"How hard is it to put on a condom and be honest with people?"

ghostie

ghostly user
Jul 8, 2005
721
0
0
The secret life of Trevis Smith
Women speak out about Roughrider accused in HIV case

By Jason Warick, CanWest News Service
Published: Saturday, December 03, 2005
*The names of the women in this article have been changed.

On the surface, Saskatchewan Roughriders linebacker Trevis Smith is an excellent role model. He is unfailingly polite, reads the Bible, volunteers for numerous charities and always signs autographs for children.

Smith’s teammates, coaches and friends in Saskatchewan and in his birthplace of Montgomery, Ala., all speak highly of the married father of two.

"He’s an over-achiever. I love the guy. Everybody loved Trevis," Smith's high school football coach Spence McCracken said when reached in Montgomery.

"The only thing I can say is I love him as a brother and as a friend," fellow Roughriders linebacker Jackie Mitchell said, echoing the sentiment of several other teammates.

But there’s another side of Trevis Smith. Behind the scenes, the 29-year-old has maintained long-term relationships with numerous women, often simultaneously.

Smith, who is HIV-positive according to RCMP, now stands accused of endangering the lives of some of those women. He faces two counts of aggravated sexual assault, which each carry a maximum sentence of life in prison. It’s alleged he knew he was infected, but had unprotected sex without telling women in Regina and Vancouver.

He’s out on bail and is living in Regina. He’s under an 11 p.m. curfew but his movements are not being monitored.

His Vancouver trial is scheduled to begin next May. His lawyer will appear in Regina court next week to set a date for that charge.

The case has garnered attention across North America, and raised questions about the delicate balance between an individual’s right to privacy and the public’s right to know.

The Roughriders were warned about Smith potentially spreading HIV in May, 2004. Regina police have known of the allegations for at least a year.

Smith politely declined requests for an interview. "In all reality, I’ll live my life. Those who know me, know me," he said.

Several women consented to a series of extensive interviews about their relationships with Smith. One became Smith’s girlfriend shortly after he arrived in Saskatchewan in 1999. Another is the Regina woman he lived with during football season for three years. A third is a Regina woman who discovered she is HIV-positive after breaking off her relationship with Smith. And there’s a Vancouver-area woman who dated him for four years until this May.

Smith currently lives with his wife and their two young daughters in Regina.

"He’s a nice guy on the surface - I never knew he was married," the Vancouver woman said. "He'd call me five times a day - how could he have had time for all these others?"

In the past 12 months, Smith has travelled to Mexico, Aruba, Las Vegas, Banff, Vancouver, and other locations with various women, they say.

"I had no idea. I don’t know what the truth is with that guy," said the HIV-positive Regina woman.

"He’s put a lot of people through hell. I don’t know when I’m going to die, but I know what I’m probably going to die of.

"How hard is it to put on a condom and be honest with people?"


--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Trevis Smith was in Las Vegas this past May with his longtime girlfriend Amanda* when he asked to borrow her cellphone.

Amanda, a Vancouver-area woman, thought nothing of it at the time. It was her birthday, and she was on yet another vacation with the man she loved.

The linebacker had told Amanda many times during their three-year relationship that he loved her, and would occasionally bring up the subject of marriage.

"If I ever told him I was feeling sad, he’d hop on a flight (from Regina) and be with me," Amanda said by telephone in a series of exclusive interviews. Like other women in this article, she agreed to speak on condition her real name was not used.

"When he’d come out to see me, my mom and I would cook for him - stew, meat pies, spicy kabobs. We’d spend the whole day cooking, buying balloons, baking a cake. I went all out for this man."

When she got home to Vancouver from Vegas in late May, Amanda noticed a strange Saskatchewan phone number and a text message addressed to a woman, sent at the same time Trevis had borrowed her phone.

She called the number. The Regina woman on the other end of the line told Amanda she was also involved with Smith. The woman, who declined an interview request, also told Amanda that Smith was HIV-positive.
Amanda rushed to a doctor for a blood test. They’d been having sex regularly since 2002.

Early in the relationship, she asked Smith to wear a condom during sex and he did. After about a year, Amanda said he convinced her no condoms were necessary.

"I asked him to (wear a condom). He told me ‘No, no, no, no - there’s no one else. I’d never do anything to hurt you,’" she said, estimating they had sex more than 30 times without a condom.

A few sleepless nights later, in late May of this year, she was relieved to hear the test found no evidence of HIV.

"I am so lucky. By the grace of God, I’m OK. It’s a miracle," she said.

