I need a man's opinion.

[Lady Trucker]

What's a girl to do?
A year and a half ago I found a card from a mp in To. in my boyfriends truck. He saw me when I first found it and seamed fine so I didn't think any thing of it because he's not the only one that uses the rig. Then later I started to think of some things he had said before and started to wounder. So I asked him about it. He went nuts. Screaming at me. So I droped it. It has bugged me ever since. I am very giving sexualy. I want more sex than he can give. He doesn't have a big sex drive, he doesn't even get morning woodys. The only fantasy I wont do is a 3some. So I cant see it but I can't stop woundering. I have run mps for 13 years and seen alot. What do you think? Am I nuts or what?

 

[Lady Trucker]

Mabe I am to old. I am 45 but look 35 or so, he is 48 and looks it. Mabe midlife? Mabe not blonde? Mabe tits to small? Mabe a change is as good as a rest? His favorite is a bj and I give the best anywhere any time, so thats not it. He knows the only thing I am not comfortable with is a 3some. I am always doing things he has never done before.

 

[jambos]

From a man's point of view... going to an mp has nothing (or at least in my case) to do with the sex life with your significant other. It has everything to do with somebody different, available, discrete, safe, and non-intrusive. My gf and I have a wonderful time together as often (if not more) than I need. HOWEVER, I still enjoy somebody new and exciting... without anything emotional.

If you have doubts, you won't be able to avoid them without confrontation. If he's not able to talk calmly with you about it, then chances are he's going to mps. (I'm a big advocate if he's charged with the crime he's usually guilty).

To be perfectly honest though, getting ones little man tugged at an mp is not something to destroy a relationship. A little empty satisfaction does not necessarily require a lacking in the quality of the relationship --- just boredom. Give him the opportunity to explain, listen rationally, and find whether you can handle it.

 

[hornydude]

Awww

Mabe I am to old. I am 45 but look 35 or so, he is 48 and looks it. Mabe midlife? Mabe not blonde? Mabe tits to small? Mabe a change is as good as a rest? His favorite is a bj and I give the best anywhere any time, so thats not it. He knows the only thing I am not comfortable with is a 3some. I am always doing things he has never done before.

Now, now...you're probably just lovely!

Oh, now the bad news: apparently low sex drive in your partner may be a sign that he is getting lots of lovin elsewhere...

If it makes you fel better I'll come over and pound your pussy while he's driving truck.

 

[Lady Trucker]

Jambos and Hornydude

I know what you are saying. So how come it's ok for him to only give it to me on Saterday mornings and do mps, but not ok for me to do the same?
I'm supose to suffer and he gets what ever he wants. He was told when we first got to gether that the last person I was with couldn't handle that I wanted it 4 times a day and would give more if he wanted it. He told me he could handle it. 3 months later we had a problem, it was more than he wanted. I asked him why he told me in the beginning that it wouldn't be a problem. He said that he thought I was only joking.
He also has a problem with me in this business, he is worried that I will some day do a session. I have had alot of guys ask me to but I have never done one. I couldn't do that to him. So if it's ok for him than why is he so worried about me doing it?

 

[Syncmaster]

BF going to MP

Sounds to me he is going to the MP to rest up. You want it 4 times a day ? Perhaps he is afraid because he knows he cannot meet your expectations. At the MP, he has total freedom as to whether to just go for a HJ or BJ or more.

My suggestion is to order a regular supply of V-pills for him ..... if that fails, PM me your phone number.

 

[eljudo]

What's a girl to do?
A year and a half ago I found a card from a mp in To. in my boyfriends truck. He saw me when I first found it and seamed fine so I didn't think any thing of it because he's not the only one that uses the rig. Then later I started to think of some things he had said before and started to wounder. So I asked him about it. He went nuts. Screaming at me. So I droped it. It has bugged me ever since. I am very giving sexualy. I want more sex than he can give. He doesn't have a big sex drive, he doesn't even get morning woodys. The only fantasy I wont do is a 3some. So I cant see it but I can't stop woundering. I have run mps for 13 years and seen alot. What do you think? Am I nuts or what?

you want it 4 times a day? PM NOW!!!

 

[LonelyGhost]

So if it's ok for him than why is he so worried about me doing it?

um, because he's a guy!

and the amount of sex a guy or gal gets has no relationship to how much they will screw around ...

the latest 'research' basically said that the people in relationships who are most satified with their sex lives are typically having that sex with someone outside the relationship!

so, you either accept his BS or don't ... but the bottom line is that it has NOTHING to do with your looks, age, body type, hair colour, occupation, sexual appetite, technique etc ...

its human nature.

 

[Fudd]

From his reaction I would say he's going to MP's. It's too bad he can't be a little more honest about it to you and to let you decide if you want to stay in the relationship.


"I have had alot of guys ask me to but I have never done one. I couldn't do that to him."
I think it's honourable of you that you stayed loyal to the him.


"I wanted it 4 times a day and would give more if he wanted it."
If you two decide to ever break up, PM me.

 

[yogi]

Sorry, but you asked, so here goes...

