Re shame: Many many years ago, when our cultural views were different regarding sexual activity for women, a woman who sold herself to men, especially men she did not know, was called a "whore" or "slut". There was definitely something shameful she would likely have felt about her activity.
Even now, one must differentiate between the upscale women who advertise here on PERB and the streetwalkers who permeate the lowest echelons of prostitution. In the latter case, nearly all have been sexually abused as children and/or teenagers and shameridden self-sense is a permanent part of their personality as a result and, it follows, that selling oneself for sex is also a shameful act deep down (for them). On the other hand, for women who choose to become SPs such as what we view here on PERB, to sell their own bodies and company in exchange for money, the shame factor does not really come into play. It is, if you like, simply a business like any other.
I have come to this conclusion through my experience of reading various comments, advertisements and threads on PERB and of myself meeting the more upscale kind of prostitutes (business women) over the years. This comes about due to the vastly changed cultural views of sex and women in Europe and North america over the years. Given this huge change, women are no longer brought up with the former view (think 1950s) of what constitutes appropriate sexual behaviour. A recent post on PERB about the wholesale availability of young (late teens, early twenties) women to the sex trade pretty much forced me to conclude that I had been wrong. As well, of course, are the women on PERB who comment on their own sexual activity and how they define themselves as business women who sell their bodies as well as their company. On the whole, I do not pick up any shame, not even hidden shame. Of course, they (the women) wish to be discreet. The penalty for public knowledge of such activities could be severe. Knowledge of their activities on the part of family and friends would often cause a break in valued relationships. That's what they say and I believe them. In essence, cultural norms trumphs all!
I was castigated for declaring my former views on the subject (shame). In fact, with the exception of a few understanding and mature responses, i.e., AubreyKisses who, at any rate, showed a good deal of wisdom quite beyond her chronological years, my own (former) perspective became increasingly crystallized. But since then, It has become apparent to me that the wholesale change in our cultural views about women's sexuality must be acknowledged and I am now, officially, acknowledging this.
Let me end with one, possibly awkward statement: Boxers and baseball players, used to the limelight, often have a very hard time accepting retirement (see Evander Holyfield or Jorge Posada). For the life of me, when it comes to SPs, I find it difficult to imagine 40 year old women who continues on in this career. To me, they are like star athletes who do not accept the fact that their time is done. For myself, I would never willingly pay for an aged woman, no way.
Finally, I thank the PERB community for reading this little blurb. Any and all respectfully written responses will be read with consideration.
Even now, one must differentiate between the upscale women who advertise here on PERB and the streetwalkers who permeate the lowest echelons of prostitution. In the latter case, nearly all have been sexually abused as children and/or teenagers and shameridden self-sense is a permanent part of their personality as a result and, it follows, that selling oneself for sex is also a shameful act deep down (for them). On the other hand, for women who choose to become SPs such as what we view here on PERB, to sell their own bodies and company in exchange for money, the shame factor does not really come into play. It is, if you like, simply a business like any other.
I have come to this conclusion through my experience of reading various comments, advertisements and threads on PERB and of myself meeting the more upscale kind of prostitutes (business women) over the years. This comes about due to the vastly changed cultural views of sex and women in Europe and North america over the years. Given this huge change, women are no longer brought up with the former view (think 1950s) of what constitutes appropriate sexual behaviour. A recent post on PERB about the wholesale availability of young (late teens, early twenties) women to the sex trade pretty much forced me to conclude that I had been wrong. As well, of course, are the women on PERB who comment on their own sexual activity and how they define themselves as business women who sell their bodies as well as their company. On the whole, I do not pick up any shame, not even hidden shame. Of course, they (the women) wish to be discreet. The penalty for public knowledge of such activities could be severe. Knowledge of their activities on the part of family and friends would often cause a break in valued relationships. That's what they say and I believe them. In essence, cultural norms trumphs all!
I was castigated for declaring my former views on the subject (shame). In fact, with the exception of a few understanding and mature responses, i.e., AubreyKisses who, at any rate, showed a good deal of wisdom quite beyond her chronological years, my own (former) perspective became increasingly crystallized. But since then, It has become apparent to me that the wholesale change in our cultural views about women's sexuality must be acknowledged and I am now, officially, acknowledging this.
Let me end with one, possibly awkward statement: Boxers and baseball players, used to the limelight, often have a very hard time accepting retirement (see Evander Holyfield or Jorge Posada). For the life of me, when it comes to SPs, I find it difficult to imagine 40 year old women who continues on in this career. To me, they are like star athletes who do not accept the fact that their time is done. For myself, I would never willingly pay for an aged woman, no way.
Finally, I thank the PERB community for reading this little blurb. Any and all respectfully written responses will be read with consideration.
