I'm a Bisexual Wife

[jessicatravis69]

So, thanks to my husband of 11 years, he's helped me finally discover my bi-sexual side. I love gorgeous women, but I love my husband more

It's my hubby's birthday if a few weeks and we're seriously considering getting a room and a beautiful escort. I've been doing the 'research' :eyebrows: and think I have found the one I want. But, this is my first time! I'm really kinda freaked out. Being a typical woman, I'm sure I'm over thinking this. I know my husband really loves me and we are so turned on by each other.

Our sex life is amazing. We probably have sex 3-4 times a week (although after an erotic trip to Vegas recently it's been daily for the last 2 and a half weeks, sometimes twice a day!) After 13 years of being together, we are always coming up with something new to do together! We enjoy porn, toys and strippers together.

I guess I just need some reassurance that this is purely sexual. We just want to take our sex life to the next level. I'm just worried about getting 'attached' or addicted to escorts. I don't want to lose the very special thing I have with the hubby!

 

[evandavidgarcia]

You sound quite level headed so I don't think you need to be too concerned You seem to have a strong, healthy relationship with your husband. You're lucky to have each other and I'm sure you'll all have a great time. Of course I think the key is having an escort who is completely professional and brings a level of comfort and relaxation to the encounter. As for becoming addicted or attached, from what you've written about yourself and your husband, I'm not seeing any reason to be worried! Good luck!

 

[vancity_cowboy]

welcome

all i can suggest is that almost everybody here is addicted to escorts, either having sex with them or chatting with/about them online

from the point of view of possibly ruining your current sex life (and after 13 years, it sounds pretty damn good!) i would suggest some real soul searching on your part

on the other hand, adding the occasional really hot, really responsive escort to your current sex life could be very rewarding for both of you

but i can almost guarantee you WILL get addicted. not necessarily a bad thing, but think it through

 

[jessicatravis69]

Who'd you pick? Just out of curiosity...

Callie Fox. Read a lot of good reviews on her. However, I was really wanting a shorter (I'm 5'8") blond (I'm brunette) with fake breasts (I'm natural). We'll see. It's still up in the air!

 

[vancity_cowboy]

you might find the ladies from the fox den are significantly less interactive than what you have in mind or are used to. good eye candy, but is that all that you are looking for?

read the reviews critically, and by all means use the 'search' function at the top right hand side of the page.

 

[jessicatravis69]

welcome

all i can suggest is that almost everybody here is addicted to escorts, either having sex with them or chatting with/about them online

from the point of view of possibly ruining your current sex life (and after 13 years, it sounds pretty damn good!) i would suggest some real soul searching on your part

on the other hand, adding the occasional really hot, really responsive escort to your current sex life could be very rewarding for both of you

but i can almost guarantee you WILL get addicted. not necessarily a bad thing, but think it through

Thanks for the insight. I'm still just in the thinking process. I guess I worry too that going to one in Vancouver, so close to home, that it will become too 'accessible.' We are heading to Seattle in November and thought of seeing Alexis Karrington. If you haven't seen her, check her out! Gorgeous! I've been in contact and she seems really sweet. Plus, if we were to keep this as an 'out of town' thing, it will be more special and not so accessible, less addictive.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

Thanks for the insight. I'm still just in the thinking process. I guess I worry too that going to one in Vancouver, so close to home, that it will become too 'accessible.' We are heading to Seattle in November and thought of seeing Alexis Karrington. If you haven't seen her, check her out! Gorgeous! I've been in contact and she seems really sweet. Plus, if we were to keep this as an 'out of town' thing, it will be more special and not so accessible, less addictive.

true

but prostitution IS illegal in the US. many guys use them of course, and i assume that with proper precautions they don't run much risk, but the local sherriffs can run sting operations, especially around election time. just sayin'

a PM to sfmike on this board might give you some insight to pooning south of the border

 

[storm rider]

To the OP....wow you are a keeper for sure as most western women at this point of your marriage of 11 years
dole out sex to their husbands like it is a reward....and conversely that is why forums such as PERB/MERB/CAF exist.

Good for you on peeling back your inhibitions and exploring your own sexuality and keeping your husband up to speed on it and encouraging his feedback and participation.

SR

 

[jesuschrist]

I don't know if you (jessicatravis69) had considered it yet, but you might want to look into sex clubs. I don't mean swinger's clubs, I mean clubs that are like nightclubs where people go to have sex. Plenty of bi women in those and threesomes and orgies are not out of the question. Plus you don't have to pay an escort.

