The death of my sister
Breaking a cocaine and then a nicotine habit
 

Dickson

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1. Being an orphan never knowing my parents
2. Living on the streets when I was a kid
3. Playing BB with a bunch of rich kids back in the 70's changed my life forever
4. Getting my first company that was bankruped when I was in university and turning it around.
5. Meeting my first SP, then a street walker, Wendy.
6. Selling my first company to get in commercial real estate
7. Doing my first deal in Russia
8. Having Phillipe, my body guard, die in my arms in Columbia after being shot defending me.
9. Getting caught in Israel and being placed in a detention center
10. Selling off my North American companies moving to Europe.
11. Doing my last deal in Russia.
 

Dickson

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Accepting you were an addict and having to reconcile the guilt and shame of hurting the people you care for the most and admit you've wasted so much of your life. Seeing the pattern over and over through the years.

Realisation that you are not the nice person you thought you were and are an incredibly selfish individual. When you held onto that thought of who you are for so long as it was all the faith you really had in yourself...when it breaks, the rock bottom and stream of unresolved emotion can take you to all sorts of places.

Getting the kick up the butt you've always needed to finally (start to) turn it around and become the person you've been holding yourself back from being all along. You have to forgive everyone and most of all yourself. That's the hardest part of all.
BobbyDazzler interesting comment you make about realizing that we are not the center of the world or that our image of ourself is not what the world sees or no one really cares if we live or die. We are all selfish, and we are all victims. Life is not a nice little movie where we end up saving the day and good guys win and bad guys lose. There is no order to the world. It is what it is. Like pick up sticks they fall where they fall. Not in a nice little order. The patterns are what we create. Only one person who is responsible for our life and that is us.

Break though or break down that is the options. Good news we get to choose. Feelings we create, that is what makes us feel and we are the only ones responsible for our feelings. Huge realization.
 

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Most of us our life is changed .. by the smallest events without us realizing it until later when it leads to something bigger .. We usually learn to adapt and over come and move on in life .. for ever changed ..

For me there was the day i drove my trike into a thorn bush .. i got a thorn in my foot an a few days later .was playing on a wood pile and got my foot caught . That probably push the thorn in farther into the bone .. that turned in to a bone infection , that almost killed me when i was 3 1/2 yrs old , and definitely changed my life .. Now that does not define me .. it has been 55 yrs , and many others thing have happened to make me who i am today .. .

Failing Grade three taught me a lot that i did not grasp before. and unlocked my artist talents which only grew through the yrs ..

Then there was the move at 10 from town to the the rural part of Victoria , i know no biggy for many .. who have moved 20 times or more in their life time .. but for me it was .. give up all those you have known , that comfort zone that i needed .. Now it was new home , new school, new friends and that set the stage for me to stay at home for most of the next 42 years ...

Seeing a UFO on evening when i was . 12 or 13yrs This was a dark cigar shape that i watched for 5 mins slowly rising .. in the sky , tilting up,and then speeding up with a vapor trail coming out as it went in to a the clouds .. By the time i ran to my parents ..and we got out side .. all they saw was the vapor trail .. But they never doubted that i saw something ..

My first job working in a little prefab wall plant .. two work tables , a radial arm saw and a big air compressor nothing special.. but set me on the road to be a carpenter . contractor .. a designer....and the loner i am today .. It introduced me to two friend that i ke;t for the next 34 yrs , It taught me to deal only with a few people at a time .. so I am not good with people skills , a chose i made based on my experiences at 3 1/2 and my early child hood yrs ..

Then there was my first big job as a contractor .. It did not go that well .. but taught me many thing about my self..I had to grow ..and it lead to other jobs .. And through those year there was all way a job that .. made it worth while and others that brought out the worst in me .. If it wan;t a job that made me feed up it was the economy that stopped the building business .. they all caused changes in direction an number of time ..

