In the mail today

[buggs312]

My wife recieved a letter in the mail today. It mentioned that I have been having an affair with someone. All the details are completly fabricated. im confused and rattled for this to happen out of blue. Outside of massages w/happy ending i have not had an affair with a civilian.
Anyone else have this happen to them ?
No return address , letter was typed.

 

[nickcan]

Maybe somebody your wife knows saw you leave a rub/tug place?

 

[vancity_cowboy]

i recommend you take it the nearest police department - for 2 reasons: 1) to help get the wife off your back 2) somebody is fucking with your family life that is obviously up to no good - an attempt at extortion could be next - nip it in the bud

if what you say is true, at the very least this obviously constitutes libel

the letter might have fingerprints, the glue strip on the envelope might have DNA

git-er-done buggs

 

[buggs312]

That is good advice cowboy. the letter was specific ie: having an affair with the employer of whoever wrote the letter, met me in a business deal within the industry im in. No mention at all of a massage parlour

 

[vancity_cowboy]

i don't know what your work situation is, but i'd look for whoever stands to gain the most at work if your personal life fell apart and you lost your position at work

most likely female from the sound of things

 

[Violet]

My wife recieved a letter in the mail today. It mentioned that I have been having an affair with someone. All the details are completly fabricated. im confused and rattled for this to happen out of blue. Outside of massages w/happy ending i have not had an affair with a civilian.
Anyone else have this happen to them ?
No return address , letter was typed.

Sorry to hear about that, you must be stressed out.

I'm female and single, but I had something similar happen to me a long time ago when I was in a serious long-term relationship. I also wasn't having an "affair" and it was totally made up, there were some weird details to make it sound credible, but it also wasn't very specific, for example it did not say who the person I was supposedly having sex with was. My suspicion at the time, although it was never proven, was that it was possible that my partner sent it to himself so that he could confront me and see how I reacted/if I confessed. I'd first think about if there is anyone who would want to hurt you or your wife or both, who could have seen you with another woman and jumped to conclusions, or perhaps a woman whose advances you rejected, etc. If you can't think of anyone who would want to hurt your relationship and definitely no such person who would know/be able to obtain your wife's name and address, then you might want to consider your wife as one possibility. Could you seeing SPs or erotic massage providers and/or your behaviour as of late have led to your wife suspecting you are having an affair? Sometimes people have a sense about these things, like if you have been distant, not interested in sex, seeming preoccupied or making weak excuses for things like why you are late or showering as soon as you get home, etc - regardless of whether or not the behaviour that made them suspicious actually has anything to do with actually having sex with someone else.

EDIT: After reading your last post, it does seem less likely that if it was your wife sending a letter to herself to gauge your reaction that she would make up such specific details.

 

[buggs312]

i thought about my wife sending it to herself but i noticed my name was spelled wrong in the letter.
Im concerned this is going to be an ongoing thing.
Im wondering if it may have something to do with her. Im wondering if someone fancies her and is trying to make me look bad.

 

[cherise]

i thought about my wife sending it to herself but i noticed my name was spelled wrong in the letter.
Im concerned this is going to be an ongoing thing.
Im wondering if it may have something to do with her. Im wondering if someone fancies her and is trying to make me look bad.

that could be a typo or a ruse to throw you off. it very likely could be your wife...who else would know your wifes name and your address to send her a letter and without any proof? i think iot very well could be her...was it a typewritten or cmputer printed? check the paper and ink at home .also someprinters and computers retain memory of what has been printed check those to see if its in your wifes history. also check at the posat office where it was mailed from (part of town)it will be in the code at the bottom of the envelope.

 

[Cami Parker]

Agreed with cowboy... What a creep

 

[bcneil]

Pretty sure they wouldn't use their resources for DNA coding and fingerprinting for a letter like this...but if your wife doesn't know that then it could be a good bluff.

Or if his wife isn't in anyway involved. Telling her the police are testing for DNA, might make her think you are full of shit. Hence guilty of something you're not.

 

[buggs312]

The last line in the letter said that me and the woman im having this alleged affair are always talking about how big my wife is getting and that she wears too much make up. It's almost like the person who wrote the letter decided to take a couple of shots at my wife as well. Make her feel even more insecure.
Makes no sense to me at all.
Almost has me thinking someone is out to hurt her for some reason

 

[buggs312]

And i have never , ever said a negative comment about my wife regarding her mild weight gain or how much make up she wears (i dont think she wears that much )

 

[cherise]

The last line in the letter said that me and the woman im having this alleged affair are always talking about how big my wife is getting and that she wears too much make up. It's almost like the person who wrote the letter decided to take a couple of shots at my wife as well. Make her feel even more insecure.
Makes no sense to me at all.
Almost has me thinking someone is out to hurt her for some reason

my bet is that it is your wife....she is likely concerned that you may be cheating because she doesnt feel attractive and so the letter is a "fishing "attempt

 

[Violet]

The last line in the letter said that me and the woman im having this alleged affair are always talking about how big my wife is getting and that she wears too much make up. It's almost like the person who wrote the letter decided to take a couple of shots at my wife as well. Make her feel even more insecure.
Makes no sense to me at all.
Almost has me thinking someone is out to hurt her for some reason

That also makes me think it might be someone who wants to hurt your wife. Or both of you. What has your wife said about it? Hopefully she's not a PERB reader.