Is it ok to ask an SP you're with for intel on another SP?

[Buddyguy66]

In writing the title I suppose I'm opening myself up to the obvious "up to the SP you're with"...but I'm curious how many guys have done that (or how SP's feel about it). I've been around this hobby long enough in the past to have an understanding that SP's have their own secret railroads as it were to share info on clients, with obviously ask for a check a guys references....and of course, there are the reviews here. It seems that the SP community in any particular city is small enough that most SPs know or know of others. I'm just wondering, say post having an appointment with an SP if a guy were to say, hey do you know of so and so and if so, any thoughts, if that would be rude? (i guess my thinking on this subject is stuck in if you were on a date you shouldn't talk about exes) but in the end, this is a business experience.

any thoughts, appreciated.

 

[GeeBeeP]

To me it would all boil down to the trust you have in the girl you're with. If your'e a regular client and have a good rapport it should be ok to ask, she is free to say yes or no.

If the SP you're with offers duos she would certainly have first hand (pun intended) experience with some other ladies, and I don't think the well established SP's in a larger city would mind sending some business a friends way.

On the other hand you might be getting some misinformation if one SP was actively out to discredit another.

I'll be interested in the opinion of the SP's here on this topic.

 

[Buddyguy66]

Good point on the 1st. An SP I saw regularly and had a bit more of a friend relationship with yrs ago was quite candid in this (but never I felt in a competitive or vindictive way). But yeah I did have experience with her before I asked. I guess I'm thinking more first time I meet an SP situation and taking advantage of that..but I don"t want to offend that SP either. So there's the question really I guess. Should they be offended? Its business and my safety is important too.

 

[Billiam]

Would you ask the car salesman at the dealership where you just took a test drive which of the other makes he'd recommend and why? I wouldn't.

 

[HankTomas]

Sure there is the "sisterhood" but in reality isnt this the kind of industry where it is often other girls making fake appointments/ causing shit with other girls. I would think its actually human nature in this kind of realm.
As the other poster noted, if the SP has duo partners, safe to say they are buddies & will say positive things about each other. If not, i would steer towards thinking it is more a competitive type industry than sisterhood.

 

[blakealridge]

I think the best thing to do would be ask her directly: "hey, could I ask you about a couple of other providers I'm thinking of seeing? feel free to say no, I understand if you don't want to discuss other providers."

It's often SUPER awkward when clients ask me about another provider directly. I'd prefer they asked me if it was okay to ask first (99% of the time it's not). I think we probably all feel differently about it.

Also you could just ask her who she does duos with and then you know who she'd recommend. OR you could ask her for recommendations on who else she thinks you'd like. These are both ways to ensure she only has to say positive things about others.

 

[Buddyguy66]

I think the best thing to do would be ask her directly: "hey, could I ask you about a couple of other providers I'm thinking of seeing? feel free to say no, I understand if you don't want to discuss other providers."

It's often SUPER awkward when clients ask me about another provider directly. I'd prefer they asked me if it was okay to ask first (99% of the time it's not). I think we probably all feel differently about it.

Also you could just ask her who she does duos with and then you know who she'd recommend. OR you could ask her for recommendations on who else she thinks you'd like. These are both ways to ensure she only has to say positive things about others.

Love those tips, thank you!!!🥰

 

[steverino]

Given that many of the ladies require a reference from another provider I don't see the problem if done respectfully. I would find it awkward but that's me.

 

[The Caffeinated Gent]

Echo what the poster said above... I believe that unless the two ladies already advertise interactive duos together, there's more competition than sisterhood.

I am all about discretion in this hobby, so I don't ask about other clients, other providers or even talk about perb with a provider in person. When I am with a lady in person, I am more interested in her, and I ask about her life outside of this profession, her hobbies and relationships kind of stuff as conversation starters after sex.

If I am looking for intel I come here and ask the guys. I never assume you ladies all know each other or will provide useful feedback on each other for that matter. If I am trying to connect two ladies for a duo then sure, but otherwise I wouldn't even try doing so.

 

[Buddyguy66]

I actually met a great SP yesterday for the first time, booked a longer visit with her based on my read she enjoys conversation as I do as part of the experience. To be honest with you (and it seems kind of silly to some I'm sure) my wanting to get intel was specific to a few SPs I was interested in but kind of a general question about LEO activity these days and chance of getting busted enjoying this hobby. (When I last enjoyed this hobby was before the laws changed so I was paranoid) Some SPs I note are super well reviewed and have a lot of history, heavy social media presence so I don't get any alarms. Others...don't. My question was based on interest in an SP reviewed here (all positive btw). I followed exactly the advice Charlee gave, at an appropriate time in the visit and the conversation..and visit went well. If she had been a different personality type than I expected (she wasnt..very open, outgoing) I probably wouldn't have asked.

 

[grusse]

at any given amp where 5 or 6 girls are in near daily close quarters there's bound to be friendships as well as rivalies(sp?)

if I've had a few sessions with a particular lady, sometimes she's asked if I wanted to try "name"...maybe she's tired of me,lol?
Or, I might ask if there's anyone she might recommend for future times?

as has been stated in previous posts, if it's done respectfully, it'll probably be ok.

 

[badbadboy]

I think it’s best to avoid discussing other SPs with the one you’re visiting. It’s one of those things that can go totally wrong by asking for info. Maybe they are friends, or maybe they were friends but not anymore, maybe the other SP owes her money etc etc.

Why have an open ended conversation if you’re unaware where it will take you?

Maybe try pm’ing other pooners who may have seen the SP you see enquiring about.