How to cancel an appointment

[Alix Turner]

I hate this situation, and always have a manner of contact established that works for the client in advance, sometimes it's as easy as "you can get in touch any time" and others have been a lot more detailed and specific.

I think that Lance had the "safest bet" approach, if there is a man around you could always have him call and ask for the fake name if a woman answers, or pass it to you if it is your client that picks up
While I like the wrong number text, I don't have a lot of confidence in it, there's a good chance I wouldn't answer if that was all I got in a text.. and if we are talking crazy suspicious spouse.. I could see them googling the number just because the text is weird.. and plausible deniability might be a thing in court, but it doesn't hold up with a suspicious partner "I guess the escort agency was trying to reach some other guy but used the wrong number and texted me honey, I bet that happens a lot"

I think the second best option would be to send the cancelled appointment text using "Riza" or some other clue that would be obvious to the client as per Wintersurfers suggestion, but from a blocked number, or a number not associated with the agency

 

[VanessainVictoria]

I hate this situation, and always have a manner of contact established that works for the client in advance, sometimes it's as easy as "you can get in touch any time" and others have been a lot more detailed and specific.

I think that Lance had the "safest bet" approach, if there is a man around you could always have him call and ask for the fake name if a woman answers, or pass it to you if it is your client that picks up
While I like the wrong number text, I don't have a lot of confidence in it, there's a good chance I wouldn't answer if that was all I got in a text.. and if we are talking crazy suspicious spouse.. I could see them googling the number just because the text is weird.. and plausible deniability might be a thing in court, but it doesn't hold up with a suspicious partner "I guess the escort agency was trying to reach some other guy but used the wrong number and texted me honey, I bet that happens a lot"

I think the second best option would be to send the cancelled appointment text using "Riza" or some other clue that would be obvious to the client as per Wintersurfers suggestion, but from a blocked number, or a number not associated with the agency

You wanna say hi first. "Hi, its Riza, do I have the right number?". I've used this excuse for years and never received a call from a suspicious spouse. In fact I have never, ever received a call from a spouse.

 

[Alix Turner]

You wanna say hi first. "Hi, its Riza, do I have the right number?". I've used this excuse for years and never received a call from a suspicious spouse. In fact I have never, ever received a call from a spouse.

It was just a point of hesitation for me, that unless done from a "clean" number.. it is a possibility that it could happen or that a client might feel that he was left open to the possibility. Absolutely doing what works well for you makes the most sense, but my thought was that Riza was looking for the most discreet generic method possible with which to let this client know about the cancellation in advance.

 

[Caramel]

You wanna say hi first. "Hi, its Riza, do I have the right number?". I've used this excuse for years and never received a call from a suspicious spouse. In fact I have never, ever received a call from a spouse.

I agree, I would think that most pooners would have some common sense and not allow their significant others anywhere near their escort seeing activities. For example they would try to use a burner phone, or lock their phones and not tell the password to anyone, etc. Or a lot of them are just divorced or single too.

 

[josephstankas]

Using names and doctors appointments and bs like that will only make the message look more suspicious. Simply text "hey can't make it tomorrow" He knows what tomorrow is, and it's much easier to pass it off as a wrong number if he's caught.

 

[Banger77]

I think the second best option would be to send the cancelled appointment text using "Riza" or some other clue that would be obvious to the client as per Wintersurfers suggestion, but from a blocked number, or a number not associated with the agency

Something that didn't cross my mind. Alix Turner and Wintersurfer made a valid point of coming from a clean or non-associated number to Riza, a bit of anonymity from a over-zealous googling SO.

 

[SydneyTaylor]

Best solution is to not get into this situation to begin with... I'd imagine if someone gives their number, they realize someone might actually use that number. After all, numbers are used to get in touch, but good to ask the client his preferred method of contact later, when they first initiate contact. That way you can feel at peace sending an unexpected message out. I wouldn't for example, text a number that was just given for verification or screening at the time of making an appointment, unless they say it is ok to, later.

The "text from your clinic" plan isn't very good, while clinics and practitioners do text for appointments, the curious question will be, "oh what clinic/doctor/accountant appointment did you have tomorrow???"

Texting from a number that is associated online for advertising by the SP, can quickly be searched by any suspicious partner and gives away plausible deniability, specially if the text subject matter says 'your dentist" where the number googles to something entirely different good luck denying when the text claims she is the dentist.

Using any fake names to refer to yourself or to the client in the text also isn't wise, for reasons including the one above.

 

[sybian]

Riza.....if it was me, and I had a SO, which I don't .....I'd appreciate a no-call policy that would create problems in my personal life.
I'd rather show up, and be informed that the young lady I had scheduled wasn't available, instead of that phone call being made , and having that possible panic moment.
Having said that, I do admire your concern for the client, and the professionalism your trying to maintain in your business..I'm sure that attitude will come across very clearly when you finally do connect up with him, and concessions will be made for the cancelled appointment, and the inconvenience, particularly when you explain the difficulties from your point of view.
I know I would appreciate the discretion, well above the inconvenience.

 

[BobbyMcgee]

smart man
smart solution
no surprises
no uncertainties

 

[felixthecat]

Something that didn't cross my mind. Alix Turner and Wintersurfer made a valid point of coming from a clean or non-associated number to Riza, a bit of anonymity from a over-zealous googling SO.

Wasn't it just Alix Turner? To give the credit properly.

I know I would appreciate the discretion, well above the inconvenience.

Good man. I wouldn't be as understanding about wasting my time if I don't have a suspicious spouse and/or I use a separate secure phone.
A cancellation by SP doesn't bother me a bit if it's done with as much notice as possible. Cannot be checking messages all the time; and when received, it helps to have time to make alternative plans.
If a man is worried about discretion, he'd be wise to protect it actively himself - ask to not be contacted; block text notifications from a certain number etc. etc.

Kudos to Riza for thinking about these things though. Perhaps an extra effort during booking could prevent this. Like, asking to confirm on the day. Or asking if it's ok to text in case of changes (for some reason, nobody does that. They just text anyway... Which I never had a problem with.)

One of the reasons email booking can be a useful option, the SP will not be hesitant to message later.

 

[sevenofnine]

its a no brainers isn't it.

just text can't make it today. no other info
or explanation required.

my sp is listed in my phone, under a mans name or a unisex name. she knows enough to keep texts messages bland.
even then it is still rather dumb, to have a personal phone to use for this when married get a burner

 

[Westcoast1]

I'll chime in. As someone who uses a burner, and occasionally my personal phone. Yes I know it's stupid.
If you have the ability to call from a phone that has no ties to your operation, that is the best option.
If it's answered, you have an excuse to carry the conversation forward discretely. If not, a simple message stating your cancelation would suffice. Then it can be chalked up as a wrong number.
Good luck. I'm sure most of us appreciate your discressionary tact.