Is she taking advantage of me?

[charles]

So I've had a regular SP for over a year now. We get along really well. I met her at an agency but after a while she felt comfortable enough to see me at her own home.

I know her full name, where she lives, and basically her life story. She's easily the most attractive woman I've been with by far. The sex is awesome. It's been great for the most part. She's said many times that I'm her favourite client.

That's the good stuff. The bad stuff is she's been very inconsiderate of my time on several occasions. Yeah, I know SPs are flaky at best but if I'm her favourite client, how does she treat her less favourite guys?

Case in point. A few times, we agree on a day to meet but she'll promise to tell what time to come over since she's not sure of her schedule. The appointed day comes and I get no response from her. Doesn't answer the phone or my text messages. Sometimes, I have to wait two days or more to figure out what happened to her. It's usually some lame excuse where all it takes is five minutes to call me to cancel but she can't even do that.

Setting up appointments with her is also a hassle. I give her lots of warning when I want to visit but I get no response from her. If she's not available, she'll just let my calls and messages go unanswered. That's her way of saying "I'm not available", rather than actually just taking a minute to call or text. Sometimes, it takes two or three calls over the course of a week to get her to acknowledge me.

My latest disappointment happened two weeks ago. She told me she was free on Friday, several days in advance. Couldn't get a hold of her at all the entire day. She waited two full days to tell me what happened. Turns out she was sleeping. She said sorry but then continued on like it was nothing. I freed up my evening for her.

I'm considering seeing her through her agency again. When I saw her for over six months in that fashion, she was never late, never cancelled on me. The reason I suppose is that she'd get into trouble with the agency. When she's on her own with me though, she's free to do whatever she wants because she doesn't have to answer to anyone, including me.

In my frustration, before she called me to explain, I phoned another SP and made an appt. for next weekend. My regular says she'll be available the same weekend though.

So my perbites, I ask you these questions. Is my regular taking advantage of me? Should I just keep my booking with this new SP and get some more variety?

I feel like I'm been walked over and I know a lot of you guys wouldn't stand for any of this. The one thing that makes me put up with all this shit is that my regular is extremely attractive and the sex is very fulfilling.

What are your thoughts?

 

[georgebushmoron]

She is taking advantage of you. Many fish in the sea. Don't be pussy whipped. Be a man and hunt down another.

 

[CalgaryJenn]

I would totally have to agree as this is bad manners, rude and down right inconsiderate. Stick with your original plan with this new SP and make her aware that you like consistancy and consideration not like your past run ins and all it takes is a phone call if this new one may become your new fave. Not returning calls and unanswered text messages is just bad business ethics.

 

[flyhere]

She is taking you for granted and knows she can get away with it. Unless you drop her altogether, she will continue to be irresponsible and totally unreliable. You already know the answer to your own question.

 

[Enchanted One]

Sorry hun, but sounds like she's jerking you around. She knows you really
dig her (but her feelings for you is lukewarm at best). Don't put up with
this rude, inconsiderate behaviour. Book thru her agency if you want to
continue seeing her.

Don't let anyone waste your valuable time even if she is a hottie.

 

[athaire]

Give the old one a rest for awhile......nothing like time and distance to make one think.....

 

[Guardian Angel]

Been there

Give the old one a rest for awhile......nothing like time and distance to make one think.....

I know it's tough, but let her call you. Stay away. You'll get the gut feeling if she is bored or using you as you suggested.

G.A.

 

[Mchatte]

I would totally have to agree as this is bad manners, rude and down right inconsiderate. Stick with your original plan with this new SP and make her aware that you like consistancy and consideration not like your past run ins and all it takes is a phone call if this new one may become your new fave. Not returning calls and unanswered text messages is just bad business ethics.

How could I disagree with CJ when she has a degree called "Super Duper Suck Artist"? Charles, time to hand out a few ultimatems and then move on now if not fulfilled!

M

 

[TotallyTouchin]

does not sound like she is taking advantage of you. have you given her extra money or loaned her money? if so she is taking advantage of you.

there are sp's who are totally undisciplined and inconsiderate in their private lives. as you mentioned in agency life, she is always on time. perhaps she let you into her life for a different reason ... like loneliness and you have not filled that void. so now she has lost interest. you would be surprised at the number of very lonely sp's out there.

there are so many women out there. give her a rest for the next six months. then phone her and see what happens. there are so many women out there.

Yeah. I know I have been flakey before like with peoples time and I usually try to make up for it. I never like took money or something and then never showed up...that's shady.

So I think she is inconsiderate...give her a chance if the good outweighs the bad in your mind. If not...then don't see her again.

Sounds like you have a good connection with her. See her at the agency if you want to see her. Spending your time waiting on someone (and for sure an SP), is like lending someone money. Never spend more than you are willing to lose.

Doesn't sound like a bad apple girl though...just flakey

 

[Up_My_Kilt]

grow a set .. she is using you as a ATM ... find someone who will show you a little respect

 

[LonelyGhost]

if you want shit and abuse, get a girlfriend,

if you want loving companionship, get a dog,

if you want sex, book with an sp that shows up.

nuff said.

