I had to search for 'aquilbriams'
Did you mean: aquilibrium, equilibriums, equilibrium, aqualibrium
How far have you come?
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Did you mean: aquilibrium, equilibriums, equilibrium, aqualibrium
What is your point? And WTF is an aquilbriam? Or did you mean acronyms?
SP- Service Provider
SW- Street Walker
GS- Georgia Straight
WE- West Ender
B&S- Buy and Sell
SO- Significant Other
WTF- What The Fuck
LMK if anything else needs to be clarified you old bastard.
And BTW, no, I left 12 in the rear view mirror several decades ago- assume you did as well? :yo:
Buy and Sell classifieds (similar to the Auto Trader) used to have an extensive 'Personals' section.
What I've Learned, in 40 years:
1: price is almost irrelevant, there are superb and terrible providers at every level
2: there are people on both sides who should NOT be doing this
3: loyalty is hugely rewarding, find someone you like and stick with them
4: over doing it will ruin it
5: accept that there is an element of risk and that YMMV always applies
1: price is almost irrelevant, there are superb and terrible providers at every level
2: there are people on both sides who should NOT be doing this
3: loyalty is hugely rewarding, find someone you like and stick with them
4: over doing it will ruin it
5: accept that there is an element of risk and that YMMV always applies
Quick disclaimer: "but Elsi said" isn't a recognized defense anywhere. Nice try.Elsi did ask "How far have you come?". Though I suppose some would spell it "cum" rather than "come"
I have some marks left on me from past .....let's call it conflicts.I hear from lots of first-timers and beginners who ask things that really show how inexperienced and nervous they are. Like the clients who book, enter the incall, and then ask if I'm a cop... "No, I'm overqualified."/"That's extra." And while I like to poke fun at them at the end of the session once they're all relaxed, I do have to remember that there was a time when I had equally dense notions of how this industry is.
Ladies, perberts--what kind of non-issues worried you when you first started that you can look back on now and have a little snicker at yourself about?
And yes, intentionally ambiguous title is intentionally ambiguous.
I had no confidence left ,after they released me with decorated honour.
I thought ,who the hell would find me attractive anymore, what would they think, or say?
I found that the ladies that I chose to spend time with, were more than understanding....they gave me the chance to regain my humanity, and self respect.....I owe some of them more than they'd ever know.
Having said that....it is not everyone's thing....some like it , some are indifferent, others are uncomfortable.
I have come very far, and perhaps I have a little ways left to go....there are always questions about my scars, when my shirt comes off....but I'm ok with them now....I even have a little laugh to myself about the reaction I get from time to time.
They've turned from an embarrassment , into marks of honour.
I take things quite literally and there was a time I could win a distance sploogie shooting contest, a regular palm sisters workout made sure I was always in top shape. I remember being about 17-18 and having almost scored an awesome hottie the night before I couldn't get rid of the tent in my pants. I let er rip out behind the barn, we had cattle too when I was young, I was shocked when it sailed right across the road back there I couldn't believe it.
These days I'm lucky to squeeze off a feeble dribble but occasionally I can still get some air time ha ha!
Bless the ladies in the profession. It's a basic human need to be touched and appreciated.
Couldn't agree more Vpete I've crossed a few ladies off my list from their comments on social media and also added a few
I've been doing this for a very long time, before some of the current providers were born. Like many in my age group, at this point I often look back and see the lessons of my life, and I hope I am not as innocent or insecure as I was when I started this hobby. My experience in the other aspects of my life also lead me to think that I have come very far, and I hope I'm a better person.
Where this hobby is concerned, I am familiar with it, having tried PSE's as well as local escorts, and I've had a couple of arrangements. This is stress free, and it has helped me overcome my sexual insecurities which has been good for me. I am doing well now, in my work, so I am seriously thinking of getting an exclusive arrangement.