Now i did have my profound spiritual experience which defiantly changed my out look on life .. That gave me peace , comfort. and love .. and it all so caused it problem .. LOL
That was 26 years ago ... That was what i thought of was a bad time in my life .. but compared to other's ,it was nothing really just me .. But for me . it seemed tuff i was worried about trying to finish a reno on my property , and get it rented , i was having problem with my dad being on my back about getting a job.. I was not happy with life , Not the first time i had got this way .. but it was the worst i had been mental .. I could not figure a way out .. I was standing naked in my bedroom seriously thinking of throwing my self out the window when I stopped and just prayed to Jesus . Some think i had never done ,, i had prayed only to God but never to Jesus .
At that moment when I asked for help , The room seemed to fill with a bright light, i felt warm and at peace and knew that every hing would be all right .. Jesus loved me .. I went to bed , not worrying about a thing.. The next day i was renewed .. got back to ding what i had to do.. Then my friend asked me to complete a job for him because he broke is leg Not good for him . Even though not every thing was rosy . I just believed it would be .. after that ther ewas a second trip to Brazil with my dad and then a girl I meet while did a job.

Sorry about the uneventful life story i will continue later .. if you wish there is a line forming to the left for the suicide chamber,
guns , ropes and hand-grades are permitted .
 
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CorriGuy

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Mine was my mother passing away and a 10-year relationship / common law breaking up, in the same month. Vastly affected by the former since my mom was too young, and bitter for a short time regarding the latter, though both made me renew commitments to both myself and family; have since, for the most part moved on to better things in life in almost every arena, also put a big focus on my work in creative fields and I saw a lot of success in that because of newfound energy from putting a lot of time into it. I do however miss the sex still to this day with the former MsGuy; for all her other faults, she was a minx.
 

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Driving way too fast on a gravel road, losing control, and launching my truck off a 40 foot cliff in to the ocean in the middle of the night.

There was an actual moment of free fall in a nose dive as my high beams illuminated what was under the surface of the water - seaweed, starfish, barnacles, and big rocks... I wasn't wearing a seat belt so my shoulders were planted on the ceiling of the truck and my arms were locked at the elbows as I clutched the wheel. I hit the water hard and completely submerged under the surface and wedged between two boulders that were both about the size of the pick up itself.

Indeed I was going way too fast, but I'd had a few beers too. I like to downplay the drinking part and play up the speeding part, like it matters. Honestly I'd had three or four - not necessarily drunk, but faded enough to be driving stupid like that. There were two unopened bottles of beer in the console that exploded on impact and sprayed beer all over the dash, windshield, and right in my face. My knees hit the dash hard and my left hand punched through the plastic window covering the speedometer and tach, breaking my hand in a couple places. They call it a 'Boxers Fracture', for obvious reasons.

The drivers side window was open and partially sticking above the surface so I climbed out and on to one of the boulders. From there I swam across to shore and scrambled up the cliff, back on to the road, and ran like the wind in to the night. I made it a couple k back to my friends house and sat on his couch, soaking wet and in shock, as him and his friends had some weird orgy in the bedroom. The next morning they all had cat whiskers drawn on their face. A couple things - noises, suddenly made sense, for what it was worth.

The next day the cops were looking for me. I hid and watched from across the bay that the truck was in as the fire department, two cops, an ambulance, the local news, and all the neighbours stood by as a crane dragged my truck up the cliff and embankment. I could see water pouring from the cab of the pick up and couldn't help to giggle at the thought that a fish and an old boot would pour out at any moment.

Anyway I still struggle with a drinking problem, but never drive drunk anymore. Ever. As well, I am now officially the 'Grandma' driver, as my friends tease me with. Speed limit everywhere I go. I drive by the spot on the road all the time and often stop and look down over the edge of where I launched and remind myself how stupidly lucky I am to be in one piece, let alone here at all. From the way the trees on the way down are situated, I should have flipped and landed in the water upside down. No way I'd have made it out of that.
 

sevenofnine

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you know thinking about this,

to be perfectly honest at my lowest moment when i was a kid,
i met a women, she was beautiful young sexy but like ten years older then me, she was full of life sensuality sexuality
up to that moment i was plotting my suicide, but seeing her i wanted what she represented

it was a long struggle and im still struggling,
and like the rest kids family, being a father changed me.

but also when i met the sp i see changed me,
i have never had any one in my entire life i had no secrets with, i told her things i never told any one, my deepest thought i will tell her.
i worked things through in my mind with her. made sense of so many things in my life with her.
she honestly changed my life
 
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