Kids - Good Idea?
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I know I'm going to get flack for this as soon as the 'breeder' haters get wind of the thread, but Kids are great!
I only have one, but I take my nieces and nephews as often as possible. To raise a child is one of the greatest achievements I have on my resume.
There are stages that are frustrating, stages that are annoying and stages that make you realize what a miracle your little pumpkin is.
And to watch them grow and see what kind of a person you've raised your little one to be is amazing. The first time my little one said "please" or "thank you" without my reminder almost brought a tear to my eye. I then realized that I had done an OK job so far.
I'm such a cheese ball.
But there ya go. one opinion, let's here the many many more!
I know I'm going to get flack for this as soon as the 'breeder' haters get wind of the thread, but Kids are great!
I only have one, but I take my nieces and nephews as often as possible. To raise a child is one of the greatest achievements I have on my resume.
There are stages that are frustrating, stages that are annoying and stages that make you realize what a miracle your little pumpkin is.
And to watch them grow and see what kind of a person you've raised your little one to be is amazing. The first time my little one said "please" or "thank you" without my reminder almost brought a tear to my eye. I then realized that I had done an OK job so far.
I'm such a cheese ball.
But there ya go. one opinion, let's here the many many more!
Well said Bobbi, here here, I couldn't agree with you more, everyday I look at my son and couldn't imagine my life without him and the joy and up's he has brought too me in some of my worst times.
My kids are all growed up now and I am so very proud of them each special in there own way, I know by looking at them I'd a good job especially when I was a single parent for a large part of there lives, Now I'm a granddad those kids will wear me out, and I will love every minute of it, they all have alot to say but first thing how much they love thear granddad, I'm tearing up just thinking about it.Great thread
Being a dad is the hardest job in the world but it's also the BEST job. My daughter has always been my best buddy and over the years she was often the only reason to get out of bed some days. Every age brings something new and wonderful, even those times when you could wring their little necks. I have friends who don't have kids and that's okay for them but I couldn't imagine my life without my daughter. One of my regrets is that my ex and I didn't have more.
I'm all for kids, just don't want ANY of them for myself. Don't want the responsibility, potential heartache, cost, mess, disruption to my life that I quite enjoy, having to be tied to a single partner. To that end I've been to the vet and been neutered and aside from those first three days where I had to wear a cone so I wouldn't lick myself I have no regrets.
I have two god children I love and a number of very close friends who I'm like an uncle to their kids so thats where I get my paternal fill.
I have two god children I love and a number of very close friends who I'm like an uncle to their kids so thats where I get my paternal fill.
The most
important thing in my life, I don't know that I could go on in the situation I'm in if not for the unconditional love of my two children. Without them I would be adrift most of the time.
important thing in my life, I don't know that I could go on in the situation I'm in if not for the unconditional love of my two children. Without them I would be adrift most of the time.
Good question
G.A.
I have two children, would have had more if the financial ability was there. I can hardly wait to see them married and with children of their own. Then I can be the happy & proud grandparent my parents were.threepeat said:
G.A.
Many years ago I didn't feel I wanted kids of my own cause I didn't have the patience for them. A friend of mine said "you'll love your own and probably still hate other kids" He was right on the money I adore my daughters but pretty well have no use for anybody else's kids. So if you're thinking about it go for it . You can still hate everybody elses kids thats
where I am at !!!!!
Big k
where I am at !!!!!
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Kids
, and a 17 month old daughter, that runs to me every time I walk through the front door .
Its a feeling you cant describe unless you've been there. It's also the greatest feeling in the world to think to yourself that your were part of their upbringing and teaching them to walk, talk, ride a bike. Being able to stand there and say " those are my children" is priceless.
So, are you missing out Threepeat ? , tough to answer, but I can tell you I wouldnt have it any other way !
I've had the good fortune of having 2 healthy children. A 20 year old son that drives a nicer car than methreepeat said:
, and a 17 month old daughter, that runs to me every time I walk through the front door . Its a feeling you cant describe unless you've been there. It's also the greatest feeling in the world to think to yourself that your were part of their upbringing and teaching them to walk, talk, ride a bike. Being able to stand there and say " those are my children" is priceless.
