i know this isnt the right place to have this but oh well. i have decided to leave the hobby. its been fun. i have had some very awesome times with some very nice, sweet, awesome girls. but i find myself turning into an asshole on here. i feel like i have become an asshole like some of the people on here that i despise. i give myself about a month to say my goodbyes to the girls i have seen on a regular basis. and after that i am done. i have always thought of myself as a decent guy, who respects women. but i can't handle all of the negative bullshit on here. the negative comments just get to be too much. if anyone thinks they can convince me otherwise, PM me.
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The "negative bullshit" is still found offline. Stay, have fun. Should you choose you leave, good luck to you and enjoy.
PERB is just like real life, you have the right to ignore and choose who you associate with in real life. Same as here. But like i said, you do what you feel is best and right for you.
You've identified the problem here...so what are you going to do about it...run? You just need to change your tune...that's all.
[/QUOTE]but i can't handle all of the negative bullshit on here. the negative comments just get to be too much. if anyone thinks they can convince me otherwise, PM me.[/QUOTE]
Do you think you're the only one? That's funny...don't mind all the negative...don't take it too personal...that's life.
Hiding behind a screen
I would bet most of the negative & even some of the positive comments made here would not be so readily discussed direct with the individuals being spoken of.
That is both good and bad.
Bad if, like Apple Juices says - you let it get to you.
Good if, it helps you express yourself and take comments back for good use.
Communication comes in many forms, keep it coming, via letters, voice mail, e-mail, text and most of all one on one. Remember the words you say or write that are not direct with the person you leave messages for, are never heard or read in the same manner you express yourself. Saying it direct is one way to be sure your real feelings come from the heart and any confusion can be addressed in person.
That is the key to effective communication.
Oh and of course the older you get the more often you can say what you want and blame it on your age, hah!
G.A.
I would bet most of the negative & even some of the positive comments made here would not be so readily discussed direct with the individuals being spoken of.
That is both good and bad.
Bad if, like Apple Juices says - you let it get to you.
Good if, it helps you express yourself and take comments back for good use.
Communication comes in many forms, keep it coming, via letters, voice mail, e-mail, text and most of all one on one. Remember the words you say or write that are not direct with the person you leave messages for, are never heard or read in the same manner you express yourself. Saying it direct is one way to be sure your real feelings come from the heart and any confusion can be addressed in person.
That is the key to effective communication.
Oh and of course the older you get the more often you can say what you want and blame it on your age, hah!
G.A.
The problem, 69guy, is that I think you take Perb a little too seriously. You tend to get a little too defensive when guys here throw "punches" at you. You are in this hobby to have fun with the girls... You don't know the guys here, and they don't know you, so why get upset when some guys here you don't know challenge your point of view?
It's my belief that most guys here are in the same boat, sure some are opinionated, but I don't think they are necessarily assholes in real life. If you choose to stay at Perb, the ignore function and a more lay-back approach can be your friend.
You seem like a decent guy for the most part from what you write, and what the girls have written about you. If you are quitting the hobby for a good reason, i.e. settling down, then more power to you.
It's my belief that most guys here are in the same boat, sure some are opinionated, but I don't think they are necessarily assholes in real life. If you choose to stay at Perb, the ignore function and a more lay-back approach can be your friend.
You seem like a decent guy for the most part from what you write, and what the girls have written about you. If you are quitting the hobby for a good reason, i.e. settling down, then more power to you.
myself, if I was in that situation I would just look for the reviews on perb and skip a lot of the nonsense posts (OF WHICH THERE SEEMS TO BE A LOT LATELY) and continue on in the hobby. The only thing that will get me out of the hobby is a steady g/f.
No need to over-react here....
..you may despise the "handles" of certain people on perb, but thats all it is - u never get to know the real dudes on here, nor do u need to. Perb is great for info on the girls, ignore the rest is what i say.....
just leave the board for a while,not the hobby - the girls are too damn sexxy to leave anyway; especially the girls at 50th street massage...Alyssa, Kendra, Virginia...etc
..you may despise the "handles" of certain people on perb, but thats all it is - u never get to know the real dudes on here, nor do u need to. Perb is great for info on the girls, ignore the rest is what i say.....
just leave the board for a while,not the hobby - the girls are too damn sexxy to leave anyway; especially the girls at 50th street massage...Alyssa, Kendra, Virginia...etc
i do take some of the comments too seriously. and i get defensive when people attack my character. i can take my point of view being challenged no problem. i just don't like ignorant comments about things that no one knows anything about is all.
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As a fairly long time member I to have taken offence at some comments made about "reviews" by me. I now only review very good after the lady has said shed like a review. I have also been very lucky in that its been a long time since I have had a "bad" session. I do a fairly thorough question asking session with any girl Im about to see for the first time and those question determine if I stay or not. Works for me.
As a fairly long time member I to have taken offence at some comments made about "reviews" by me. I now only review very good after the lady has said shed like a review. I have also been very lucky in that its been a long time since I have had a "bad" session. I do a fairly thorough question asking session with any girl Im about to see for the first time and those question determine if I stay or not. Works for me.
