I think we forget what this is about sometimes

[sevenofnine]

I was with my sp last night, had a nice time wonderful time as always
We are pretty open and frienldy with each other, we have known each other for ever it seems



A lot has been written and said about emotions love etc, both negative and postitive.
I have been there done that in terms of emotions with the women I see even a bump in the road one or two.

Any way we had moved into her bedroom, and I was undressing her, we were finishing up a conversation,
not to go into details, but she has male friends, several as a matter of fact.


She tells me if her friendships or whatever are sexual or not.

I am not really paying attention I am preoccupied I am pulling down her panties.

All I said was, what ever I need to do so I can keep doing what I am doing.

And you know that is the bottom line in all this,
I am there for her pussy, she is there to lighten my wallet.

The two of those facts don't really make for a good happily ever after kind of ending.

Both of us are there for one thing, different things but that is what were there for.
I think when emotions get into it we forget that.

I have been lucky I have gone for that emotional ride, but I am old walked down the isle have had kids etc etc.
Have friends,
Friendship in this is someting that doesn't interest me

I remember that line in Beautiful Mind can we just have sex.
That is kind of where I am, not wanting a friend but kind of found one in this.

It is nice to have a friend in this, and it works for me for her and me,

I dunno it struck me as so truthful, when I was pulling down her panties, I don't really give a dam as long as I can keep doing what I am doing.

I think we need to be reminded why were both here,
and if you need someting more, looking for something more,
your going to have a rough ride.

 

[Elle Diablo]

A "relationship" is whatever the people doing the relating want it to be, no matter how they got to know one another. As long as we treat each other with an ounce of respect and a dash of dignity everything else is gravy. :nod:

I think people get a little too hung up on definitions and labels and the like. Love and let love - that's my motto. eace:

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

So well put, Ms Elle!

 

[cherise]

ummm, you mean you don't like respect from clients?? Sorry not quite getting what you disagree with....

RH

I don't know what i was even trying to say there lolz
i was on the phone in a heated dscussion while i was typing and i should make sure to never do that again lolz
.sorry if i offended you or anything RH

 

[girth-brooks]

It's just entertainment. The relationship is a fugazi:

 

[Elle Diablo]

And so ... what exactly is a 'real' relationship then? Just wondering because we all relate to one another on some sort of level day in, day out 24/7 365 days out of year ... I mean, don't we?

 

[cherise]

ummm, you mean you don't like respect from clients?? Sorry not quite getting what you disagree with....

RH

i disagreed with the " remember the reality of the provider/providee relationship" part of your statement ....i like to keep myself open to making new lasting friendships and that line of thinking would not make it possible. i have some ex clients who are now platonic friends .and i am grateful that i met them and was able to get beyond the business side of things

 

[girth-brooks]

I just hope men see escorts for the right reasons, which is to have a good time. Don't expect anything after that. If by chance a "friendship" begins, then great, but don't get your hopes up.

 

[johnsmit]

What we think we are going after.when we first start seeing girls that escort.. And what we find on while traveling the road.. Are two fifferent things.. It never mattered to me what the person i met was doing for a living.. I chose to see her..and found that with some i clicked.. Other nothing.. It never was just about sex..it was about being open and honest with some one.. Being able to be naked and have sex with some one you have never met befor .. Is about as open as you can get.on the moment..

I allways . .found i rather have a freind ship relationship... then just a sex relationdhip...It great to have both.. But most times it involved paying for the sex.. The sex last 20 min.. the friendship. and being open with each other
last for 24 /7...

 

[Walk Softly]

Nothing wrong with friendship between people in a business relationship as long as both are realistic about it.

I'm always pleased to see and talk to my dental hygienist (and I think she feels the same) but I don't expect anything of it or of her.

With SPs there's an added layer of intimacy to complicate the matter and confuse the emotional part of us.

Enjoy it but don't take it too seriously!

 

[willingryan]

Words to remember...

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[willingryan]

Words to remember...

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[toadsub]

i have found that that i can get caught up emotionally. Hell, the reason for the visit is because of lack of intimacy on the home front. i have needed a reality check more than once. That said, the closer the connection, the better the session goes for me.

 

[twelvetwentytwoam]

I guess that's why GFE exist. Something more than just sex. "Intimacy" so to speak. But never blur the lines between reality and escape. That's a dangerous thing. You gotta tell yourself the second you walk out of that room, the movie is over. Try anything more than that you're usually setting yourself up for disappointment.

 

[dickotoole]

Relationships are a wonderful mystery no matter how they come about. Like Badger says, some click, some don't and that goes both ways. I know I have met people and thought, "what a dick" and then later, because I HAD to see that person again and again in groups through work or sports or whatever, that s/he turned out to be alright, and even a good friend in a couple instances. Other times what seemed like a very nice kind person turned out to be a backstabbing SOB. How we meet matters not, how we treat each other does and is affected by how we meet each other. If that 'edge' is there throughout a meeting things likely won't carry on much afterward, unless that edge is one of excitement both ways. Dickheads who think working girls are damaged goods somehow are as pathetic as the hoes that think clients are losers. I mean, WTF, we are all here ticking away the moments that make us a dull day (anyone know the song) the sun will come around and catch up to us again, the proverbial us. Have love and openness in your spirit and you will find life is so FUCKIN much better (emphasis on fucking for this board only)
And the thing is to be able to accurately read what the other is doing in the relationship and believe it when you see it - don't lie to yourself. Don't imagine things will get better or things will change. They are the way they are and there is a reason for that. Sometimes because of the "$ - wanna fuck" transaction and other times for other reasons. No matter what the reason, accept it move on and try another person.

In this business it took me quite a while to figure out that it is as much my responsibility to create a comfortable atmosphere as it is the girl I am paying. When I did, man the time with those who were in that same mental place became way better.

Relationships can happen when we meet this way but they will only last if both parties can 150% accept that the hoe I paid for is actually a wonderful human being that got to where she is for whatever reasons (would be good to know and share that) and has dreams and aspirations just as is the case with the perv/john.

There are days when I am a dick and an ass and other days when women love my dick and ass. Stress management as I age has the trend going toward the latter. Peace and pieces to all

 

[Elle Diablo]

dickotoole ... such a poetic way with words, I think I just fell in love (but don't read anything into that).

:cheer2:

 

[dickotoole]

thank you Elle. One day I will love you too, deeply, for an hour or so ok.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

TOOT TOOT, hey; BEEP BEEP!

 

[Man Mountain]

I'm almost surprised that you didn't go with "She Works Hard for the Money"