Maury Beniowski said:
Something happens to a wife of 10-20-30 years that can't be reversed even with an honest "heart-to-heart" conversation about sexual needs....Women in long term relationships nowadays have to take a hard look at themselves, and frame it in the context of the real world.
Since this thread hasn't yet died I have to add that this is 100% true!
I have noticed that once married, the desire for sex goes away and women are very ignorant/selfish to think it has gone away for their husbands too. I would say only 10% of my married clientele get any sex at all, usually once a week. I would love to teach married women how simple it would be to keep their hubby happy. When I was married and my hubby came home stressed I would get him a beer and sit him down for a blow job. I wouldn't say anything and I would just leave him sitting there after with a dreamy look on his face and go about my day. I didn't have to put out or fake romance, just pay attention to the signs and get rid of the sexual tension when it appears. Why don't all women know that? Can someone steer me to a bulletin board for disgruntled divorced women so I can drop this epiphany/bombshell on them????
Or as a few of my clients wives do, drop them off at a providers place to have those needs taken care of. It's easy, selfless and gets results. They aren't going to fall in love and leave her like they would if it was an exciting forbidden affair. I believe women care about their husbands fidelity only because it is embarrassing if people knew, and an insult to oneself, more than anything else. All the more reason why a provider is the answer!
End of story.
PS Yogi, I went back and read it again and I'm sorry but I didn't detect any of the things you saw. It was long winded and naive maybe but I believe she had good intentions of wanting people to find happiness at home. If it doesn't apply to you ignore it, but you can't judge it since you are not married. The first 5+ people had no complaints, and took it in the spirit with which it was offered. Alexis has a good point, why be sensitive, especialy when her comments don't even apply to you? I don't mean to single you out at all, I just logically found your reaction to be more judgemental than the original well-meaning advice. Anything anyone ever says can be picked apart and critiqued, but it doesn't solve anything. Logic always gets me in trouble.... but logically she offered her advice then you quiped don't offer advice unless it is asked, yet you gave your advice without being asked. I just don't get that...
I do disagree with several things she said like bringing a present??? Sheesh, NOT!
