How to cope with getting older: challenges we face, advantages we enjoy

[cherise]

But true connection cannot be bought or sold, in my opinion,
I did not expect that...

I must look for connection where it is,
In my heart....


RH

while that may be true,RH,we sometimes make connections without recognizing it at the time, it occurs so subtly ....other times,through our written words and actions,we can connect with someone we've never even met
i think we put too much emphasis on those rare connections that hit us hard and fast...all too often they burn out and disintegrate

 

[yazoo]

I've entered the second half, and am looking forward to it. I see the upcoming five-oh as a new beginning, a fresh start to a new chapter. And I think that it is going to see a lot more pooning, and a lot more sex than the first half.

For most of my youth, I suffered from inexperience and the delusion that thou shalt not pay for it, and therefore sexually starved. Now experience has honed my 'game' and some amazing SP's from around the world have given me some experiences that I will never forget

The best is yet to come

 

[sevenofnine]

Interesting thread,


Mentally emotionally, I actually feel great,
in the sense that I don't give a fuck,
Pension plans retirement are all in place, I can walk away anytime.

I wonder why it took so long to get to this place this emotional state, in a sense I was always here, but when your younger you worry so much,
worry about money your looks am I getting enough sex, someone has more money then me,

all that fucking bs you wonder about etc etc when your young.

when your older, you realize its just great to be alive, you know. how many funerals have you been to, I had cancer, a friend just got diagnosed,
seriously when your older you simply appreciate being here.

I get grumpy in a sense and can go on a rant, but people know that is just me, I really don't give a shit, never really ever did,


I can feel my body age, not really enjoying that part at all.
but the rest I am immensely enjoying, even being a grumpy old man.

A quote, Juan de la Cruz a Catholic saint.

In the twilight of our life, God will not judge us by our early possessions or our successes but how well we have loved.

Some where there was a thread a guy said I love an sp, what should I do,
I said as long as you don't do anything stupid love is a nice place to be.


And when your older, and you can finally say fuck to all that bs of daily life and the daily grind.
Love really is a nice place to be,

Really sad when your old and either you can't love or have no one to love,

In a way this hobby has helped, in that it took away the craziness of being horny,
you really can't think when your motivated by your prick,
and its not something you can just shut off.

I have been very fortunate more then I deserve,

 

[tantalizeme]

Is it true that "pretty much ANY woman, at ANY time, can get laid for free?"

I'm not so sure about that tant.....i think it has more to do with the fact that pretty much ANY woman , at ANY time ,can get laid for free

I'd love to believe this, and I've no doubt it's totally true for every lady on this board.

But I recall a lecture I once attended, by a female professor from the SFU Department of Gerontology, who told us that an active sex life would be very healthy for women in their 60s and beyond—"if only most of them had the opportunity."

Another memory pops into my mind. At a swinger party a few years ago, one super-chubby lady in her late 30s or early 40s touched my heart by saying, "This is the only place where I can get sex...because of the way I look."

One of the most thought-provoking books I've ever read was Catherine Hakim's Erotic Capital. Hakim argues, providing lots of data, that there's a " large imbalance between men and women in sexual interest over the life course." http://www.catherinehakim.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/ESR-Erotic-Capital-Oct-2010.pdf

So I'm still left puzzled: why, if women's sex drive matches that of men, has no sex industry of any real size evolved to quench the erotic thirst of ladies who, because of age or looks, have trouble getting it for free?

 

[tantalizeme]

Taking a look at the POLL

46 brothers so far bothered to vote on the little poll at the top of this thread! Quite a response, for a PERB Lounge topic.

Two results seem mildly surprising.

The group that's out ahead are older pooners whose sex life is better than ever, thanks mostly to SPs. But PERB members are probably not representative of the general population of older men who, I suspect, are mostly languishing in permanent erotic limbo.

The other surprise is that one older pooner claims he's actually having better sex than ever, WITH CIVVIES! This option had zero votes for quite a while. I imagine someone voted for this option either by mistake or perhaps to sabotage my poll.

But if there really exists a guy out there, over 55, who found a way to recruit lots of civvies for rolls in the sack—and who's not a George Clooney lookalike—then please, brother, tell us your secret!

 

[MissingOne]

... ladies who, because of age or looks, have trouble getting it for me?

Why on earth would they want to get it for you??

(OK, I know, it was probably a typo. I can't resist pointing it out - I'm a repeat-offender pedant.)

 

[tantalizeme]

Ruminations about "THE BEST IS YET TO COME"

I've entered the second half, and am looking forward to it. I see the upcoming five-oh as a new beginning, a fresh start to a new chapter. And I think that it is going to see a lot more pooning, and a lot more sex than the first half.

For most of my youth, I suffered from inexperience and the delusion that thou shalt not pay for it, and therefore sexually starved. Now experience has honed my 'game' and some amazing SP's from around the world have given me some experiences that I will never forget

The best is yet to come

Hey yazoo,

Inspiring words. Sure would love to believe "the best is yet to come," for both of us!

I've a clear vision what "the best is yet to come" would involve: opportunities for wild promiscuity. Seems as clear as day, however, that it's not going to happen in Canada. I'll have to take determined steps to relocate overseas—which, of course, entails both serious risks and painful sacrifices.

One thing to cheer me up is the fact that I noticed, on my recent Philippine junket, that the average age of fellow mongers there probably exceeded mine. I can think of a few very simple reasons for this:

1. Many older men—especially if they're retired—have more leisure, as well as more disposable cash, for extended stays in an overseas pooning paradise.

2. Older men often have a greater "it's-either-now-or-never" sense of urgency than younger guys (I know I do).

3. Older men crave stronger erotic stimuli than are generally provided by age-appropriate civvies. Availing themselves of SPs, with the desired frequency, would be economically ruinous in their home country.

So for non-millionaires in their late 50s to mid 80s, almost daily sex or romance with women in their 20s or 30s is largely out of the question in Western countries.

But there're countries where sex is still around $20-$70 with often breathtaking lovelies—many of whom would still seriously consider us for romance. Of course, it's strongly advisable, for older men, to stay away from commitment to bargirls, and instead tap into their interest in romance by reaping lots of GF-style encounters.

I had the following conversation with a Filipina beauty in her late 20s who told me, her goal was to marry a foreigner.

"But aren't most foreigners here too old?" I asked. "Most of the ones I see around are at least in their sixties."

"Oh that's fine," she said. "I prefer an old guy. He's less likely to fuck around with other women. I want to take care of him."

I think her attitude was deeply sincere.

 

[sevenofnine]

I think for sure most women pretty much any women can get laid anytime they want. Even past there sixties.

But the thing is, if your fat stupid and ugly, who is going to want to fuck you but some other fat stupid son of a bitch.
You most likely won't be able to get laid by the man you want. But for sure someone will fuck you.

Its funny but I sometimes think a large number of women are afraid of sex, or their sexuality.



A lot of life I mean getting old is simply bordom,
your job is set your house is paid for you have and raised as many kids as you want to, what to you do now.

I sometimes think that is the only reason why I keep seeing my sp. Bored with life what do I do now,

I mentioned I went out with a couple of buds for a few beer, I couldn't stop flirting with the waitress. kind of just bordom again.

People generally like me at work because I always have something to say, even if it is plane stupid shit, because life is so boring if you don't go in and stir things, up.

I sometimes think people are so afraid, to say or do anything. Lest they stand out and somone bullies them or takes a shot at them.

But the older I get, the less I care, if I ever really did. So I do alot of stupid shit and say a lot of stupid shit, because I am bored.

Biggest challenge of getting old is bordom what do i do next what happnes next