If we bump into each other at Thriftys.....

[OrdinaryRegularGuy]

Yesterday, I bumped into a massage provider in Thriftys at Hillside. Momentarily separated from my partner, I noticed, then was approached by her--I have seen her at least a dozen times, probably more.
She asked where have I been--and why I haven't been lately? I whispered that I'd see her soon and took off, bumping into my wife just around the corner. Thankfully, she noticed nothing--she was preoccupied with a search.
Am I alone when I ask that I donot wish to be approached, "hello'd", waved to--outside of the "room"? (After all, the reason I donot post my name here is that this is a secret hobby.) Similarly, when I see a provider I public, I do not acknowledge or approach her. To me, this is not rude nor unkind, it is protocol. (Many providers have insisted on such discretion.)
I ask for your thoughts.

 

[nondeju]

Yesterday, I bumped into a massage provider in Thriftys at Hillside. Momentarily separated from my partner, I noticed, then was approached by her--I have seen her at least a dozen times, probably more.
She asked where have I been--and why I haven't been lately? I whispered that I'd see her soon and took off, bumping into my wife just around the corner. Thankfully, she noticed nothing--she was preoccupied with a search.
Am I alone when I ask that I donot wish to be approached, "hello'd", waved to--outside of the "room"? (After all, the reason I donot post my name here is that this is a secret hobby.) Similarly, when I see a provider I public, I do not acknowledge or approach her. To me, this is not rude nor unkind, it is protocol. (Many providers have insisted on such discretion.)
I ask for your thoughts.

Definitely uncalled for and inappropriate for her to approach you like that!

 

[Ms.Fiona]

So NOT ok!!!

on no level at anytime is that ok, omg. You're reaction is more than normal. Ughhh that drives me crazy that some disregard such a important part of this whole process.... DISCRETION!! Sorry that that happened to you.

 

[Jackster]

Something you should discuss with the SP,... should you see her again. It's a basic understanding that this is done discreetly for many of us.
Nobody needs to have to have that sickly, cold feeling when an SP approaches you while you're with your SO, only to question where you have been lately.

 

[thing]

There is no way or situation that this kind of approach is okay. I have encountered SP in public and was very glad to see her recognition and then her complete ignore of me...we spoke of it later and both expressed equal appreciation for the discretion.

 

[Lnut]

I once had this happen to me as well. It was at bebe, i was with my gf and my ex regular mamasan was there as well. I didnt visit her micro for a while and there was a change in phone numbers so i wasnt able to get a hold of them. But she watched as my gf and i separated a bit and she got my attn to give me the new contact number. my gf noticed my taking down the number and asked me afterwards what it was all about. luckily the mamasan had the look of someone that might be friends with my mom, so i passed it off as me giving my mother her friends new number. So happy that it didnt blow up in my face. Even happier that i got her number tho, as she had tonnes of new talent and at a more than decent price. ahhh...the good old days where micros with young newbies only charged $.2..... Fkn tom had to fk it all up....

But back to the op. It wasnt cool for her to do that. And it should definately be brought to her attn the next time you see her.

 

[meaghanmcleodDELETED]

Discretion goes both ways. I'm sorry this happened to you. I once had a regular come up to me while I was out shopping. Thankfully I was alone, but really, I had to shake my head, as I know if the situation was reversed, he would not have wanted me to approach him.

 

[westcoast555]

I hope you texted her right away after and said that you were with your wife and that her indiscretion is highly unprofessional.

 

[D12]

Sorry to here but glad you didn't get roasted man. Oddly enough I have seen 2sp's at thriftys locations but they didn't approach me and I didn't approach them the way it should be. But Victoria is still a small town so this is a possibility running into eachother and all

 

[whitemoustache]

I made the terrible mistake of mentioning that I had seen a young lady at Value Village in a post on here recently, and got deservedly flamed for it, in a PM. I guess the medication is affecting my brain after all.