As Lauren has once said to me . . .
the secret to her fantastic disposition - "It's just water off a ducks back". . .
and a quote from my current (and all-time) favourite: "It's all good"
Don't let it get you down, 69 - Kendra will still be around even if she accepts that job. Have you got your Kendra VIP passes yet ? I have . . .
the secret to her fantastic disposition - "It's just water off a ducks back". . .
and a quote from my current (and all-time) favourite: "It's all good"
Don't let it get you down, 69 - Kendra will still be around even if she accepts that job. Have you got your Kendra VIP passes yet ? I have . . .
Sweet 69guy.........
Darling, its funny how, more often that not, people care too much about what others think but fortunately we have a choice in the matter. We can either choose too condone the behavior of others who attack by responding back thus giving permission for it to continue or we can choose to ignore those who attack thus cutting off any lines of opportunity for those to attack again. Even if they do try to over and over again to attack, eventually they will get tired themselves and give up because people that possess that type behavior, attract those who possess the same type of behavior. Tyrone785 nailed it right on the spot (pardon the pun) LOL.
I myself am quilty as well for allowing this sort of behavior to have a place in my life. But as it ate away at me, as Tyrone785 justly stated, why care about what people think. It will only hold you back in life. True enough, true enough. So since I have changed my ways of thinking, I have been at more peace with myself and found so much more happiness. I actually just went through something along the same principal last night to be honest. I am sure that all parties that were involved thought for sure that it would bother me but it didn't. Why? Well I have chosen to respect those who are deserving and ignore those who want to either try and bring me down to their level or who are just plain childish.
Don't allow others that don't matter to deter you from something that brings you joy no matter what it is. Do not allow others to take away your happiness. Live for you and not what others say. We will not always agree and that is something that makes humans so unique, to agree to disagree, but if you feel as if someone crossed the line, either take it with a pinch-of-salt or ignore it. That's what's so awesome about it all, we have a choice in the matter, the power to choose.
I hope I have not overstepped my boundry. If I have, I am sorry. Sweet 69guy, I wish you all the best. Maybe just try and shift your way of thinking for a while, give it a try with some new thoughts and then decide if really and truly that you want to retire. I hope by sharing my words of wisdom has touched you in a meaningful way.
Take care of you,
xoxoIndia
Sweet 69guy,
Darling, its funny how, more often that not, people care too much about what others think
but fortunately we have a choice in the matter. We can either choose too condone the behavior of others who attack by responding back thus giving permission for it to continue or we can choose to ignore those who attack thus cutting off any lines of opportunity for those to attack again. Even if they do try to over and over again to attack, eventually they will get tired themselves and give up because people that possess that type behavior, attract those who possess the same type of behavior. Tyrone785 nailed it right on the spot (pardon the pun) LOL. I myself am quilty as well for allowing this sort of behavior to have a place in my life. But as it ate away at me, as Tyrone785 justly stated, why care about what people think. It will only hold you back in life. True enough, true enough. So since I have changed my ways of thinking, I have been at more peace with myself and found so much more happiness. I actually just went through something along the same principal last night to be honest. I am sure that all parties that were involved thought for sure that it would bother me but it didn't. Why? Well I have chosen to respect those who are deserving and ignore those who want to either try and bring me down to their level or who are just plain childish.
Don't allow others that don't matter to deter you from something that brings you joy no matter what it is. Do not allow others to take away your happiness. Live for you and not what others say. We will not always agree and that is something that makes humans so unique, to agree to disagree, but if you feel as if someone crossed the line, either take it with a pinch-of-salt or ignore it. That's what's so awesome about it all, we have a choice in the matter, the power to choose.
I hope I have not overstepped my boundry. If I have, I am sorry. Sweet 69guy, I wish you all the best. Maybe just try and shift your way of thinking for a while, give it a try with some new thoughts and then decide if really and truly that you want to retire. I hope by sharing my words of wisdom has touched you in a meaningful way.
Take care of you,
xoxoIndia
My 2 bits
The negative shit has always gone on and it always will, it is nothing new. Imho the best solution I believe is to go if you start to become something you realize isn’t good. Most don’t even conceive what they have turned into so that is awesome of you to have that self awareness. Many can handle the BS because they are hardened asswipes to begin with. You can still enjoy the hobby as most great escorts don’t even go near these boards anyways.
The negative shit has always gone on and it always will, it is nothing new. Imho the best solution I believe is to go if you start to become something you realize isn’t good. Most don’t even conceive what they have turned into so that is awesome of you to have that self awareness. Many can handle the BS because they are hardened asswipes to begin with. You can still enjoy the hobby as most great escorts don’t even go near these boards anyways.
All i can offer is do what you think is best/right for you.
It would seem we have a similar taste in women (from what I can gather from your posts) and if you keep in contact with those you have met and enjoyed here you won't go wrong!
It would seem we have a similar taste in women (from what I can gather from your posts) and if you keep in contact with those you have met and enjoyed here you won't go wrong!
Don't let it get you down, 69 - Kendra will still be around even if she accepts that job. Have you got your Kendra VIP passes yet ? I have . . .
Kendra VIP passes? this may seem bold but i don't think i need one.....lol. i think i was the first to get one though.
Kendra VIP passes? this may seem bold but i don't think i need one.....lol. i think i was the first to get one though.
It's been my experience that the internet assholes are weak pussies when you met them in real life.
Reminds me of that scene from Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back when they are flying around the country to beat the crap out of internet trolls, and the trolls are either teenage boys, priests or middle-aged middle managers.