When Amanda confronted Smith in a phone call that day, he denied having HIV. She didn’t believe him and broke off the relationship. Amanda spoke to police a few days later and gave a formal statement in early September.

A week before Smith’s arrest in October 2005, he called Amanda.

"He pleaded with me, said he’d changed and I needed to forgive him," she said.

Later in the same conversation, Smith admitted to her he was HIV-positive, she said.


He called again a few days later to ask if she and her parents wanted tickets to an upcoming CFL game, and she declined.

The morning of his arrest, he sent her a text message on her cellphone, saying he wanted her to call. She didn’t.

Smith was flown to Surrey, B.C., on Oct 27, to appear in court charged with aggravated sexual assault.
Canada’s Criminal Code allows for a charge of aggravated sexual assault if the complainant doesn’t know what is being consented to, and if the complainant’s life is endangered by the accused.

RCMP in B.C. also issued a warning that Smith is HIV positive. They advised anyone concerned about exposure should seek medical attention.

"You are also asked to contact police in relation to this investigation," stated the news release.

The next day, a Regina woman filed a complaint. A second charge of aggravated sexual assault was laid last month against Smith, this time in Regina.

Amanda’s description of her relationship with Smith is similar to that of the other women interviewed. They all fell in love with him, and Smith told them he felt the same way. At some point, the women said they agreed to let Smith stop wearing a condom during sex.

The relationships all ended with the realization that Smith was married or was dating other women.


--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Pam* began dating Smith in 2002 after a chance meeting at a Regina gas station.

"He almost hit me with his car. We laughed and he asked me for my number," Pam said in an interview at her Regina duplex.

"He’d call me four or five times a day. We’d watch movies and hang out. He always made me laugh."

In early 2003, they discussed their relationship. Both promised they were monogamous and had no sexually-transmitted diseases. They agreed that no condom was necessary anymore and began to have unprotected sex.

"He said he loved me," Pam said.

In March of 2003, the normally healthy woman developed a severe flu-like illness. It hurt to bathe or lay too long in bed. She was extremely nauseous and her gums bled.

Pam’s temperature spiked at over 42 C for several days.

In hindsight, Pam believes this was the "sero-conversion" illness that can come within a few weeks of contracting HIV.

They broke up in October 2003 after she called Smith’s house and his wife answered. Pam began asking around, and says she soon found there were other women besides her and Smith’s wife in the picture.

"I found out he was sleeping with numerous women, so I went to get tested for STDs (sexually transmitted diseases)," she said.

She got her results Nov 5, 2003 - she was infected with HIV.

When her results came back positive, she notified the other six relationships she’d had over the past four years. None tested positive for HIV, she said.

She also called Smith at this time.

"That was the last time we spoke," she said. "He tried to call but I blocked it and then changed my number."

She called Regina police to file a complaint against Smith. No charges have been laid in her case.
 

ghostie

ghostly user
Jul 8, 2005
721
0
0
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
It's unclear when Smith contracted HIV or how long he’s known.

According to a statement Oct. 31, 2005 by Roughriders chair Graham Barker, Regina police told the team a year ago about the “probability” of charges against Smith. The team asked Smith to get tested for HIV at the time and the result was positive, Barker said.
HIV affects everyone differently. Some can live symptom-free for years while others can quickly develop infections and other problems signalling the onset of AIDS.

Pam can’t work full time anymore. She sleeps 10 hours a night, and has to take medication for the rest of her life in an attempt to keep the virus at bay. She takes antidepressants and must see a psychologist regularly.

This past December, depressed, ashamed and hopeless, Pam wrote a series of suicide notes. She stockpiled her grandmother’s insulin and planned to overdose on New Year’s Day, 2005.

"Hi honey. It’s mommy. I regret leaving you. I got sick and didn’t want to live that way. I didn’t want you to see me suffer. I decided to leave this life with what little dignity and pride I have left," she wrote to her then five-year-old daughter.

In another letter, she wrote; "To mom and dad, I’m sorry for disappointing you. None of this is your fault. Please don’t be sad or mad at me. Make the most of your time together. I love you both very much." After talking with some friends New Year’s Eve, Pam changed her mind.

She’s now determined to make the most of her life, and speaks in schools and at conferences about the dangers of unprotected sex.

"Some days are really good now, but other days I wonder if I’ll live to see my daughter graduate from high school," Pam said.

“When Trevis and I were together, he was kind and nice and always made my day better.

“But he’s a very good liar.”



--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

"He tells each of us he’s the only one and he loves us. He was never mean or abusive to me," said Bonnie*, a Regina woman he dated for more than a year after arriving in Regina in 1999.

