Is it cheating when it is a sexless marriage?

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Men put women into boxes. Theres ones they're ok with having casual sex with and sharing, I think this has something to do with "sperm competition" but ...if they grow to care about a woman on a different level, they will likely get very grumpy and territorial if other men get too close to her.
 
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Lots of women cheat on there men too,i have 4 sisters and 2 out of the 4 cheated.My Ex has 3 sisters and 2 out the the 3 cheated and one of them cheated on her 2nd husband after just one month.I think its pretty even men and women cheating.Call it what you want but its a biological urge that is strong to suppress when its not available at home.
 

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I would guess that cheating spouses are the bread and butter of these ladies. I actually used to see a lady at times and she decided to open up to me about how she hates the clients that are married and cheating. She also went on about they're the most naive and willing to spend more on her than most guys and how they are suckers. I was thrown back by that and decided never to see her again, just didn't like her vibes after that conversation.
Wow, never bite the hand that feeds you.

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I would really love to know just how many guys are married due to the financial aspect of being able to split housing costs.

I would think if that was not such a big issue, a lot of guys would get divorced and be comfortable living on their own
 

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It's not cheating if a man gets some on the side assuming he still fulfills his role as a man. If anything, it's usually the female that's cheating (or stealing if you will) because she's taking the benefits of marriage and not doing her job (i.e. satisfying her man).
1920 called, it wants its sexist opinion back
 
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I would guess that cheating spouses are the bread and butter of these ladies. I actually used to see a lady at times and she decided to open up to me about how she hates the clients that are married and cheating. She also went on about they're the most naive and willing to spend more on her than most guys and how they are suckers. I was thrown back by that and decided never to see her again, just didn't like her vibes after that conversation.
LOL WOW
THAT was a choice she made, to say that to you.
I LOVE married clients, often more than single clients. They're less likely to be clingy; to try the whole "captain save-a-whore" thing; hope I'll fall in love with them and want to be with them; etc. I offer intimacy and temporary companionship, and married guys understand and respect that. There's no worry that they're going to pursue or desire something "more" with me.
 
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If a person operates outside the terms of their given commitment it is cheating.
It seems like some people rationalize their behaviour as a response to not being fullfilled in their relationship and use their partners actions and/or inactions to justify their own.

Marriage is more then sex or access to your partners body. A commitment is a commitment, seems week to sneak around not abiding to an agreement once you feel it no longer suits you. What is your word/commitment worth?

Cheating may be easier then having tough real dialogue with a partner but since we are the sum of our thoughts and actions you will have to own/wear it.
 

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1920 called, it wants its sexist opinion back
That's right, it's an old thing, but far older than you suggest. It goes back 100,000 years (for modern humans) and it's embedded in our DNA (going back millions of years). So it can't be sexist by definition because the reality of our World is that men and women are two different things. It's basic evolutionary biology. Some people can see the elephant in the room and some can't. We're not the same. Never have been, never will be.

It's not cheating for a successful man to enjoy the spoils of success. But it is cheating for a woman of a successful man to stray. Why is it different? Paternity. Biologically, a female is 100% certain of her maternity. That's not the case for men and the consequences of cheating to a male are far greater than to a female. If a female is provided for by a male, her job is to preserve his paternity. The male's job is to preserve his success. If a man extends his paternity to more females, it takes little to nothing away from his wife because he's still providing for her.

Now you're probably thinking, that's not how our social structures express themselves in modern society. I wouldn't disagree. I'm just pointing out the underlying drivers of our behaviour. It's not a coincidence to me that so many people are unhappy and at the same time are misaligned with their underlying biological expression. You keep a dog in the house and he's not going to be happy. He wants outside and to go for a walk. People are no different.

And this is a message to guys about commitment. Don't give away the farm you dummies.
 

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Wow, never bite the hand that feeds you.

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Yup, that. I mean if she hates married men that much she shouldn't be seeing them, and if she has to hate them she shouldn't be telling clients about it either. What if I was one of those men who decides he wants to continue seeing her then. Thing is in this line of work she can make any rules she wants, including who she won't see.
 
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LOL WOW
THAT was a choice she made, to say that to you.
I LOVE married clients, often more than single clients. They're less likely to be clingy; to try the whole "captain save-a-whore" thing; hope I'll fall in love with them and want to be with them; etc. I offer intimacy and temporary companionship, and married guys understand and respect that. There's no worry that they're going to pursue or desire something "more" with me.
Well that, plus on another session after that she went on about how she's not a fan of East Indian clients and other ethnics, and being half Iranian (which I don't look like) it also made me uneasy. She's free to see who she likes, but I won't see racists.
 
