I'd rather my man paid for sex than had an affair: A provocative confession..

[sevenofnine]

a few thoughts
first i think seeeing an escort is the best choice for a married man, who wants to keep his family together.

and i guess its wrong to think that a married man who has an affair is emotionally invlolved with the other women, lets face it.
he is most likely just horny
and he is using the illusion of love to hide his guilt if he has any and is lieing to the other women.
simply an escort is better no guilt no lies, except to the wife.
i think its the most sensible choice,

next i kind of wonder about the self centerened selfish attitutde of the wives who all of a sudden make the choice for there husband that he is no longer going to have sex for the rest of his life.
they cut him off yet expect him to be faithful.

i would do anything for my family anything to keep it together. i love my kids and my wife and me have been over twenty five years married, and im not really sure what my feelings are at this moment for her, but i would do anyting for her and my family, its not even a question in my mind i would ok.

but i found after i went with out sex for so long, i was just one miserable sob, i was not a happy camper. ok
i was bringing everyone down with me.
i see an escort and well my marriage got better my family got better, because there was an sp out there who would take care of me.
but the question is,
ok
a lot of women dont like sex sps don't like sex or well certainly not with all the guys they see. but they do it.
im not sure if that is right, but i think there is some truth to it.

but i just think about it, my sp sess me, she sees alot of guys has sex several times a day in fact,
but my wife who says she loves me, can't do a dam think for me.
im kindof stuck on that.
im not asking for greek or facials or anything kinky, anything at all,

but after twenty some years of marriage nothing nadda zip
thats how much she thinks of me.
that she can't even give me a fucking hand job.

kindof a pissy fucking attitude in my opinion. when i would do anything for my family.
so im not sure at this moment were my feelings are for my wife. because simply im not sure what she feels about me.



the post about a sugar daddy,

i guess im sort of in the same way with my sp.
seen her a long time. a long time.
it doesn't feel at all like an sp and john.
though i still pay her, we talk whatever email each other,
it feels like im in another relationship actually.
and i have liked it for a long time, and enjoyed it.

i kind of felt that way with a couple of sps'

it is nice
but i don't know, i see myself as winding down in this hobby, almost done, but i have been saying that for awhile.

 

[jnewton]

There are a lot of SPs out there that are fun to have sex with and fun to be with. If you aren't cheap, if you are willing to have longer sessions, it can be good. The problem is, if you only see the one SP and only for longer sessions - eventually it's going to feel like an affair.

I think that is because, no matter how much we try to pretend that sex and emotions are two different things, they really are just two sides of the same coin. Have sex with someone long enough and you become very comfortable, you start to share your lives, and before you realize it, you've formed a deep and meaningful emotional bond that is not easily set aside. Seeing an SP makes it both harder and easier to happen. Harder, because of the idea that it's "just business", easier because you continue to have sex and that allows time for the rest to develop. It's no wonder that a lot of guys pursuing this activity have a strict no-repeat policy.

 

[FunSugarDaddy]

A Sugar Daddy / Sugar Baby relationship is wonderful with the right woman and if you are the kind of guy who is prepared to be generous and honest. I had a Sugar Daddy / Sugar Baby relationship for almost 5 years. It is expensive, she's doing it so that she doesn't have to work or be an SP and you are paying what she would have otherwise earned. As in any good relationship, you will end up caring deeply about her. It really is an affair, the only thing missing is that she's not likely to phone your wife.

There are a lot of SPs out there that are fun to have sex with and fun to be with. If you aren't cheap, if you are willing to have longer sessions, it can be good. The problem is, if you only see the one SP and only for longer sessions - eventually it's going to feel like an affair. That's not a bad thing if you aren't married. It's a very bad thing if you are married and your wife starts wondering why you are so much happier now.

I agree with both of these comments, with the exception that a SD-SB relationship has to be expensive. It costs what you both agree it to cost. Women who rely on it as their sole means of support are going to want more than those who view it as a suppliment to their main source of income. That may also meaning seeing her less often since you're not throwing thousands of $$$ her way, merely hundreds. And it is very close to an affair, in fact I was caught seeing this particular lady about 3 years ago, and it was quite the issue.

 

[wet_suit_one]

Fascinating discussion, both here and at the article itself.

It's nice to be able to hear men speak without having all the usual suspects trying to shut them up (i.e. it's nice to be able to come to PERB and talk about this). Too bad hardly anyone thinks this viewpoint is valid, as they fail to see that the sex denying partner is just as much a cheater on their marriage vows as the straying partner. Hardly anyone ever says that...

So it goes...