Isolation and lonliness.

[eggtart_prince]

Learn the essence of of being or doing anything alone. Not needing anyone to help you get through boring times, not relying on anyone to get through the tough times, not depending on anyone to be by your side; capable of doing all of this, and enjoy every moment of it is the greatest gift anyone can have.

For me, I can go out and do my errands and stuff without feeling lonely. I enjoy being by myself and I also enjoy being in the company of others who enjoys my company as well. My parents were divorced, and because of this, I felt neglected when I was a kid. I took the negative emotion of feeling abandoned and turned into a positive trait of being by myself, and enjoy it. When I see a couple passing by, I don't feel jealous or hate, instead I feel envy and think that maybe one day I will have someone to love again, but it is okay if I never do.

I think the feeling of being alone grows as one ages, and all they see if the emptiness behind them, and the road ending up ahead. By knowing what the problem is, and where the problem will be when you're 80 and on a hospital bed, why not do what you can now to make yourself happy? You only live once.

 

[newkind]

Just because I don't want to chat with you on the bus doesn't mean I'm lonely. It means you look really fucking boring.

you could be on to something, the chronically alone might for some reason be "boring" to any potential partners, part of their personality might put them at a disadvantage to those that are like "the life of the party" types that like the idea of entertaining someone

 

[Unpossible]

you could be on to something, the chronically alone might for some reason be "boring" to any potential partners, part of their personality might put them at a disadvantage to those that are like "the life of the party" types that like the idea of entertaining someone

In order to be the "life of the party" you have to actually be entertaining. Villainizing someone for not being interested in your life is fucking arrogant.

 

[newkind]

In order to be the "life of the party" you have to actually be entertaining. Villainizing someone for not being interested in your life is fucking arrogant.

I never villainized anyone, was just stating the fact that many that are alone are doomed to be that way due to their personality type, shyness or quietness

 

[Unpossible]

I never villainized anyone, was just stating the fact that many that are alone are doomed to be that way due to their personality type, shyness or quietness

I wasn't trying to argue with you. I was expanding on what you said. Sorry for the confusion.

 

[kauffman]

Something I have been wondering about of late,
Why is everyone so alone,
Im on the bus and train of late, and I look at a train full of people and no one is talking. Its like were afraid to look at someone.
I walk down the mall for coffee and no one makes eye contact.

At times I want to scream, were all people whats the matter with you all.


I got to the pub early for my date with my sp, a bunch of lonely single males sitting there occasionally finding support in there group lonliness.
A really cute waitress comes up to me and sort of shrugs, another single male to fight off all night long, her body language seemed to communicate.
She actually seemed relieved when I told her someone was joining me shortly..

Across the room a single girl, as I watched her so appeared to be so depressed lonely at times crying. What the fuck is the matter with the males in the room I wondered.

Was it a culture of sex, I wondered, the women doesn't appear to be fuckable, or in the mood so leave her alone.
If I wasn't meeting someone I would have sent a drink over, I even briefly thought of asking her to join me and my sp, but only briefly.

Leaving the place late at night another lone women comes up to us, where is a liquor store she wants to know, alone and scared, she wants to get drunk, I point to the bar we just left, I only have money for a bottle she says and I am alone.
she asks my sp for a ride,
appears to be scared of me,
again the culture of sex,, women just good to fuck, that's all.
and I think she has been fucked over a few times actually.

so sad a young girl alone just wants to forget it all in a bottle.

I can't help but wonder what is wrong. what is wrong with everything.

I am an old guy and I connect with a few older guys on the train for my daily grind.
almost one a day,
But they are old like me, and have come to the realization that life is only about one thing, the people we have the people we meet the people we call friends and family.
A shared community a brotherhood with everyone, were all in this together after all.


I remember the song, Garth Brooks the one the wolfs bring down.

Some days I just want to scream, whats the matter with everyone,

Why are we all so alone and isolated.

