We have had several discussions regarding a relationship with a SP. Many SP's have expressed problems with their relationships (husbands and SO's) here.
I would like to start by stating, we build relationships with words. Despite the fact that words are merely phonetic symbols, they define us. Most of the words we know were learned before we were seven years old, too early to fully analyze or understand them. As children, when important people in our lives used words to describe what was right and wrong, their affects became part of our attitude. As adults, we respond negatively or positively according to how those important people in our lives felt when expressing certain words.
As children we would say “Stick and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” Still we felt the sting when called stupid retard, whore, fat cow, skinny freak. Many of us still feel pain when labeled by the use of words.
The words we use in describing a girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband must measure up with what we’ve learned. Is it possible to look pass the labels to know a person, so that we can love them as a human being? Conversely, if we look pass a learned value expressed by words such as trust, being faithful, loyalty and wedding vows for self gratification is the relationship destined to failure?
I would like to start by stating, we build relationships with words. Despite the fact that words are merely phonetic symbols, they define us. Most of the words we know were learned before we were seven years old, too early to fully analyze or understand them. As children, when important people in our lives used words to describe what was right and wrong, their affects became part of our attitude. As adults, we respond negatively or positively according to how those important people in our lives felt when expressing certain words.
As children we would say “Stick and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” Still we felt the sting when called stupid retard, whore, fat cow, skinny freak. Many of us still feel pain when labeled by the use of words.
The words we use in describing a girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband must measure up with what we’ve learned. Is it possible to look pass the labels to know a person, so that we can love them as a human being? Conversely, if we look pass a learned value expressed by words such as trust, being faithful, loyalty and wedding vows for self gratification is the relationship destined to failure?