Like Amanda and other women, Bonnie eventually agreed to sex without a condom.

"I thought I was in a relationship," said Bonnie, who does not have HIV.

She got suspicious when she found a romantic letter in his bag from a woman in Alabama who signed it "your wife.” Smith said the marriage had been annulled, but the woman was still hung up on him.

Smith and Bonnie eventually broke up when she found him at his apartment with another woman. Smith had been seeing this woman when he claimed to be jogging, Bonnie said.

"That’s what it took to clue me in."

She heard rumours a year ago about Smith’s HIV and called him. He denied having HIV.

“If you cared about someone, you wouldn’t do these things to them. This is not our fault - he lied to us,” Bonnie said.


--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

While dating Bonnie, Smith met Carmen*.

For Christmas of 2001 Carmen had brought Smith to her parents’ farm in southern Saskatchewan. He told Carmen’s parents how much he loved her. When they opened presents, Smith gave Carmen a Bible with a loving, Christian inscription.

"That’s a bit hypocritical, don’t you think?" Carmen said.

By this time, they were living together. Smith had taken her to Alabama to meet his family. Like Amanda, Carmen believed she and Smith would be getting married.

In the spring of 2002, Smith went home to Alabama alone. In the weeks after he returned, Carmen “noticed a weird (Alabama) number on the phone bill” and called it.

“A woman answered. I said ‘Your number’s on my phone bill. Who are you?’” Carmen said.

The woman said she was Smith’s wife. They had married during Smith’s trip home that past month. And just days before Smith had Christmas dinner with Carmen’s parents, the woman had given birth to the first of Smith’s two daughters in Alabama.

Carmen broke up with Smith immediately. Then in September of 2004, police came to her workplace. They asked when she last had sex with Smith and if she’d been tested. She lay awake several nights "praying the phone didn’t ring" with bad news.

Carmen doesn’t have HIV, but is furious over the lies she said Smith told her.


--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Numerous Roughrider teammates, friends and coaches give glowing testimonials of Smith, whose public image is that of a generous, polite and loyal man.

"He did a great job for me - he was a great kid," said Spence McCracken, former coach at Robert E. Lee high school in Montgomery, Ala., where Smith played football. “He didn’t say much, a real quiet guy. He led by example.”

McCracken last saw Smith when he dropped by to say hello several years ago.

"You tell Trevis I love him and I want to talk to him,” McCracken said. “I hated hearing (of the charges). I hope he ain’t guilty. I would trust him with my wife and kids.”

When reached at her home in Alabama, Smith’s mother said people have been saying and writing “very sickening” things about her son.

“I’m through with it. That’s my child and I have no comment whatsoever. Everybody has rushed to judgment.”

Smith was recruited to play for the Saskatchewan Roughriders in 1999. He’s been a solid and consistent contributor to the team. His contract expires in February, and it’s unclear whether the Roughriders will renew.

"He was a good guy in the locker room. He was a quiet guy, dependable," said teammate Jeremy O’Day.

"He was our team barber. He was a good guy. He wasn’t a wild party guy at all,” said fellow Roughrider Daved Benefield.

“I have nothing negative to say about Trevis. He’s a good friend of mine. I support him,” said another teammate Andrew Greene.

Smith has done a lot of volunteer work in Saskatchewan. He served as a football coach for a Regina high school this fall. He always signs autographs for kids, even after the Roughriders lose.

He and friend Brian Murray, who runs an aquatic training program for Smith and several other Roughriders, raised $4,000 in a fundraiser in the spring.

Murray’s mother is a breast cancer survivor, and Smith eagerly gave his name and time to the event for his friend.

"I have nothing bad to say about Trevis. He’s very humble, intelligent, courteous," Murray said.

"When (the charges) all broke, we played cards and I told him ‘You’ll get through it.’"

Smith also helps others in less public ways. When Smith badly injured his hip several years ago, a man from Saskatoon wrote to him. The man said his seven year old son also had a dislocated hip and asked Smith for advice on rehabilitation for his son.

Smith went to Saskatoon with Roughriders souvenirs in hand and spent the weekend with the family. He brought them to a game at Taylor Field and maintained a long friendship with them.

"He loved that boy, that family," said Carmen, who accompanied Smith on a couple of the trips to Saskatoon.

Smith’s Regina lawyer, Paul Harasen, said Smith hopes to continue his football career once the charges are dealt with.

"He loves the game. He wants to play and get back to his teammates," Harasen said.