So, are you missing out Threepeat ? , tough to answer, but I can tell you I wouldnt have it any other way !
necko said:Now I'm a granddad those kids will wear me out, and I will love every minute of it, they all have alot to say but first thing how much they love thear granddad, I'm tearing up just thinking about it.Great thread
Amazing how that works eh Necko. Been there many a time
They are best served with fries
I wanted a girl. I got her. Then my ex told (not asked) me that two was going to be the number. My fear was that I loved my daughter so much I didn’t have enough love left to share between two. I resisted for about two months. #2 wormed her way into my heart. My greatest pleasures in life has been teaching, sharing, nudging. Sometimes nicely and sometimes not so nice. The worst was hanging the number for social services and the youth emergency shelter by the phone for the oldest and, saying “we have rules, if you don’t want to follow them these are people who may be able to help you” and then praying she didn’t make the call. She didn’t and just graduated U. She lived with me, paid for her own education, managed her money from part time work, and doesn’t have a student loan. # 2 kind of got messed up while we were becoming exs, but I am lucky enough to have her with me to watch her start to blossom and start her post secondary journey. Throughout it all, the thing that I have found to be the most fun is enjoying tying the generations together. Remembering the lessons my parents taught me, depending on them and their teaching me, and teaching them and then their depending on me. At the same time the second cycle was happening to me in the next generation. My father is ninety six and my youngest is 19 and although my father is failing we all still learn from each other and are all totallyinvolved with each other. If their ma only knew what she is missing out on by being close but on the sidelines.
So the survey right – yes they are the joy of my life, I think my life would be fulfilled without them, and I miss my freedom as sometimes I wish they would just piss off for a while so I could have my own adult fun in my own house.
As they say, enjoy your children while they are young, as they will use what you have taught them to choose whether they will reciprocate and change your diapers when you are old.
I wanted a girl. I got her. Then my ex told (not asked) me that two was going to be the number. My fear was that I loved my daughter so much I didn’t have enough love left to share between two. I resisted for about two months. #2 wormed her way into my heart. My greatest pleasures in life has been teaching, sharing, nudging. Sometimes nicely and sometimes not so nice. The worst was hanging the number for social services and the youth emergency shelter by the phone for the oldest and, saying “we have rules, if you don’t want to follow them these are people who may be able to help you” and then praying she didn’t make the call. She didn’t and just graduated U. She lived with me, paid for her own education, managed her money from part time work, and doesn’t have a student loan. # 2 kind of got messed up while we were becoming exs, but I am lucky enough to have her with me to watch her start to blossom and start her post secondary journey. Throughout it all, the thing that I have found to be the most fun is enjoying tying the generations together. Remembering the lessons my parents taught me, depending on them and their teaching me, and teaching them and then their depending on me. At the same time the second cycle was happening to me in the next generation. My father is ninety six and my youngest is 19 and although my father is failing we all still learn from each other and are all totallyinvolved with each other. If their ma only knew what she is missing out on by being close but on the sidelines.
So the survey right – yes they are the joy of my life, I think my life would be fulfilled without them, and I miss my freedom as sometimes I wish they would just piss off for a while so I could have my own adult fun in my own house.
As they say, enjoy your children while they are young, as they will use what you have taught them to choose whether they will reciprocate and change your diapers when you are old.
I was in the delivery room when 2 of my 3 kids were born, for the third I wasn't allowed in, went to different hospital ,different rules, one of the greatest experiences of my life I adore my children, they know their dad is a pooner & accept itAlyson said:For those who didnt know I just had a new baby in May. Love my new addition to my family. When Im sad all he has to do is smile at me and I am in a better mood. My kids make me feel good and I love having them around
Alyson
Kids are a great idea...provided you are doing it because it is something you really want to do. If you are thinking about having kids to please your spouse, parents, inlaws, friends who already have them and want you to 'catch up', just don't do it. I strongly doubt you will be happy with forced parenthood. Also, don't get caught up in the belief that if you have kids, they will look after you in your old age. I worked in a nursing home, I know for a fact it is just not so.
Dakota Wood said:
I just had this exact same thought the other day. I was visiting with my grandmother and having coffee. She looks at me and in her Eastern European accent, she says " So, when will I have a great grandchild from you?" I replied " Not in your lifetime." I thought it was a bit harsh, but lucky for me, she always knows where I am coming from so I never have to explain myself. I thought about it, but I have made the choice for school and a career before it will even be a thought. I am selfish, what can I say? I want to travel more and having kids makes things messy. I have a dog, that's enough.
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