I hear you Maxx. I'm in a very similar situation right now and not really sure what to do. I am active outside of work. I play sports, work on my fitness at the gym, read, and do all the things that were suggested except the online dating thing. There is a certain amount of satisfaction that comes from the things that I do but what I really want is a person to say "hello" when I come home or get a hug when I'm down and out. I totally understand where you are coming from...two lost souls looking for something make that three including Shay.
Just a lonely thought
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Life Winds down at 50??
I have to disagree with you on this point. Life never winds down unless you let it wind down.
You know imo, you need to happy with yourself, you need to be happy with your life.
Who knows how long you are going to be single?
Why pine for companionship?
Why not fill your "inside" with things you enjoy doing and living your life instead of missing the things you "don't have".
All I'm saying is be social, use that gym membership maxx was saying he was getting collection calls from. Invite friends over for dinner, get out and join social activities. Join a dating site and start emailing prospective partners.
Be proactive, not reactive.
Maxx has a choice. We all have a choice.
You can wait for life to happen to you - or you can go live it.
You can be very happy being single. It's a mindset.
I know the feeling
I know exactly how Maxx feels. Throught on top of that a divorce and the ex bitch not allowing me contact with my kid. Say all you want about getting involved in other activities. I do other activities. They only delay going back to an empty house.
I know exactly how Maxx feels. Throught on top of that a divorce and the ex bitch not allowing me contact with my kid. Say all you want about getting involved in other activities. I do other activities. They only delay going back to an empty house.
Not to worry.
Thanks guys and girls for the concern and the suggestions .. It was more of a thought then a cry for help..although I some times need help to get through it .
I do have my favorite girl that has help me alot in the last year or so .. and like wise i have tried to be there for her if she needs it..But yes i am still lonely and have been most of my life . i am just a loner it is not that easy for me to put my self out there .. i have my comfort zones.. and i stay in them unless i meet a very exceptional person .. that i am willing to step out with. it has happened a few time . and i feel great. in fact i don't even notice the rest of the world around me, just them.
As for getting out and doing things .. i have in the past . I went to the gym 3 days a week but never really got to friendly with any one .. i went to a drop in figure draw section once a week for three years or more . just never connected with any one out side of the sections
I also spent meny an hour through the years in pub, i am not a drinker but i played keno. there i did meet a few people that i talked to when i was there. but never did any thing out side of the pub.. Don't worry i know it is me..i just don't have that much in commen with others .
I also spent a fair bit of time at the local strip bars . there i did meet one of girls .. that was a friend for a while.. and we still e mail but it was one of those strange situation i get my self into .. it was good to know some one but it was me helping her and her boyfriend.
And then there was the one and only time i have had what i thought was a girl friend . and to day i would have to say by the time it ended i was feeling more lonely then ever.
I meny ways that last year has be the best time i have had Been on my own , I use to live with my parents, I have seen afew of the best girls in Victoria . and i have a few that i am very friendly with..I have said meny time that I am more comfortable with the people here an d with escorts . be cause we have something in commen and share some of the same experiences
What i did find out that meny are in the same boat . and do feel the same way some times..and also .you all have your way of coping with it. that is part of the reason why we are all here.
But thanks again for you input.
And have a merry Christams.
Thanks guys and girls for the concern and the suggestions .. It was more of a thought then a cry for help..although I some times need help to get through it .
I do have my favorite girl that has help me alot in the last year or so .. and like wise i have tried to be there for her if she needs it..But yes i am still lonely and have been most of my life . i am just a loner it is not that easy for me to put my self out there .. i have my comfort zones.. and i stay in them unless i meet a very exceptional person .. that i am willing to step out with. it has happened a few time . and i feel great. in fact i don't even notice the rest of the world around me, just them.
As for getting out and doing things .. i have in the past . I went to the gym 3 days a week but never really got to friendly with any one .. i went to a drop in figure draw section once a week for three years or more . just never connected with any one out side of the sections
I also spent meny an hour through the years in pub, i am not a drinker but i played keno. there i did meet a few people that i talked to when i was there. but never did any thing out side of the pub.. Don't worry i know it is me..i just don't have that much in commen with others .
I also spent a fair bit of time at the local strip bars . there i did meet one of girls .. that was a friend for a while.. and we still e mail but it was one of those strange situation i get my self into .. it was good to know some one but it was me helping her and her boyfriend.
And then there was the one and only time i have had what i thought was a girl friend . and to day i would have to say by the time it ended i was feeling more lonely then ever.
I meny ways that last year has be the best time i have had Been on my own , I use to live with my parents, I have seen afew of the best girls in Victoria . and i have a few that i am very friendly with..I have said meny time that I am more comfortable with the people here an d with escorts . be cause we have something in commen and share some of the same experiences
What i did find out that meny are in the same boat . and do feel the same way some times..and also .you all have your way of coping with it. that is part of the reason why we are all here.
But thanks again for you input.
And have a merry Christams.
I understand you maxx coz I used to feel the same way too after splitup with my long time ex. The best solution I can tell you from my experience is you just try to get used to being alone or try to enjoy being alone. IT's not too bad at all to be single afterall when you find something else to do, then some day a right girl will come along naturally.
I made a huge mistake by running into an impetuous relationship just because I was too lonely, and that costed me big time and money. I KNOW pooning can never replace a good relationship but I rather see sp whenever I want to than dealing with drama everyday for nothing.
I made a huge mistake by running into an impetuous relationship just because I was too lonely, and that costed me big time and money. I KNOW pooning can never replace a good relationship but I rather see sp whenever I want to than dealing with drama everyday for nothing.