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Well that, plus on another session after that she went on about how she's not a fan of East Indian clients and other ethnics, and being half Iranian (which I don't look like) it also made me uneasy. She's free to see who she likes, but I won't see racists.
Ugh I’m sorry. So much racism in this industry from both sides! So much racism in the world really. Yikes
 

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1920 called, it wants its sexist opinion back
Unfortunately the opinion expressed is going through a revival with white evangelical christians. A certain someone has made it the norm for women to play subserviant roles while their husbands cheat, lie and steal. This is very acceptable behavior. Good Christian Women accept this.

We call them "Karens" today while during the 1960's they were "Stepford Wives"

Feminism seems to be getting a kick in the gut and duty to serve is at the forefront of a conservative woman's Christian values. I just don't get it.

LOVE, HONOUR AND OBEY. Like really? OBEY??? - To comply with or follow the Commands, Restrictions, Wishes or Instructions of your husband?

I find it really sad when I see a Karen being interviewed these days and talking about their beliefs.
 

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Unfortunately the opinion expressed is going through a revival with white evangelical christians. A certain someone has made it the norm for women to play subserviant roles while their husbands cheat, lie and steal. This is very acceptable behavior. Good Christian Women accept this.

We call them "Karens" today while during the 1960's they were "Stepford Wives"

Feminism seems to be getting a kick in the gut and duty to serve is at the forefront of a conservative woman's Christian values. I just don't get it.

LOVE, HONOUR AND OBEY. Like really? OBEY??? - To comply with or follow the Commands, Restrictions, Wishes or Instructions of your husband?

I find it really sad when I see a Karen being interviewed these days and talking about their beliefs.
Not even close to my views.

I clarified my view, which stems from men and women being biologically different. That's neither an ideology nor a religion, but rather, my view stems from SCIENCE. My view has also been tested and has been expressed throughout most cultures in history.

Acceptable behaviour for men isn't the same as it is for women. Even feminists can't escape that.

But I'm a Libertarian. Do what you want to do. It doesn't affect me or bother me. I post this more as a public information statement. If you're a guy on your mission and you're killing it (I suspect that guys with disposable income for Escorts fit that), why would you settle for equal rules?
 

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Not even close to my views.

I clarified my view, which stems from men and women being biologically different. That's neither an ideology nor a religion, but rather, my view stems from SCIENCE. My view has also been tested and has been expressed throughout most cultures in history.

Acceptable behaviour for men isn't the same as it is for women. Even feminists can't escape that.

But I'm a Libertarian. Do what you want to do. It doesn't affect me or bother me. I post this more as a public information statement. If you're a guy on your mission and you're killing it (I suspect that guys with disposable income for Escorts fit that), why would you settle for equal rules?
the hypocrisy of saying: "feminists can't escape this view that I have" and then turning around and saying "but do what you want to do, it doesn't affect me or bother me" is laughable.
 
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the hypocrisy of saying: "feminists can't escape this view that I have" and then turning around and saying "but do what you want to do, it doesn't affect me or bother me" is laughable.
I don't see the incapability of the two statements. What people think and do is a different thing than how the World is. When I say feminists can't escape the reality of men and women being different, that's a statement of reality (or at least how I see reality, as backed by Science). In contrast, life and let live is a philosophy and an acceptance that people should be allowed to express their free will.

The only contradiction here is the one you made up in your mind. My guess is you're experiencing cognitive dissonance because feminism is incoherent at it's core (i.e. it generally doesn't recognize that men and women are different and only does so when convenient).
 
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Ugh I’m sorry. So much racism in this industry from both sides! So much racism in the world really. Yikes
Yes the racism on both sides is there 100%. I've seen members here make some comments as well that make me cringe just as much as hearing it from a SW.
 
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I don't see the incapability of the two statements. What people think and do is a different thing than how the World is. When I say feminists can't escape the reality of men and women being different, that's a statement of reality (or at least how I see reality, as backed by Science). In contrast, life and let live is a philosophy and an acceptance that people should be allowed to express their free will.

The only contradiction here is the one you made up in your mind. My guess is you're experiencing cognitive dissonance because feminism is incoherent at it's core (i.e. it generally doesn't recognize that men and women are different and only does so when convenient).
it totally recognizes that people of different genders are different, but we deserve the same treatment and opportunities. ugh I swear talking to dudes on perb is like talking to a brick wall sometimes.
 

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it totally recognizes that people of different genders are different, but we deserve the same treatment and opportunities. ugh I swear talking to dudes on perb is like talking to a brick wall sometimes.
Nobody (99%) disagrees with equal treatment and opportunities for women. That's a strawman argument and it certainly comes nowhere near mine. You conveniently ignored my first point responding to your claim of my contradiction. There was none.
 
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I think that if you have any kind of a moral compass,you'd believe it was cheating. Not judging but I've never participated in this hobby when I had a significant other. However,I have been cheated on and I know how soul crushing that feels. It takes away all your self esteem.
 
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