just curious but why is nervous newbies or first time sessions so hard

[sevenofnine]

i don't know but there have been lots of threads about first time advice nervous newbies guys struggling performance issues the girls not in to it,

honestly what is the big deal.
just curious
my first time was magical,
and i wish i could take the credit for it, but it was all the lady.
no conversation required she just took me and gave me a blow job we never said more then two words to each other but i was hooked,

the lady i see now, our first session was awkard as hell, we struggled for conversation there was zero chemistry between us.
but again she just took me and said she likes it when guys go down on her perform oral on her,
and honestly eight years latter im still going down on her.
chemistry came as we went conversation came as we went and fiqured it out.

i have had bad first sessions and honestly never went back the girl just didn't seem to want to, they would rather bitch and complain about me or some other client who stood them up or whatever or just life in general and never really want to satisfy me, with a bj hj or fs they simply wanted my money and after that didn't seem to give a fuck,

so i will throw it out there ladies if your an escort and you don't want to give the guy a blow job or whatever, why don't you just give him his money back and send him on his way,
or simply take him and give him his blow job or whatever,
whats the problem

and guys
like some one said a few posts back, if victoria jolie tells you to eat her ass out, and you have a problem with that what the hell are you doing here,
maybe dato is a little strong, but honestly if an sp a good looking decent sp asks you to eat her out or go down on her, and you have a problem with that, or wants to give you a bj or hand job, and you can't respond
i mean the question has to be asked what the hell do you want

i have noticed some girls saying first time should be like two hours or 90
i think bull shit,
the last thing you want to do, is open the door on some one your not comfortable with and be stuck with them for two hours or ninety mins.
the shortest session like half an hour, pop the money on her coffee table,
and let her get to work she either can get you off or she can't or wants to or doesn't
and either you can respond to her or you can't,
and conversation is not required or even chemistry
i think all that is required is a willingness by both parties

and keep it short and simple and build from there if she manages to get you off.
but honestly why is it so difficult

 

[Dgodus]

Not sure about nerves, had them sometimes not others, on first meeting someone new.

What I don't like is I've seen lots of threads and reference (most on a certain reco board) saying "ask me how I like it" or "what I want" because just blowing a guy or straight fucking a guy for extended periods of time can be uncomfortable. All good, I mean it's hot as hell when a woman blurts out suck on my clit or in your example eat my ass. But I'm not finding any providers that really do this (yes sometimes I might say it's just me, but met enough sp's that I knew for certain they enjoyed themselves or at least got off - don't think you can fake squirting). I've even asked for this, but nope nothing. It's actually starting to get a little uncomfortable, thinking someone may be in discomfort (I'm a bit larger and it's been mentioned a few times by different ladies - one to the effect "you aren't putting all of that thing inside me"). Well what's going to actually get me off more than any position or activity is active participation on the woman's part, noise, a woman taking what she wants being a little selfish. I mean I'm going to get mine regardless, and I'm not going to let it go somewhere I'm uncomfortable, but it's going to be alot better with someone who's responsive, asks for things, and initiates things on their own accord (even for themselves). I'm not into someone who's passive.

So to actually answer op. Generally no nerves going in, but someone can make me nervous or feeling awkward with the way they go about things. I'm not willing to fully take the lead when I know there's a bunch of boundaries I can't cross.

 

[LADY-VIA]

newbies are an easy mark to be taken advantage of.... but Im not that kind of girl

I actually see alot of new pooners ... or guys who have only seen maybe one girl before. I think alot of the nerves has to do with having a bad experience with the first provider they have seen, and or not really knowing what to exspect if its their first time.. Im a fairly outgoing bubbly person, so meeting new people and striking up a conversation comes naturally to me.. but for shy guys.. its not always the easiest thing to do.. even more so when you are meeting a beautiful girl.. whose pictures you have been looking at for a while.. it can be very intimidating. I generally take the time to talk to new clients on the phone for as long as they really need, so they can grasp a sense of my personality over the phone, which I find has really helped to calm alot of nerves. They get the chance to hear that im really down to earth, and not that intimidating after all .

and I do agree that its always nice for clients who are unsure to have a half hour options.. most of my half hour sessions the first time around turn into full hour sessions the second time around !!!!!!!

sincerely true

LADY VIA