how to get on with women

[sevenofnine]

a girl walked into my building today,
young beautiful about mid twenties i think


im in my mid fifties ok not at all i would describe myself as attractive or an easy pick up kind of guy ok

but its just funny
my thread a few days ago about guys feeling there not good enough to meet or date hot girls and well some one elses thread about rich chicks.


any way our eyes met,
and i gave her the biggest warmest smile i could manage,
that said to me, god its just nice to be alive ok thats all
she looked at me and smiled back but just kept on moving

i did my job my thing and just did what i had to do ok i was at work

about ten fifteen minutes latter, i feel some one come up behind me and its her,

she is done whatever she needed to do, she didn't have to come and talk to me, or she could have gone to see some one else, or just left
but there she was.

hey i smiled again and just started some friendly banter,
we talked we talked alot,

she is young beautiful she told me alot about herself
if i was younger i would have asked her for coffee or whatever,

why is it so hard to meet girls hot girls
i really don't know why some guys find it hard,

i remember my strip club days when i was younger,
i had nothing really to offer a girl,

i was just young and stupid or older an married and stupid
but i felt i had nothing really to offer a girl
i was just out and about,

relaxed and easy just enjoying life and felt good to be alive and enjoy life ok not at all intending or trying to pick some one up

but i kid you not,
several times not a lot but more then a couple

money spent or last call or whatever,
i just get up and walk out to leave and this dancer chases me down and says wait for me i will change and be right back or i have one more set and i will be right back

seriously the sweetest youngest dancers you could imagine chased me to the door and said wait up,

at work i always thought it was funny these women play there games they go around the office from guy to guy and then finally they get to me,
there all dressed up in there shortest mini skirt or lowest cut blouse and they like have this five second rule i have to notice them or make a comment to them within like five seconds after they all bothered to show me what they have and if i don't they walk away in a huff, i just laugh

and i laughed at some girls comment she shows her boobs off and if a guy can keep from staring at them
then he has won
to me,
any girl or women that plays silly little games i just laugh and move on.

moving on to hot women,
while these group of women are playing there silly little mind games

there are these seriously group of sexy sincere hot amazingly hot smoking chicks all feminine and sensual just watching me
and i have noticed them to,
and its like they keep there distance ok for a while its ok there over there and im over here
and like the next week i notice her and she is a little bit closer,
the following day she again is just alittle bit closer
the next day again her chair is just a little bit closer to mine,

and then finally were talking and were an item,
the entire building thinks im fucking this the hottest girl that works there,

and im just sitting there im a dad a father
and im just going why me, did i flirt with her or do anything that showed i had any kind of interest in her,
and im not religious but i look up for god and ask him why the hell are you doing this to me,
the girl will not leave me alone.
i have had stalkers,
i have had to change jobs because these women wouldn't leave me alone,
to be fare one of them was an old bag,
but the other one was this supper hot chick,


so my advice on how to get hot chicks

number one,

dont really try to, they will come to you,

number two

enjoy life, find things that you like to do that makes you happy, and do them whatever it is, go out there and be happy and particpate in life.

number three,

care, don't be phoney but actually care about the human being next to you or whatever, just don't want to get into her panties,
care about her as a person, enjoy her company and tell her, but don't make it sound like your just trying to screw her.

i tell my sp all the time i like her its fun to be with her she makes my week when i see her its just nice and fun and makes me feel alive,
and she looks at me and says what
no one has ever told her that i ask her

and i say what all the guys you see and no one has told you that its fun to be with her it makes them fun and happy it helps them get through the week the day whatever,

i mean what the fuck is the matter with you guys,
that you can fuck an sp,
and not email her the next day and say i have such a big smile on my face all day thankyou honey
or just thank her for making you feel alive or happy or whateve,
or that she is great or such a neat person not just a great sp but a great person.
what the fuck is the matter with you guys,
that you can't tell your sp how great she is.

any way just care,
not care that she might fuck you
but just care,

oh one last thing,
you have to get off your ass and get out there where the girls are

 

[vancity_cowboy]

if i was younger i would have asked her for coffee or whatever...

nice post seven

i get things happen to me like that too. i always make the offer to go for a cup of coffee or tea or juice or whatever, its just the sociable thing to do. usually they kind of wake up to the fact that they just spent twenty minutes yacking with an older guy and say they have to get back to whatever they were doing, but they always say thank you like i did them a huge favour. sometimes they say yes and i learn a whole lot more about them. my game isn't good enough to take it to the next level though - i've never gotten the vibe that i could bang one of them - and i'm too polite to just out and out proposition one of them

 

[chilli]

Sevenofnine women for the most part are very insecure.

They talk to you because you seem "safe" to them.

At the same time they complain they can't find a "good" guy.

Women like married men, gay men and old men.

Because to them you pose no threat.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

yah chilli, that makes good sense

 

[badbadboy]

There is also the human connection too that is important to everyone.

I think the 20 - 30 something generation Males has lost the plot with women their own age.

I remember the angst of asking a woman out in person with my heart jumping a bit. Fear of rejection to your face can be humbling.

This generation of males seems to think the way to ask a woman out is to send them a text message at 3 AM or send some weird request on a FB message.

I think the 20 - 30 something female is wanting to connect in a communication sense with older mature males who know how a woman ticks. They seem to have washed their hands of the males their age and just want a connection.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

i see what you're saying badboy and chilli

i met a 20 something lady last year that i was expected to mentor in my field. i worked with her for a week and i thought i did a good job. she really opened up to me discussing her career plans and her personal dreams and her past experiences. when i left to go home she was all sad and gave me a huge hug and a peck on the cheek that i totally wasn't expecting. she still emails me every few months to let me know what's happening with her, both her career and her personal life

i'm sure she wasn't hitting on me sexually because she has a bf that she's committed to

i used to wonder what was going on because she was hot too, but after reading your post i can agree, she saw me as 'safe' and enjoyed the week of communication

...heh heh... if she only knew!

ps. on reflection, i guess maybe my pooning experiences have taught me a bit about speaking openly with women

 

[badbadboy]

Hey now, that's not fair. Not all of us are that way, I don't even have a FB account and I'm not looking for a 'hot, rich woman' lol. Some guys in my generation are still very sincere and genuine. I hate the way technology has isolated so many of us from personal communication with each other but that's the reality of today's world. However, women of my generation are held responsible too as many of them also prefer this method of contact.

Great post and I am glad that some are out there.

I do know a number on non SP 20 - 30ish ladies who shake their heads at this generation of males.

One told me she was asked out on a date to an expensive restaurant. He did all the ordering with drinks, nice wine, after dinner drinks etc.

Then hit her up with her portion of the bill. F**K me, I told her, hope you have banned him from your life.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

Then hit her up with her portion of the bill.

...choke... (spits out coffee) lmfao

 

[hang5507]

....Christ! I just turned 52 and you guys had to tell me I'm an old man. Go figure, I would never of known had you not told me.
I thought all these young girls coming on to me were after my good looks and my affable charm.. You have ruined it for me..
I actually consider any one under the age of 45 young..lol

Thanks Guys

Regards

H