"He’s doing very well - exercising, going to movies, seeing his bail supervisor."

Harasen said Smith’s wife, who moved to Regina with the two girls several months ago, is “a very nice lady. They’ve stayed as level-headed and positive as they can be.”

When reached on his cellphone, Smith declined numerous invitations for an interview.

"I don’t read the papers, man. The media’s already said all they want to say. I’m not gonna talk until this is all over with," Smith said.

Harasen neither confirmed nor denied Smith is HIV-positive. He pleaded not guilty to the Vancouver charge and plans to plead not guilty Wednesday in Regina, Harasen said.

The judge-only trial in Vancouver is scheduled for next May; a date has yet to be set in Regina. If convicted, there is no minimum sentence, but the maximum is imprisonment for life.

Harasen said there are four elements that the Crown needs to prove beyond a reasonable doubt.
They have to prove Smith knew he had HIV, that he had sex with the complainants, that he didn’t disclose his status, and that he didn’t use a condom.

Harasen is confident his client will be found not guilty.

"We never thought there should have been charges," Harasen said.

The women interviewed disagree.

"He thinks he’s done nothing wrong," Amanda said from Vancouver.

"Yes, he’s a nice guy on the surface. But he hasn’t learned anything. If he can lie, he’ll lie.

"How could he do this to us?"

Saskatoon StarPhoenix, with files from Anne Kyle and Rob Vanstone/Regina Leader-Post

© CanWest News Service 2005
 

Discombobbled

Banned
Mar 12, 2005
729
0
0
Ghostie, I'd like to respond, but this thread is way too long and I'm way too drunk to read it. I know you're one smart guy, so I'd like to understand your post, but could you provide a summary? :) :)
 

ghostie

ghostly user
Jul 8, 2005
721
0
0
Yah, this story is pretty long... but I find it very interesting that reporters have been able to track down so many women who have had sexual relationships with Trevis Smith... and they are willing to talk about it. There are probably others that are not willing to talk right now.

It is also interesting that apparantly both the Roughriders and the Regina police had complaints as long ago as last year that this guy might be spreading HIV:

The Roughriders were warned about Smith potentially spreading HIV in May, 2004. Regina police have known of the allegations for at least a year.

Also, this guy is such a fucking manipulator.... he stated out wearing condoms with all these ladies, and then through his lies slowly convinced each of them that it wasn't necessary:

Early in the relationship, she asked Smith to wear a condom during sex and he did. After about a year, Amanda said he convinced her no condoms were necessary.

"I asked him to (wear a condom). He told me ‘No, no, no, no - there’s no one else. I’d never do anything to hurt you,’" she said, estimating they had sex more than 30 times without a condom.

A few sleepless nights later, in late May of this year, she was relieved to hear the test found no evidence of HIV.

"I am so lucky. By the grace of God, I’m OK. It’s a miracle," she said.
 

Discombobbled

Banned
Mar 12, 2005
729
0
0
ghostie said:
Yah, this story is pretty long... but I find it very interesting that reporters have been able to track down so many women who have had sexual relationships with Trevis Smith... and they are willing to talk about it. There are probably others that are not willing to talk right now.

It is also interesting that apparantly both the Roughriders and the Regina police had complaints as long ago as last year that this guy might be spreading HIV:

The Roughriders were warned about Smith potentially spreading HIV in May, 2004. Regina police have known of the allegations for at least a year.

Also, this guy is such a fucking manipulator.... he stated out wearing condoms with all these ladies, and then through his lies slowly convinced each of them that it wasn't necessary:

Early in the relationship, she asked Smith to wear a condom during sex and he did. After about a year, Amanda said he convinced her no condoms were necessary.

"I asked him to (wear a condom). He told me ‘No, no, no, no - there’s no one else. I’d never do anything to hurt you,’" she said, estimating they had sex more than 30 times without a condom.

A few sleepless nights later, in late May of this year, she was relieved to hear the test found no evidence of HIV.

"I am so lucky. By the grace of God, I’m OK. It’s a miracle," she said.
Personally, I think the fuckin bastard deserves an aggravated sexual assault conviction. To bad our Crim Code wont' allow something more serious :mad:
 

ghostie

ghostly user
Jul 8, 2005
721
0
0
Discombobbled said:
Personally, I think the fuckin bastard deserves an aggravated sexual assault conviction. To bad our Crim Code wont' allow something more serious :mad:
Yah, I think we might see a specific Criminal Code offence for this in the future. It is a crime which seems to cry out for its own offence. Aggravated assault doesn't seem to really get at the gravity of what occurs when a person with AIDS, who knows they have AIDS, convices other people to have unprotected sex with them.

