Is GFE realistic?

sexmaniac

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I would like to take issue with the term GFE. I find it a contradiction because I don't believe you can truly get a GFE from an SP. I have been with several SP's who I would think about dating but in the actual business they are providing, I would not consider any of them real GFE. The reason is that it will never replicate the loving, nurturing relationship that you truly get with someone you really care about.

SP's may act like your girlfriend but in the end they are just out for the money. Sometimes they may develop feelings for their clients, but if they got too attached it would be hard to conduct business. Therefore, I don't see how a client can truly feel he got a GFE. I feel that pooners are deceiving themselves if they think SP's could ever replace that kind of relationship between two loving adults.

Just my 2 cents, would appreciate some other comments on this topic.
 

Ophelia Black

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GFE is shorthand for, "Won't greet you at the door rolling her eyes, won't call you by the wrong name, doesn't skip into the bathroom for 'a sec' that turns into fifteen minutes, laughs at your jokes, doesn't laugh at you, likes to cuddle, is not buck naked EXCEPT for a conspicuous stopwatch complete with alarm that she looks at every three minutes while sighing loudly, and does not suggest switching to doggy so she can watch 'Maury'"

In other words, someone who enjoys what she does, is respectful and friendly, and doesn't treat you like a giant icky bug with a wallet.
 

Alexboy

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I think she loves me again!

Its just a fantasy ....they will never love you ..just enjoy
 

sexmaniac

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I am glad that you treat your customers nice, but I think that is part of the service that should be expected especially given the compensation for which most SP's receive. I do not think just about getting laid, in fact I have had great conversations with alot of the SP's I have met and have made friends with some. I don't just do the deed then split (atleast not as a general rule)

I am just saying to think of it as a GFE is just strange to me because I don't think that is really part of the business. The SP is not there to be your girlfriend and most likely never will. It will never be on the same level as having a real girlfriend or significant other, that is what I mean.
 

Massagegirl

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Stereotypical male!

That's true Paige, some few men feel all women are out for cash like we shouldn't want to make a sucessful living too! Of course it's our job, but we don't think about money every minute, any more that a business man sitting in his office does. If we were doing it for free we'd be skanky or sluts, yet when we try to make an honest living it's "all for the money". Money for everyone, client or Sp is all about having our needs met, paying our bills, and putting food on the table. Why should it matter how that money was earned, as earned it was, not stolen or conned.

Generalizing about anything is generally bad, and are stereotypes only. Like all black men have big cocks, which is not absolutely true, I've seen small ones with my own eyes.

As to the GFE as OB said, it's about someone who is happy to see you, enjoys your company, cuddles, kisses and is enthusiastic in bed. In effect a pseudo- girlfiend, for the busy man who has no time to seek out and maintain a real GF. I does not refer to her loving you, nurturing you and wanting to have your babies, nor are pooners deluding themselves that that is what they are getting.

I'm with Paige, I consider my clients an extension of my social life, and I enjoy their company. If I wanted money without working for it I'd rob a bank!
 

hitrack

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Sexmaniac if your spending 300 bones most of us expect a bit more than a wham bam thank ya mam time. Even I would.

Take it for what it is, your paying for it so make the most of it. To the chicks it's their livelihood, to us (tricks) it's a game. Ya know; I feel like blonde this week maybe brunette next week, etc....

If you become atached easily you better mix up the babes rather often or your gonna get yourself in trouble. If you don't wanna think of it as a GFE then consider it money well spent on practise for when you do meet the right girl you'll have logged hours and not be the least bit clumsy when it comes to the bedroom.
 

bigdee

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Some SPs I have been involved with have turned into girlfriends over the years...not many but some.

I am younger, financially successful, and an amateur bodybuilder which helps...but I think it is no different than asking a Waitress, receptionist, or Starbuck attendant out on a date...If they find you attractive you have a chance (also depends on their circumstances)...

More have become friends of mine that call me or see me occasionally in a non-business setting. It is all a mater of chemistry, timing, and to some degree luck.

So my answer would be anything is possible...but it is no different than meeting women in the rest of society.
 

sushiman

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loves2learn said:
And she's not just saying this.... I know she's telling the truth ... I've experienced it.
Me too, in spades ;) ;)
 

BYSON

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Sexmaniac what is you're point what does the E stand for in GFE, It would be nice if she brings you a beer cooks you dinner and does you're laundry. And Some sp's are just init for the Money there service sux and you don't repeat, I met a few sp's that take the time and try to get to know make you feel like home, leaving you like you wanna come back every day thats a GFE
 

Massagegirl

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M'kay? You a Southpark fan TiaMarie? Have you heard Mr Garrison is in an eminem song called "drugs are bad, m'kay." It's not on his CD but you can download it, it's pretty funny. My fav episode is "the lord of the rings" (also downloadable) except it's a porno called backdoor sluts 9 that Butters calls my precious. I laughed so hard! That show kills me!

Oh forgive my interuption, carry on, m'kay!
 

oppai

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I'm a big fan of GFE, but as said, it does have it's limits. Even if it is "just for the money" and all an act, as long as it is good then I don't give a shit. Part of the reason I go to an SP is for intimacy that may be lacking in my life at the time. I have AMP girls that tell me they love me, I know it bullshit and they say it to other guys, but who cares....it's flattering and that's the whole point. GFE makes us feel good. If it was REAL GFE as BradLee thinks of it as, then hell no we wouldn't go for it. Perhaps if we had another name for it like All The Best Things About a Girlfriend Experience.
ATBTAGFE....would that be better? It would get shortened down to GFE anyways because everyone knows what we're talking about. GFE is not a literal thing, it is merely a name we put to an experience that is more passionate or realistic than some SP's out there.

Anyways, GFE rocks.
 

Johnsam

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Emotional Connection

What happened to those who longed for and emotional connection with their favourite SP?

GFE is possible depending on how high you set the bar. Remembering YMMV and YEMV.

But it's pretty hard to find a GFE when EC is part of your definition.
 

carlotta

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Tricky Subject... GFE...

GFE... I believe is little "touches" put forth by both parties... A smile of hello... or a *W* w/that hello... I often provide white wine... Or white wine brought... To extend our time together... Candles... Scented... Scented sheets... Accompanied showers... Where either party... offers to create "bubbles" *g* Becoming entangled in the sheets... Ohhhhhh, how does One define GFE, really? carlotta
 

Curley

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GFE
Most men have some basic standards for defining GFE. When so many wives forget about their husbands (and vice versa) its nice to have someone who wants you, just for an hour or so ... for money, so what, as many have said here, it's an "experience". That is all we ever really have, our experiences.

GFE experiences are what I always want and well, certainly don't always get. But I don't expect to get everything I want, even when I'm paying for it.

Boy, do I love this hobby!
 

bigdman

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Ophelia Black said:
GFE is shorthand for, "Won't greet you at the door rolling her eyes, won't call you by the wrong name, doesn't skip into the bathroom for 'a sec' that turns into fifteen minutes, laughs at your jokes, doesn't laugh at you, likes to cuddle, is not buck naked EXCEPT for a conspicuous stopwatch complete with alarm that she looks at every three minutes while sighing loudly, and does not suggest switching to doggy so she can watch 'Maury'"

In other words, someone who enjoys what she does, is respectful and friendly, and doesn't treat you like a giant icky bug with a wallet.
I concur with OB's comment, because I have seen her in many occasions.., and its getting better and better everytime.... ;)
 
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