Is this why I started in this hobby?

[Thatotherguy]

Condoms are not 100% safe. There remains risk, albeit greatly reduced. And infection does not happen only through vaginal sex. One takes risks with this hobby, and it makes sense to manage the risk.

Certainly the regular occurrence of SP BBFS raises the stakes; as the prospect of the girl carrying some sort of STD both not so serious and also very serious, as in HIV or Hep-C, is considerably higher.

Who here would have even safe sex with someone who was known to carry HIV or Hep-C? Not me.

So where there is the known fact of regular BBFS with perhaps scores or hundreds of partners (and thereby indirect contact with perhaps thousands of unsafe persons), raising the risk immensely, why would one risk even safe sex with the unsafe SP?

Excellent post Sonny. I agree with you 100%, and you said it better than I would have. If I found out that an SP that I had seen was performing bbfs, I'd never see her again.

 

[HB40]

Who here would have even safe sex with someone who was known to carry HIV or Hep-C? Not me.

Hep-C is very rarely sexually transmitted, it's strictly blood to blood.

 

[t1163]

I had another reason for bargain shopping...

every situation is unique and every person has different reasons for doing what they do, yet you've taken it upon yourself to be the judge and jury and guess what? we're all guilty in your eyes cause you've talked to these women in their native tongue right? have you talked to all of them? even the ones in different cities? is every single woman that works in an asian micro a victim of sexual slavery? i highly doubt it.

I can't hide that much money from the SO & from accounting! It is my petty cash box but it gets checked by others in the company. Twenty or thirty bucks here and there won't be missed but $$$ all at once would! Same with the houshold cash - smaller amounts go unnoticed.

My choice of seein' this girl was that I could see her without having to explain why my cash expenditures are so high this month! How would you like to explain that to a Revenue Canada Auditor - what line on my T2 does pooning expenses go?

BTW is "Moi" a SP?

 

[BigTymerAMP]

Having an SO is why this is wrong. If you didn't have an SO than I would say do whatever you want, it's your life and you may or may not have any consequences to pay. But if you have an SO and you're sexually active with her, than this is just wrong.

I absolutely agree with your words, FunSugarDaddy. Cheers!

 

[Sonny]

Hep-C is very rarely sexually transmitted, it's strictly blood to blood.

"However, because of the high prevalence of hepatitis C, this small risk may translate into a non-trivial number of cases transmitted by sexual routes. Vaginal penetrative sex is believed to have a lower risk of transmission than sexual practices that involve higher levels of trauma to anogenital mucosa (anal penetrative sex, fisting, use of sex toys)."

So, your observation is true, but if BBFS is on the table, a risk is there, and even moreso if BB anal comes into play.... which is not unimaginable since there is already BBFS to be had. There was a while back the infamous indie Thai SP who did both.

Still, there are numerous STDs, some potentially very damaging and some deadly, to be transmitted through BBFS... none of which appeal to me.

With the SP doing BBFS being a statistically more likely carrier of something versus a SP who always uses condoms, I can skip the higher risk and have my good time with a safer choice.

 

[BigTymerAMP]

But, it's like a drug!

I am struggling with myself to stay away. Each & every time I get the urge I have to talk myself out of calling - what the hell!! I'm an old man; I've been around the block; I know what an infatuation is. Yet, I'm drawn to her? I haven't seen her in (more than) 5 months - you'd think I'd be over it by now?

I am "o.k." with some of you guys giving me shit, but, here is the thing:

I liked her! The fact that she works in an asian micro, can't speak english and only charges $ is beside the point! I liked her! I can't help that she made me so hot I had forgotten what it felt like to be that excited!! I haven't felt that way in years!!

It sucks that I have to let her go.

I'll never see her again & I'm whinning about it to you guys.

Is it her that you like or is it the attention that you get from her that you like? I'm sure that somewhere in the back of your mind, you were hoping that bbfs was a possibility with her. That is the reason why you kept going back and why you still want to go back.

 

[t1163]

Sort of??

Is it her that you like or is it the attention that you get from her that you like? I'm sure that somewhere in the back of your mind, you were hoping that bbfs was a possibility with her. That is the reason why you kept going back and why you still want to go back.

She did this on my 3rd. visit. I (normally) never go back more than once (I'll explain later) to the same girl. She impressed me the first 2 times. It is hard to explain in words except to say that she had a femininity about her that attracted me. She was friendly, fun & made me laugh. She had a way of making me feel comfortable & sexually excited at the same time.

The only other time I felt this way was with Kara-Lynn. I only saw Kara-Lynn one time, but, I knew that (after meeting once) I was strongly attracted to her! I knew I could not go back a second time for fear of becoming too infatuated with her. Kara-Lynn wiggled into bed beside me with a gentle touch and romantic familiarity that only couples in long term relationships enjoy... a connection... chemistry! What ever you want to call it I knew that there was no chance she felt the same way. I think of her often but I never went to see her again.

It is interesting to me that neither of these women I would stop to look at on the street. Neither are ugly - 'cute' is a better description, however, both posses a feminin charm that happens to be 'my thing'.

I broke my own "one time only" rule! Now look at me!