I gotta jump back in on this one. Expecting a bbbj on a first meet is a bit much unless you're willing to sling it with some fairly low-end and desperate SP. And you don't want that even if it's just to get your rocks off. I've found working up to it once a comfort level has been set is a more realistic expectation. And frankly, I don't understand why some guys get so bent out of shape over cbj vs bbbj - your dick is in her mouth, just enjoy it.