I need some advise, please...

[Ophelia Black]

Yumiko - whatever you do, do not speak to him. NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY, he will take it as encouragement.

Buy a book by Gavin de Becker called the Gift of Fear.

http://www.gdbinc.com/books-gof.cfm


"Get a pager service that gives a caller only enough time to speak his name, callback number and little else."

Very good advice Sushiman - it's what I do. I never, ever speak directly to a potential client unless I feel they are safe.

Always *67 your calls - even when you are calling a friend or ordering pizza. That way it becomes automatic through repetition, and you are far less likely to forget to do it when calling back a client.

Restraining orders are almost useless - they are only pieces of paper. I read a nasty stat somewhere about how many women are found dead, holding one in their hands.

I agree with the others who say preventing the guy from being able to cross the border is the most practical and efficient way to deal with this fool.

I wish you luck. Talk to the police to find out what they can and can't do. You will get through this.

 

[bigdman]

Yumiko.........get yourself a 9mm...............!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Massagegirl]

Is this the Yumiko in Victoria?

You know, if enough of us were willing to go over and deal with him personally, couldn't we figure out a way for her to get a message to us when he's buzzing at her door? Then we can show up with cameras (at the least it will help her case) and scare the poop right out of him??

I'm in! I live right downtown btw.

 

[Sir Woodster]

Yumiko.........get yourself a 9mm...............!!!!!!!!!!

Bad idea..... very bad idea.....

See willie the wheeler's post.... that's better advice, much better advice....

 

[williewheeler]

Mace is illegal, bear spray is not. It's the same stuff - all SPs should have a can of it. Unless the client has conditioned himself to it, it will stop anybody with debilitating coughing and sneezing, watery eyes, and trouble breathing. Gives you the opportunity to get the hell outta there, or to call 911.

Ladies, never, never, never allow a client to pour you anything from an already opened container, unless you want to be "date raped."

Tasers are pretty good too, but I don't believe you can buy one legally in Canada....

 

[LowerMainlander]

Yumiko,

Although I'm new here i feel that the situation is serious enough that I should add my words of support and encouragement to those already posted.

A restraining order is merely as strong as a restrainee's willingness to abide by it. That being said, it's useful in the sense that there's a court document attesting to the fact that you have followed channels to have the offender cease and desist whatever contact they have or might attempt with you.

I agree wholeheartedly with those who are urging you to notify the authorities; they can't do anything if they don't know there's a problem. As earlier stated, your profession is irrelavent to that fact that you are being stalked and harrassed. If I remember correctly, uttering a threat is an offense under the Criminal Code and is therefore sufficient reason to involve the police. The sooner you getthem involved, the better.

Get a new contact number and if you can, move and leave no forwarding address. The suggestion about the pagers is a good one as well.

Ultimately, you should take whatever steps you feel you need to take in order to ensure your safety. Unfortunately this may impinge upon your ability to communicate with your clients and may cost you a few impatient ones. But then again, your safety is much more important.

Good luck with the resolution of this situation.