I need some advice

[mars3341]

So I normally don't talk to many people here let alone post very often.

I've been at this hobby for several years now. And have had many wonderful experiences. But that is neither here nor there.

Back on topic for why I need advice today.

So a few years back one of my favorite SPs passed away sadly. Bless her heart and soul she was a wonderful girl. Anyway, one time we decided to make a private recording that I've been sitting on for a very long time and I do on occasion watch it from time to time since it was one of my fond memories of being with her.

Now, my own internal dilemma is, while I've no plans to share this with anyone, or post it anywhere (don't bother asking or DMing me about it either). Is what do I do with this video? Do I continue to keep it or do I eventually let it go?

I'm already mostly decided on what I'll eventually do, but I wouldn't mind having an outside opinion on the matter before I decide what to ultimately do with it.

 

[luvsdaty]

If it's a fond memory that you have no intentions of sharing, I see no reason in keeping it?

 

[sensualsixty]

If it's a fond memory that you have no intentions of sharing, I see no reason in keeping it?

Since you are from Winnipeg, I am almost certain that it is not the same young lady I knew. If it were me, and I could securely keep the recording, I would keep it for trips down memory lane.

 

[TerrR]

If I was you I would set a reminder in my calander to remind me once a year that I have it. In the future if the reminder comes up and I say to myself, ‘I’m probably never going to watch this again’, then I’d delete it.
As I get older and I obverse my memory deteriorating I think about stuff like this. Next thing you know you have a stroke or a heart attack and a little item like that gets forgotten about until someone else discovers it. If you see what I’m getting at.

 

[Mr. J]

The bottom line is this: as long as you remember those good times together, video or not, that's the real keeper.

 

[UhOh]

I’d have no interest in watching a video of me or anyone else having sex with someone who is no longer alive.
My advice would be to move on.

 

[ModSquad]

A wise SP told me that it’s a priority to clean up anything to do with this industry before one passes away, Think of a family member perusing all the stuff you kept hidden when you’re gone.

Christmas and Birthday cards too!

 

[vanperb]

A wise SP told me that it’s a priority to clean up anything to do with this industry before one passes away, Think of a family member perusing all the stuff you kept hidden when you’re gone.

I've been through this in the past where I've spent time removing any public digital residual of a provider I knew who suddenly passed away. Ads, agency profiles, etc,. It was a fair amount of work, but I felt like that part of her life needed to be retired, and only what she meant to her family and friends remain.

 

[Deguire]

A wise SP told me that it’s a priority to clean up anything to do with this industry before one passes away, Think of a family member perusing all the stuff you kept hidden when you’re gone.

This. Some years ago I got a call at work from a colleague who was in hospital recovering from surgery. He had heard that we were moving offices to another part of the building and this would happen before he got back to work. Somebody would have to move everything from his desk over to his new location. Would I go into his desk now, top right drawer and retrieve a strip of negatives and keep them safe? Being a decent sort, I did and never told anybody. Being an indecent sort, I allowed myself a look at the negatives. It was a strip of 35mm black and white, six frames long. They were nude photos of an attractive female with a nice body and big tits. He had taken them while they were dating. Years later, the trouble now was that he had ended up marrying her sister and that was why he could not keep the negatives at home.

 

[Bridge]

Maybe ask yourself honestly what she would have wanted.

 

[bigballs55]

No question you delete it! For all the reasons mentioned and plus it's just the right thing to do.

 

[ElectricWoodie]

My 2 bits. I would maybe watch it a couple more times and then say good bye and delete it.

Let your memories linger on instead of a video that may/may not be discovered as the years roll on.

 

[blakealridge]

The Saddest Wank™

 

[luvsdaty]

The Saddest Wank™

You reach a certain age and they all become sad 🙃

 

[steverino]

Sounds like my novel, "The Happy Wanker," may not achieve the sales volume I was hoping for.

 

[YYC]

I can't watch vids of porn stars I know are dead. Don't think I could watch vids of someone I knew who was dead having sex.

yes, i have hangups.

 

[PuntMeister]

Had a similar scenario with a vid once. In the end, decided to do “a final viewing” on a significant date, savour the memories (and mamories) one last time, enjoy a brief moment of gratitude, then torch it forever (I like to put the last shred of evidence on a thumb drive and literarlly watch it go up in flames like a viking funeral).

A fitting send off.

 

[harrybolls]

I say delete. You’re holding onto something concrete that is of the past. You still have your memory of the person which is plenty. Cherish the moment your shared.

 

[harrybolls]

Good thought. Ask why you want it and that will bring to light the meaning.

I had pictures and text messages from a couple girls that I had an amazing time with that I met while travelling. Sex was unreal and a lot of fun. I kept the text messages and pictures for my personal collection and do not share them. I was single at the time so no biggie to have them on my phone. Well after a few yearsI thought to myself I don’t need to have these on my phone. Didn’t want to hold onto something that yes it was significant as a memory at the time but now… just move on. Live in the present, not the past

 

[Miss Julia Fontaine]

I understand that this is a sensitive and personal situation for you. It sounds like you have a deep respect for the memory of your late friend and have been considerate in handling the private recording. Ultimately, the decision is yours to make and should align with your own feelings and values.

If the video brings you comfort and serves as a cherished memory of your time together, it's entirely valid to keep it as a personal memento. On the other hand, if you find that it causes you distress or hinders your ability to move forward, you might consider deleting it as a way to prioritize your emotional well-being.

Remember, there is no right or wrong answer here. Your decision should be based on what feels right for you and brings you peace. Take your time to reflect and make the choice that aligns with your own feelings and values.