How'd you do it?
I haven't hit the porn induced erectile dysfunction, but am in the same boat from teens-mid 30s on a regular basis. Always wondered if I stop will there be any benefits
How to cut down on pooning?
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I haven't hit the porn induced erectile dysfunction, but am in the same boat from teens-mid 30s on a regular basis. Always wondered if I stop will there be any benefits
About that now, down from once or twice a week.
Now instead of an hour or two, I go for an overnighter or at least a dinner date.
Each date is far more enjoyable and because they are few and far between, they are eagerly anticipated.
Better connection with my partner, no rush, infinitely better experience than a one hour fling.
I like this thinking. Another way to look at it is how much time/ effort are you really putting into dating? Say you see an escort once a week for $300 per hour. That's $1200 a month after taxes; closer to $1600 before taxes. Assume you make $25 per hour. That's 64 hours of work. Now take 64 hours of your personal time for the month and apply it to trying to find a date. Between dating sites, outtings, etc. If after 64 hours of effort in a month you come up empty I'm gonna say you probably are setting your sights too high and need to lower your standards. I couldn't imagine anyone, I mean anyone asking out 100 women and being shot down 100 times. If you do, then it's definitely time to lower that bar.
I’d try a sex and relationship therapist maybe? Then try and read some reviews, contact them with some specifics and see if you like their reply. Try a few. Much like SPs it takes time to find an ATF lollll
Porn-induced ED, is YMMV. ED can be caused by so many things and a combo of things. If your concerned, research Porn-induced ED for symptoms and get checked out. Have I had it, a few times I thought so. Some effects of it I but also could have a tribute it to other factors like over worked, stressed out, etc. I never realized how much stress could effect a boner. Anyhow after some time away from porn, less stress and lighter work load I was back in the game. It sucks feeling like you have ED but then again at least there are pills to help with that, heck even if you dont have ED those things can help :lol:
From the article
"Additionally, only men who engaged in "moderate" use of Internet pornography reported more ED than those engaged in "high" or "low" use."
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/317117.php
As for cutting back. My opinion is that its easier said then done to just go out and grab a new girl. Keeping busy, working out and so on. At the end of the day you have to really want to cut back no matter what other distraction you have. Try going from 4x a month to 2x for a few months and the 1x a month. Like any addiction or overindulgence or just scaling back a hobby, putting yourself in position to succeed will go a long way to attaching your goal. Daily checking out SP ads or sites or review sites can be too much temptation and hurting your goal.
Good Luck :tea:
Good Luck :tea:
How did you last 100 days? I went without for a month, experienced blue balls and when I ejaculated I had a painful orgasm like somebody kicked me in the nuts.
I’m also trying to stop but it’s very hard. In January I spent about $2k and honestly most of the time felt disappointed with all my sessions. I’ve reduced myself just to massage and hj just once a week..... trying to phase it out completely very soon. Best way is think what you could get or do with a $150 that you spend in 30 minutes.
Yeah sounds like an addiction is building up bud.
As the nice lady said in the movie Wolf of Wall Street "There are worst things to be addicted to than sex".
So I won't get too upset about it
As the nice lady said in the movie Wolf of Wall Street "There are worst things to be addicted to than sex".
So I won't get too upset about it
what made you upset after? was it not a true GFE or did the service not feel natural?
Tobleroney, I’ve also never really been successful at dating and I’ve got some years on you. Some guys have it , some don’t. I’ve also heard some of the same old cliched advice and here’s what I can tell you. Relationship therapy is probably good advice and worth looking into. Working on yourself is a must and everyone should do it whether it helps with dating or not. Dating sites like Tinder can be hookup sites but on average men have a 1 in 100 chance of even making a connection never mind getting a date. Other dating sites can be helpful looking for a relationship but again the odds aren’t in favour of the men and they can be littered with scams, connections to porn and webcam sites etc. Some you can join for free but have to pay to send a message and you will be immediately sent messages from pretty girls so that you’ll pay the annual fee and then never hear from them again. Like many things do some real research. Another suggestion is to save all that money and take a trip to central or South America or wherever else your thinking. A real trip for a month or so. It will expand your horizons and they tend to be very friendly and like Canadians down there. And if your still feeling the need you can hire a SP down there for a day for what it costs here for an hour. Obviously you’ll need to be extra cautious and go through a reputable agency. Again do your research. Another suggestion is to join a singles group such as events and adventures in Vancouver. I don’t know much about it but at least it gets you out there and into a situation that you can work on your social skills. Expand your group of guy friends, this will expand your social circle as a lot of connections are made through people you know. If they have SO’s they could be a source of advice specific to you.
People that have “it” make it sound so easy, just do this, just do that. If you can manage to turn the switch to suddenly become confident and personable then you’ll be fine but most likely for guys like us it does take a lot of work but like some other posters have mentioned, keep at it, and every once awhile the stars do align and you’ll have a successful date.
I hope this helps and good luck.
People that have “it” make it sound so easy, just do this, just do that. If you can manage to turn the switch to suddenly become confident and personable then you’ll be fine but most likely for guys like us it does take a lot of work but like some other posters have mentioned, keep at it, and every once awhile the stars do align and you’ll have a successful date.
I hope this helps and good luck.
Lots of things, lack of connection, crappy service the list goes on. Example I went to half service place today and had a lame massage with zero effort put into it. Same with the happy ending part, like she didn’t really feel like doing it. $185 later and yeah that sums it up. I don’t mind spending the money if it’s worth it.