If you have any questions about it, just PM me.

 

[Holly Taylor]

It sounds like you guys have a fantastic relationship! Lots of passion, fun, and communication. That's awesome.

If you are concerned about getting too caught up in the escort world, then plan ahead and set some intentions/boundaries. Perhaps you only see escorts together when you are visiting another city. Perhaps you only see them on your birthday. Perhaps you only see them once in the summer, and once in the winter. You know? Make a plan - not to be restrictive, but to keep it special. When introducing something new into a relationship, I'm an advocate of doing it slowly and then re-assessing the situation after you've had some time to explore and see what it's like.

The ideal companion would be respectful of your relationship, but still warm and friendly toward both of you. I would recommend Vanesssa (with 3 s's). From reviews I've read, I hear she loooves to play with women as well as men.

Have a great time

 

[Elmore]

I wonder how receptive the OPs husband would be if she was interested in exploring her sexuality but she was not bisexual. I don't really buy that he was too jealous when the female stripper was grinding all over his wife.

It is usually a different ball game (excuse the pun) when another male is part of the equation and I am not even referring to MMF threesomes. But the dynamics of jessica's situation seems ideal and a win/win for both spouses.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

I don't know if you (jessicatravis69) had considered it yet, but you might want to look into sex clubs. I don't mean swinger's clubs, I mean clubs that are like nightclubs where people go to have sex. Plenty of bi women in those and threesomes and orgies are not out of the question. Plus you don't have to pay an escort.

If you have any questions about it, just PM me.

OK, JC, now we ALL wanna know...this happens right here in Vancouver, and it's not a swingers club? C'mon, dish.....................

 

[Gentle-man]

The ideal companion would be respectful of your relationship, but still warm and friendly toward both of you. I would recommend Vanesssa (with 3 s's). From reviews I've read, I hear she loooves to play with women as well as men.

Have a great time

I would echo this recommendation, Vanesssa is truly bisexual and is amazingly focussed on making sure those who visit her have an incredible experience. I know she has experience with couples and would help you and your husband explore that avenue should you decide to travel in that direction. Search for her here with 3S's and have a look at her posts, website (www.vanesssa.ca) and her blog to see if she is what you have in mind.

 

[InnocentBoy]

Find a "beautiful woman" to pay your bills and you'd drop him like a bad habit.

 

[jessicatravis69]

Find a "beautiful woman" to pay your bills and you'd drop him like a bad habit.

Thanks, but as a professional, I pay my own bills.

 

[Chef99]

jessicatravis69 - you guys are in for a lot of fun! My wife and I had this very experience a month ago. It was something we had talked about a bit, she was curious about it, and finally agreed to go with it. We did a bit of searching online together and I took care of the final details. My approach was that this was for her. I didn't want her to be jealous of me interacting with the escort and ruining the experience. In the end, she found that after some initial interaction with escort, she was happy for the 3 of us to play together and it ended up with me fulfulling some fantasies as well )))) I strongly suggest using an independent. We went for a 2 hour session which gave lots of time to start with some drinks and appies to get to know one another. The only "difficulty" was switching from social mode to play mode.... Best of luck!

 

[InnocentBoy]

The perk i can think of with a truely professional escort is you run less of a risk losing your spouse the way you would in a threesome.

 

[deathreborn]

OK, JC, now we ALL wanna know...this happens right here in Vancouver, and it's not a swingers club? C'mon, dish.....................

i was thinking the same thing. this city is so uptight when it comes to sex, that if such a club were to exist, the city would shut it down in a heartbeat.

 

[Porscha]

I was in the same situation years ago. My (now X) partner and I played a few times every year … tried escorts, swingers, students … one time he dared me to go grocery shopping and bring home a girl … and I did. 

There has to be really good communication between you and your SO – that’s the key. We took turns setting things up, and shared the passwords to the email account & phone we used. Escorts are amazing … and you should try “intimate encounters” on social sites as well. Both awesome, both different experiences.

I love sleeping with women. The way they kiss, smell and are warm and soft to cuddle with. The sex always seems a little taboo and some of them are soooo good. However afterwards I’m usually so turned on, that I really, really want a man … lol. I think you have to think deeply about what kind of “natural” attraction you have to woman. And if necessary, make a conscious decision about controlling that. I think everyone should experience a woman … this is how grownups play. ;-)

Where will it take you … well it brought me here .. lol