THat's easy. Because it sells stuff. Creating a climate where people feel isolated and unattractive and depressed while presenting images of poreless photoshopped impossibly beautiful "people" wearing amazing clothes doing amazing things and having endless amounts of money with which to do it all with while making the purchasing of almost anything as easy as a pressing a button; all delivered to your door without having to speak to a soul.... The powers that be have us all glued to individual "marketing and selling pods". As long as we are all isolated and alone we are much more vulnerable to manipulation.
It's always about money... ANd sadly I think the next generation of youths is going to be incredibly socially retarded.... having began their lives from day one in such an environment:crazy:

 

[kauffman]

Vancouver is kind of a cold place when you're single....

1) no one approaches anyone - have heard this a lot from women. Lots of 'beta' males in this town who don't have the confidence or social skills to interact with women (why do you think Vancouver's sex trade is thriving?)...and the one's that do are cocky jerkwads. I had this conversation today having drinks after work w/ a lady friend of mine. Men in other cites don't have this issue.

2) conversely - lots of women in this town are kinda stuck up. They're waiting for that dotcom or showbiz rich guy...and they'll dismiss everyone else. Women in other cities don't have this issue. they'll at least have a chat w/ a guy before they write him off politely.

3) Everyone's too focused on their devices - if you take transit you know this to be true.

4) Lots of people don't interact in person anymore - they do it online or use mobile apps for finding other people. Those you see at eateries and bars chatting have probably already sifted through some BS online before they hooked up.

I'm always baffled by the comment that Vancouver women are "stuck up". ONly the ones at expensive high end nite clubs and lounges have I noticed this. There are tons of super friendly women in Vancouver. Where are you finding all these women and how are you approaching them? Certainly not every woman is looking for super rich guys. Maybe you're just looking in the wrong places

 

[kauffman]

I disagree with that actually, I think the women want sex then want to be left alone, they are able to get attention all the time every day, they spend their days avoiding attention

guys on the other hand, are not able to get that attention, girls aren't texting and emailing them all day looking for attention, girls get attention all the time

and as for guys wanting sex, sex is so easy to get I don't even care about it anymore, I can pay $160 and have great sex any time I want, but real attention and love and desire from a girl that is sooooooo much harder to get

I think that probably different people want different things aside from the obvious biological predispositions. Given the option we'd all love to have a super hot, wealthy partner and an incredible sex life and be madly in love... But at the end of the day we all just want to feel happy. Sometimes we take the shortcut to instant and fleeting gratification of our immediate needs and sometimes we look further ahead and consider the kind of companionship we may want over the longterm. Seems those of us on this forum are dabling more in the instant gratification arena... Or perhaps that is presumptuous too.
Speaking from a female perspective... I avoid social interactions partly because of the large part of my life that is difficult to discuss openly with the average person. I enjoy honest conversation and feel sharing this part of my life (which is a large part) would likely be met with too much judgement for it to be worthwhile. Its a very isolating trade

 

[Jessica James]

I don't think there is anything wrong with spending time to yourself maybe even for long periods days and and even weeks . I have created the most amazing projects in times of self pity and isolation .

Sometimes people in the city are cold and standoff ish but I never buy into that at all , I engage in conversations with strangers on the daily and meet the most amazing people because it's pretty hard even for the bitchiest of females or the slickest of fellows to not be smiling and happy when your smiling and happy . Happy people attract happy people and at the least give someone a reason to smile who otherwise feels the shits.
Xoxo
Jessica

 

[PlayfulAlex]

I don't think there is anything wrong with spending time to yourself maybe even for long periods days and and even weeks . I have created the most amazing projects in times of self pity and isolation .

Sometimes people in the city are cold and standoff ish but I never buy into that at all , I engage in conversations with strangers on the daily and meet the most amazing people because it's pretty hard even for the bitchiest of females or the slickest of fellows to not be smiling and happy when your smiling and happy . Happy people attract happy people and at the least give someone a reason to smile who otherwise feels the shits.
Xoxo
Jessica

So true! When I'm out on my walk, I smile at everyone that will give me eye contact, and guess what...they all smile back!

 

[manni]

The Stranger Project:

saw this segment on CTV last night where a local man took the idea of
talking to complete strangers (one a day for 2014) in Vancouver.


http://bc.ctvnews.ca/the-stranger-p...ckling-city-s-unfriendly-reputation-1.1645130

imo, isolation and loneliness for the most part is a choice.