QUOTE=Chessmen;1969043]what made you upset after? was it not a true GFE or did the service not feel natural?[/QUOTE]
QUOTE=Chessmen;1969043]what made you upset after? was it not a true GFE or did the service not feel natural?[/QUOTE]
I have been seeing SPs for about 20 years.
Sometimes more often, sometimes less often.
It depends on how much time and money I have to put into the hobby.
After a sketchy experience a couple years ago, I decided to take a year off.
I was surprised to find that it was pretty easy.
I just stopped logging into board sites, or looking at ads.
I ended up going 14 months before I felt like jumping back in.
I was also surprised that it didn't really feel like I had any extra spending money.
I was averaging about 1,000 per month before the break, but I think I just ended up spending the money on other hobbies (skiing, motorcycles, etc).
My advice is to take a complete break for a while.
Then slowly ease back into it if you want to.
I have been averaging over 2,000 per month so far this year.
I should probably cut back or take a break soon too...
Sometimes more often, sometimes less often.
It depends on how much time and money I have to put into the hobby.
After a sketchy experience a couple years ago, I decided to take a year off.
I was surprised to find that it was pretty easy.
I just stopped logging into board sites, or looking at ads.
I ended up going 14 months before I felt like jumping back in.
I was also surprised that it didn't really feel like I had any extra spending money.
I was averaging about 1,000 per month before the break, but I think I just ended up spending the money on other hobbies (skiing, motorcycles, etc).
My advice is to take a complete break for a while.
Then slowly ease back into it if you want to.
I have been averaging over 2,000 per month so far this year.
I should probably cut back or take a break soon too...
I only ever cut down once I ran low on money because my hours were slashed at work. When I didn't have extra cash, I just couldn't go. But now that I have money, I find it hard to resist. My other outlets are watching movies, tv, and anime. Also video games. If you keep yourself busy with good entertainment, you can just distract yourself. And if you get horny, jerk off.
You don't have to limit yourself to just watching stuff either, you can do other activities. Build model airplanes, go hiking, try new foods, kayaking, running, literally anything else. Reading. Try to budget yourself to one visit a month if you can, and if you can't then cut yourself off cold turkey.
You have to remember that pooning is a luxury, not a nececessity. I know its fun to drop some cash and have a good time, but you have to limit yourself. Also consider putting money away for a vacation.
You don't have to limit yourself to just watching stuff either, you can do other activities. Build model airplanes, go hiking, try new foods, kayaking, running, literally anything else. Reading. Try to budget yourself to one visit a month if you can, and if you can't then cut yourself off cold turkey.
You have to remember that pooning is a luxury, not a nececessity. I know its fun to drop some cash and have a good time, but you have to limit yourself. Also consider putting money away for a vacation.
Just sheer will power I guess. I was just kind of sick of jerking off to porn and not even enjoying it. Many nights after I orgasm from porn, I would be slightly depressed and the whole process wasn't even pleasurable anymore. I was seeking freakier and freakier shit just to get off. I was mentally done with it. It was affecting my libido. I didn't have full on PIED, but my erections were definitely not as strong anymore especially during sex. Like Relax10 said, it's YMMV, but it is a real thing and it affects people differently. I heard it takes about 90 days to rewire the brain again and it can take longer for some people. After 100 days, I can say I feel great. My libido is back and sex is enjoyable again. Once you have done a 90 day reboot, it's fine to have sex and masturbate. The key is to not masturbate with porn.
It wasn't easy. I went through times where I had really bad urges to watch porn again. I also would just do anything else and keep me occupied. If you want to masturbate, just do it without porn. Then there would be stretches that could last weeks where I wouldn't feel anything. I wouldn't feel horny at all no matter what. A very attractive girl could be talking to me, but I would have no feelings. It was strange and kind of scary.
Some guys go hard mode for the first 90 days meaning no porn, masturbation or sex. During my first 90 days, I had sex 5 times just to relieve the stress and urge but was able to avoid the porn. I gotta say I'm enjoying the extra time doing my own stuff like catching up on shows, playing video games and going out.
I been going out to different restaurants and sitting at the bar, especially when a sports game is on, easy to start up a conversation if your not sure how to start one. Talking about events thats happening on the tv helps so much. I try to find places that makes great martinis and wine! women loves those at the bar area of a restaurant if they are alone it seems.
what are some good places for that? I've been going for happy hour at cactus and earls sometimes and meet some cool people. Usually it's older women or men because the ones around my age are generally really stuck up and kinda kill the convo or give 1 word answers if you try to talk to them . I've been to wings as well but it was pretty dead.
Where i am i go to Joeys restaurant (all are different though, i go to one in my area which is fairly nicer than others)/ we have a martini bar downtown, most of the places arent big chains, they are small cozy locations. Yes some locations can be mature women, some areas are younger, location location location is a biggy. You have to know where people hang out for the type of age group in your area. Friday night/sat is mostly younger. 1am comes after lots of drinking out, younger wants some yummy pizza end of the night. Asking if they want pizza at 1am is so big. It seems big here in winnipeg.
i don't do earls or cactus or for wings at night. pizza is the food for night! Even local pizza (not pizza hot or dominos or those) Usually ones are places around areas where people drink you can meet people trying to sober up. Never know what could happen
i don't do earls or cactus or for wings at night. pizza is the food for night! Even local pizza (not pizza hot or dominos or those) Usually ones are places around areas where people drink you can meet people trying to sober up. Never know what could happen
I'd even recommend local pubs and such over the "bigger names" like Earls. Generally can get a pretty good mix of folks in your more local venues for both age and economic demographics.
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