There are a couple threads recently that have me wondering (one about hobby budget, and another about how someone's habits may change with regards to price increase). Someone's hobby budget doesn't really indicate much other than their disposable income; something that's more telling, I think, is wether they're spending when they shouldn't be such as shirking responsibilites ie bills in order to partake of this industry (I've juggled the budget from time to time in order to make something work ie - not put the % of a paycheck into the savings, and a couple times not kept the buffer "in case shit" money I usually keep aside when travelling). Perhaps there are other bad habits someone may have developed to see a provider (myself I'll take a day off work from time to time or subject myself to a very late night when I need to be at work early the next morning to see someone). Some have mentioned that they need to hide money from a spouse in order to see providers. I've also seen in plenty of reviews "....but the little head was doing the thinking". I also know personally I've gone to some lengths to see someone (I'll take a long weekend trip just to see someone in a different city, I make amusement for myself elsewhere while there, but the genisis of the trip is to see lady x, y, or z. Thankfully I've got family in Vancouver and my sister's friends are "my kind of people" so I'd be going anyways now a days, great escorts there are just a great perk. But I will go to Calgary, Edmonton, Toronto just for hobbying's sake). Last do you set boundaries/rules for your habit. Such as myself I wont see locals out of Regina or Brandon (dont think they have any anyways) to avoid the convinience of returning too much and overindulging (more than I already do at times) and only see travellers, thankfully I'm picky as heck with my choices and rarely see someone just for the sake of seeing anyone, I usually make sure I want to see that particular person before booking.
So my questions, in summary and for discussion's sake.
Do you fudge the numbers and manipulate your budget? To what extent? Like what other things do you like to spend on that you end up not in order to see someone?
Are you allocating money to pooning when you shouldn't be? Have you done it from time to time?
What risks are you subjecting yourself to? Not simply risk of each individual date/session but overall as well? Obviously health risks are a factor everyone endures to one extent or another.
What lengths are you willing to go to? Not simply financial, but time, travel, sacrifices as well?
What measures have you taken to safeguard yourself? I'm more interested in what someone does to safeguard themselves from themselves, not so much "I use a fake name, fake email, and burn phone".
I just find answers to those questions can be more telling than "I spent X amount on providers this year"; and it's probably a good idea, that from time to time, we think about stuff like that as the answers can let someone know maybe they need to scale something back somewhat - be better at policing ourselves so to speak. As lets be honest. The hobby can be habit forming (and thus really addictive); putting someone's finances in danger as well as someone's way of life overall (I have no issue what so ever with the business, but unfortunatly it can be frowned socially - jobs, friendships, stigmas, family can all be at risk). Was doing a lot of driving recently and I'm curious.
So my questions, in summary and for discussion's sake.
Do you fudge the numbers and manipulate your budget? To what extent? Like what other things do you like to spend on that you end up not in order to see someone?
Are you allocating money to pooning when you shouldn't be? Have you done it from time to time?
What risks are you subjecting yourself to? Not simply risk of each individual date/session but overall as well? Obviously health risks are a factor everyone endures to one extent or another.
What lengths are you willing to go to? Not simply financial, but time, travel, sacrifices as well?
What measures have you taken to safeguard yourself? I'm more interested in what someone does to safeguard themselves from themselves, not so much "I use a fake name, fake email, and burn phone".
I just find answers to those questions can be more telling than "I spent X amount on providers this year"; and it's probably a good idea, that from time to time, we think about stuff like that as the answers can let someone know maybe they need to scale something back somewhat - be better at policing ourselves so to speak. As lets be honest. The hobby can be habit forming (and thus really addictive); putting someone's finances in danger as well as someone's way of life overall (I have no issue what so ever with the business, but unfortunatly it can be frowned socially - jobs, friendships, stigmas, family can all be at risk). Was doing a lot of driving recently and I'm curious.