 

[OrdinaryRegularGuy]

Thanks for your input. I called the owner a few days later. Fearing another public approach, I did not name the provider.
I simply suggested that there be a no-approach policy between clients and providers--outside the facility.The owner agreed.

 

[OrdinaryRegularGuy]

I appreciate that I may be whinging again, however providers please do not approach clients in public. (And clients do not approach providers in public.) Our exchanges should be limited to the home or office of the providers; outside of that, we are polite strangers. Recently, I was approached on BC Ferries while my partner was in the washroom. True, she didn't see the short, clipped exchange, but bloody hell....Please, I do not find it rude to look past me in public places and we'll catch up at our next appointment. Thank you.

 

[Ms.Fiona]

I appreciate that I may be whinging again, however providers please do not approach clients in public. (And clients do not approach providers in public.) Our exchanges should be limited to the home or office of the providers; outside of that, we are polite strangers. Recently, I was approached on BC Ferries while my partner was in the washroom. True, she didn't see the short, clipped exchange, but bloody hell....Please, I do not find it rude to look past me in public places and we'll catch up at our next appointment. Thank you.

Omg you've had bad luck!! I'm sorry you've been through this... I promise there are some of us that go around the city's we live in stealth mode to not be seen or cause you any stress... some people were not taught boundries! I've seen so many of my clients from a far in the city I'm in... I can't imagine approaching or how uncomfortable I'd be to be approached...

 

[whitemoustache]

I can second Ms Fi's remark that she travels in stealth mode when away from work. Discretion and caring are part of her personality.:first:

 

[2Horny4MOG]

I have run into a seen SP twice in public. We both did what should be done. We ignored each other, plain and simple.

 

[Leloup]

The fact that local SPs approached a client outside of their place of business is terrifying to me. Part of what I am paying for is discretion. Or at least that's what I tell myself. Ordinaryregularguy you have me worried.

 

[Ms.Fiona]

The fact that local SPs approached a client outside of their place of business is terrifying to me. Part of what I am paying for is discretion. Or at least that's what I tell myself. Ordinaryregularguy you have me worried.

If you stick with the well reviewed well known ladies you'll be just fine... Some girls... and guys for that matter just don't get it.

 

[Layla gold]

If you stick with the well reviewed well known ladies you'll be just fine... Some girls... and guys for that matter just don't get it.

Ive had clients approach me in public and just pretend I don't know him/ say he confused me for someone
So awkward

Even seeing them in passing is uncomfortable for me

 

[ddcanz]

Ive had clients approach me in public and just pretend I don't know him/ say he confused me for someone
So awkward

Even seeing them in passing is uncomfortable for me

You should probably have kept that last comment to yourself- seeing a dude in passing, with no interaction, that you hooked up with "makes you feel uncomfortable" can be taken as off-side. We get that we are just business and a fuck-wallet when you really boil it down. And world's should not collide.
I understand what you are saying- you don't know if he's going to enter your private world or not- which he shouldn't of course.
But just assume he won't, unless you are making too much eye contact or throwing out some other sort of signage.
I would really hope that seeing me- or another client for that matter that an SP had a respectful encounter with- across the street would not be uncomfortable for anyone.

 

[FreeG]

You should probably have kept that last comment to yourself- seeing a dude in passing, with no interaction, that you hooked up with "makes you feel uncomfortable" can be taken as off-side. We get that we are just business and a fuck-wallet when you really boil it down. And world's should not collide.
I understand what you are saying- you don't know if he's going to enter your private world or not- which he shouldn't of course.
But just assume he won't, unless you are making too much eye contact or throwing out some other sort of signage.
I would really hope that seeing me- or another client for that matter that an SP had a respectful encounter with- across the street would not be uncomfortable for anyone.

Maybe a better word would be "nervous". I agree with Layla - seeing someone in public would make me nervous too, not knowing if they're going to say something that I may have to explain later. Even if it appears to them that I'm alone, I'd rather not even have a head nod or polite "hello" to be safe (and a provider deserves the same respect).