There are going to be a lot more of these trials in the future, unfortunately. There is another trial going on in New West at the moment: the Adrian Nduwayo trial (see below), and I think there is one or two of these on the go right now in Ontario as well.

This Nduwayo case is basically the mirror image of the Trevis Smith case: the guy is married, has kids, has lots of girlfriends, convices all his girlfriends to have unprotected sex with him, infects some of them with HIV, lives are ruined, etc., etc....

Woman weeps as she recalls AIDS test result

Gerry Bellett, Vancouver Sun
Published: Friday, December 02, 2005
NEW WESTMINSTER - A young woman made pregnant by Adrien Nduwayo broke down and wept Thursday as she testified about being told during a pre-natal examination that a routine blood test showed her to be HIV positive.

When the news hit her all she could think of was her child, she said.

"I did everything to try and get all the information that I could that would help my child," she told a B.C. Supreme Court jury in New Westminster.

Nduwayo, 35, who tested positive for HIV in 1996, is charged with six counts of aggravated sexual assault and one count of sexual assault for failing to disclose his condition and engaging in unprotected sex with seven Lower Mainland women between 2000 and 2003.

Three of the women are now HIV positive. A fourth woman with whom he had a sexual relationship in 1996 is also HIV positive.

The witness had just turned 19 when she met Nduwayo in August 2000 in a store.

He told her he had been a soccer star and made a lot of money and mentioned the famous English soccer club, Arsenal.

Before long they were dating and having sex in his house. She had asked him to use condoms but he said he didn't want to do so, she testified. She said he never mentioned he was HIV positive, and to prevent pregnancy she went on the pill.

She was led to believe he was single, but discovered he had a wife when she called his home one day.

"A woman [who] answered the phone said 'who is this?' I said 'it's his girlfriend' and she said 'well I'm his wife and I've got his 10-month old baby here.' "

Nduwayo had told her the woman living in the house was a nanny he hired to look after his child.

The witness said she became violently ill in October 2000, and was in hospital a number of weeks.

When she got out of hospital she continued the relationship with Nduwayo but couldn't afford birth control pills, and when she told him he showed no sympathy.

"So from that point on nothing was used and I became pregnant," she said.

Nduwayo reacted violently to the news she was pregnant and insisted on an abortion, she said.

"I couldn't live with myself if I had an abortion," she said.

She and her mother were in a grocery store when he approached them and told her mother she should have an abortion, which upset them both, the witness said.

Later when she went to his house he almost pushed her down the stairs. "He wanted me out of his house, he didn't want anything to do with me. He said he didn't want the baby to have his name, he said 'the baby's all yours' and he threw some of my things on the ground," she said.

That was in February 2001. A month later she was told by her doctor she was HIV positive.

Her composure cracked when she described telling her sister outside the doctor's office what she had just learned. "I didn't know what I was supposed to do."

Earlier, staff from the B.C. Centre For Disease Control testified that Nduwayo was called to the center in October, 1996, after a woman telephoned the centre and said she had been infected with HIV by Nduwayo and that he was having a relationship with another woman who should be warned.

Nduwayo was tested and found to be positive and was told that he must inform sexual partners that he had the disease and he must use condoms to prevent infecting others.

Two other women also testified Thursday of their sexual relations with Nduwayo -- neither contracted HIV -- and said he never wanted to use condoms or ever mentioned he had HIV.

© The Vancouver Sun 2005
 

georgebushmoron

jus call me MR. President
Mar 25, 2003
3,127
2
0
55
Seattle
I wonder how many MPs this guy visited and got BBBJ, CIM and maybe even BBFS??
 

hitrack

I'LL KILL YA ALL!!
Feb 25, 2003
3,881
0
0
Surrey
Discombobbled said:
Ghostie, I'd like to respond, but this thread is way too long and I'm way too drunk to read it. I know you're one smart guy, so I'd like to understand your post, but could you provide a summary? :) :)
In situations like this I just read the 1st and last words of the entire post in this case the 1st word is THE, the last word is POST. So I summize he means fence post. By the wasy the guy that built my fence did a shitty job too, and he used a fence post thats crooked as a dogs dik. :mad:
 

tongue

New member
Feb 26, 2003
79
0
0
These HIV stories are coming in bunches. Another one in the Vancouver Sun. Another black man infecting many women, denying that he had a wife. Sex with no condoms.
Very sad. :eek:
 
Vancouver Escorts