 

[Quarter Mile'r]

She's said many times that I'm her favourite client.

There's the key word in all this........................../\

I'll let your head do some thinking about that cuz the final
decision will be yours but I feel it's,

Time to move on bud.


...........QM'r

 

[westwoody]

You are the one who is responsible-you are letting her get away with it. Put her on the back burner, lots of others out there.

 

[maxwellsmart604]

Time to burn some rubber

Charles, have a look at the advice you gave back in August 2005. You've answered your own question. I think you may have developed some feelings for your regular which will no doubt screw your head up.

It may be best to move on quickly. Keep your booking, don't change your plans.

Here is the advice you gave back in August 2005.

"I've learned over the years to have a backup plan whenever seeing a girl. They aren't beholden to anyone to be reliable and/or on time.

Unless you stick to the truly professional SPs out there, be prepared for when disappointment occurs."

 

[sonoman]

Setting up appointments with her is also a hassle. I give her lots of warning when I want to visit but I get no response from her. If she's not available, she'll just let my calls and messages go unanswered. Sometimes, it takes two or three calls over the course of a week to get her to acknowledge me.

You're getting in way too deep for something that's not worth the effort.

 

[Mr.O]

Ok Charles I got sum advice fer ya.

You seem to be a glutton for pain so here's sum suggestions:

1 - Go to the Ivanhoe & in a loud voice make a disparaging remark about Natives!

2 - Do the same thing at the American (just up the road) except say that all H.A. are "GAY"!

3 - Instead of showering start taking baths...
in diesel fuel!

4 - Go to Whistler this weekend & in the center of the Village find the nearest metal lamp post... & Lick it!

5 - Strip naked... pour honey all over yourself... then pour bird seed & grain all over yourself... drive to the nearest poultry farm & lay down in the middle of the chicken pen!

6 - After the chickens are finished pecking the seed & grain off of ya go to the nearest ant pile & lay on top of it!

After completing these self emasculating tasks you should find your "favourite" SP a real pleasure!


Seriously Charles;
NO WOMAN IS WORTH LOSING YOU SELF ESTEEM OVER!!!!

SP's are PAID to make you feel like a man! (or at least better than they found you)
Why in your right mind would you pay her to disrespect you?????

I am not a Hot lookin guy, just another average Joe, but I do NOT tolerate disrespect!
I use the 3 strikes your out rule

Disrespect me once - shame on you!
Disrespect me twice - shame on me!
Disrespect me thrice - poof! - I disappear

I don't care if it is Isabelle or Tiffy TT or D. Aphrodite, Tianna, Szabina or the Hottest chick on earth... if you are a Gentleman to them & they disrespect you... Leave em' like a bad habit!

Personally I am one of the nicest most generous guys out there, until I get disrespected too many times, then I can give even "Old Man Winter" a chill!

Grow a set of balls, look in the mirror & no matter how ugly the mug lookin' back at ya, make a resolution to go forward each day with self respect, Honour & Dignity.

Eventually, when people finally get over themselves & grow up a little, they might actually see past the skin your in & recognize whether or not you’ve got a character worth knowing & respecting.




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I'm finished ranting now!!!



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[threepeat]

A lot of guys here say to ditch her, but IMHO that's easier to say when they are not the ones who have a beautiful naked woman beside them. If men always thought that rationally there would be no need for sports cars, nice watches, and designer clothes.

Remember also, some agencies and massage parlours have some pretty harsh penalties for girls who are late, like $100 fines and stuff. If it makes you feel any better, she probably treats everyone else in her personal life the same way. Unfortunately, there are also some SPs out there who book fake dates with clients ("we should go out some time baby") and have no intention of going through with them. I think they think of it as part of the GFE illusion.

It sounds to me like you still like her but are not sure of where you stand. So I say... go back to the basics. You were a good client to her; she was a good SP to you. Book her only through the agency until you get some kind of signal that she wants to take it a step further. If that signal never comes, well then the truth eventually rises to the surface.

 

[ms.belair]

If she's smart she'll figure it out all by herself...

I'm considering seeing her through her agency again. When I saw her for over six months in that fashion, she was never late, never cancelled on me. The one thing that makes me put up with all this shit is that my regular is extremely attractive and the sex is very fulfilling. What are your thoughts?

I think you've answered your own question, see her through the agency, but don't give up on her, that kind of "fulfillment" doesn't happen every day... every other day maybe...

 

[Sonny]

I feel like I'm been walked over

Nothing is worth this, so there must be "50 ways to leave your lover".

 

[charles]

Thanks!

Well folks, first off, thanks for all your replies. It's been great getting a new perspective on the situation.

Here's what I've decided. I'm going to go through with my appointment with this new SP. Variety is something I haven't had in while, so I'm kinda excited.

I'm also going to have a serious chat with my regular. Is it weird that she doesn't like talking to me on the phone? Anyways, somehow, I'm going to get ahold of her and air out my grievances in a mature manner. I'm not going to get angry or anything, I'm just going let her know she's gotta improve or I'll have to make some serious choices.

If she improves, great, if not, I have a list of new SPs that I'd like to try out.

I'm hoping for the best but if not, well, that's life.

Thanks again everyone!