If you have to investigate, speculate, ask random strangers their take on this, & analyze this thing to death, then it sounds to me as if this relationship is played out.

I just don't get it when people want to hire a PI, hook a "loved one" to a lie detector, or other such sleuthing, when it's clear that the simple truth is that there's no confidence or trust left in the relationship.

 

[rollerboy]

Four times a day. Damn that's impressive. I wish I could do it four times a day. Not with the same girl, but four would be great.

I could see four times a day with the same girl during the "honeymoon period", but year in and year out? That might just be overgrazing on the same pasture. Sorry baby, I got things to do. Two to three times a day long term.

Eventually, the desire for new pussy would be unbearable. Maybe that's why he wants a threesome, because then it's not cheating. I've had so many girls promise me threesomes and never deliver. Sure, it's a slutty, erotic thing for her to say, but then there's reality: hurt feelings, jealousy, insecurity. I'd like to think that if I were truly in love, I wouldn't want another woman. Perhaps that means that true love is biologically mpossible.

 

[sirlickheralot]

Maybe instead of 3somes you could suggest hooking up with another couple. That way you could both satisfy your sexual urges. He'll get some variety and you'll get someone who will find you new and exciting and can hopefully keep up with you. Perhaps if he sees someone else focusing attention on you he will appreciate what he has and his own desire for you will increase.

 

[Massagegirl]

Julia is totally right, I have studied up a bit on it and that is the way evolution has made men. Not all of them will give in to their biological needs, however, why expect them to fight what their very genes are telling them to do?

To answer your other question, men somehow are ok with their own cheating but would never be ok if "their" woman cheats on them. It's weird! I've been cheated on and I had a simple solution, that I would go have sex with someone else and we'd be even! But nooooo, the guy said he would dump me if I did. So I dumped him first! I knew it was over for me, since I believe what's good for the goose is good for the gander...

I think that time has come for you Lady trucker, and you will feel so much better when he's gone and you can persue all the sex you want!

PS If you want it 4 times a day, I suggest you get 4 boyfriends! Or get back in the biz...you have a lot of sex to get caught up on!

 

[gymguy]

It could be something as simple as he was at a truck stop, restaurant or bar and someone left the card on his windshield. It used to happen to me when I was in Toronto. Maybe he kept it because it was a fantasy to think about in the future.

 

[timec98]

... though it is not easy for us woman to accept, biologically men ARE programmed to spread their seed to as many wombs as they can. ( i studied sociology.)

Huh? Damn, those pesky rubbers keep thwarting biology. Somehow hooker sessions seem counter-productive to the programming you speak of. Where might seeking variety, the need to fill a relationship void, immaturity, low-self worth, etc., fit in with that biological programming.

What’s the biological programming that causes women to cheat?

.

 

[Lady Trucker]

The way I am starting to think is that eather I get single and stay that way.
(the drive goes away if there is no man) Or stay with him, catch him, and then get him to let me find another guy and all move in together.

 

[shak]

His favorite is a bj and I give the best anywhere any time

man, your SO is one lucky bastard and he doesnt know it Most girls dont like giving heads!

The way I am starting to think is that eather I get single and stay that way.
(the drive goes away if there is no man) Or stay with him, catch him, and then get him to let me find another guy and all move in together.

seriously, men are selfish(hehe sometimes women can be selfish too). Most of my friends(including myself), they can accept threesome in their relationship, but strictly 2 girls(his SO and one other girl) and 1 guy(and thats him). None of my guy friend accept to have another guy coming into the picture

Back to the topic, catch him and get him to let you find another guy. I think thats kinda like trying to retaliate just to make yourself feel even. That probably wont improve the relationship in anyway. Haha, just my humble opinion anywayz...

 

[rollerboy]

To answer your other question, men somehow are ok with their own cheating but would never be ok if "their" woman cheats on them. It's weird! I've been cheated on and I had a simple solution, that I would go have sex with someone else and we'd be even!

From a biological standpoint more pussy means greater chances to reproduce. Allowing other men to screw his mate lowers his odds of proliferating his genes.

No such conflict with lesbian action (again more pussy is better).

Julia, girl I like your attitude!

 

[rollerboy]

Huh? Damn, those pesky rubbers keep thwarting biology. Somehow hooker sessions seem counter-productive to the programming you speak of. Where might seeking variety, the need to fill a relationship void, immaturity, low-self worth, etc., fit in with that biological programming.

What’s the biological programming that causes women to cheat?

Apparently, genes aren't aware of rubbers...

Actually, if you think about it, it explains why men tend to be adverse to rubbers, even though they are clearly beneficial from a health perspective. Think about how many men want to have bareback services with sex workers. That's actually almost insane from a risk perspective. But in fact, sometimes hookers do get knocked up by johns (broken condoms or bareback services).

As for women, my guess is that females cuckold males in order to maximize their chances of evolutionarily strong offspring. As long as their provider male doesn't know, they gain advantage by reproducing with the most genetically fit male they can sneak around with.

 

[Syncmaster]

what a relief !!

I feel so much better now, knowing that I am biologically programmed to spread my seeds. My guilt just evaporated magically. Thank you so much.