Where this hobby is concerned, I am familiar with it, having tried PSE's as well as local escorts, and I've had a couple of arrangements. This is stress free, and it has helped me overcome my sexual insecurities which has been good for me. I am doing well now, in my work, so I am seriously thinking of getting an exclusive arrangement.
OH MY GOD THE LAUNDRY...yes, my favourite part of being on tour is not having to wash 3 sets of sheets a day. This week, I am reveling in having two beds in my room so I don't have to sleep in a wet spot either (since it's usually more like a lake than a puddle...)
Thing that weirded me out was when I first moved to Victoria and booked with a girl. Turned out we knew each other from our home town. Well she was someone I had had a crush on since high school, she was so embarrassed but after she calmed down we had a really great session,and many more after that.
When I first started seeing providers in this hobby I was just a 16 year old hay seed from butt fuck nowbere and I just approached the first gorgeous blond I saw standing on the sidewalk in front of the hotel Georgia.
Wasn't anything memorable but she was gorgeous. Met a lot of wonderful,interesting ladies from all walk of life. Educated , high school drop outs,ladies from all over the world with a million different stories and experiences.
It's been a wild and crazy ride and I wouldn't trade any of those experiences for all the tea in China.
When I first started seeing providers in this hobby I was just a 16 year old hay seed from butt fuck nowbere and I just approached the first gorgeous blond I saw standing on the sidewalk in front of the hotel Georgia.
Wasn't anything memorable but she was gorgeous. Met a lot of wonderful,interesting ladies from all walk of life. Educated , high school drop outs,ladies from all over the world with a million different stories and experiences.
It's been a wild and crazy ride and I wouldn't trade any of those experiences for all the tea in China.
what is that saying full circle.
sometimes I wish I could start all over from the beginning a nervous newbi
see every girl again, have every session a redo,
I don't know why,
other then that, when I started I think I was pretty conservative sexually simple vanilla sex was exciting enough for me,
it didn't take me long before I got kinkier and kinkier fantasies in my head,
some of which I lived out, some of which I think are better left a fantasy, no going back,
not that they are wrong, but I think some of the wilder sexual fantasies or I should say sexual practices out there
or more a time a place a person, someone to do it with,
and I think they can be kind of life changing or a revelation,, better to do when your young and single
and then you can tell everyone you had a gap year, or just took a year off or whatever and got lost, some fucking place,
anyway, and just more so me,
im fucking the women,
I mean were not meant to care about each other no emotional entanglements door closes were all forgotten,
just a bunch of body parts mashing together right,
but I fuck the women rather then her body, like to look into her eyes read emotions listen very careful to what she tells me,
I think that sense has only deepened in me,
she is a human being and she is giving me access to her body, her very intimate parts.
the women in this has always fascinated me, stood me in awe most of the time,
that for a bunch of paper I can fool around with there body
when I was a newbi who gave a flying fuck about the women in this,
yeah I would like to do it all again
sometimes I wish I could start all over from the beginning a nervous newbi
see every girl again, have every session a redo,
I don't know why,
other then that, when I started I think I was pretty conservative sexually simple vanilla sex was exciting enough for me,
it didn't take me long before I got kinkier and kinkier fantasies in my head,
some of which I lived out, some of which I think are better left a fantasy, no going back,
not that they are wrong, but I think some of the wilder sexual fantasies or I should say sexual practices out there
or more a time a place a person, someone to do it with,
and I think they can be kind of life changing or a revelation,, better to do when your young and single
and then you can tell everyone you had a gap year, or just took a year off or whatever and got lost, some fucking place,
anyway, and just more so me,
im fucking the women,
I mean were not meant to care about each other no emotional entanglements door closes were all forgotten,
just a bunch of body parts mashing together right,
but I fuck the women rather then her body, like to look into her eyes read emotions listen very careful to what she tells me,
I think that sense has only deepened in me,
she is a human being and she is giving me access to her body, her very intimate parts.
the women in this has always fascinated me, stood me in awe most of the time,
that for a bunch of paper I can fool around with there body
when I was a newbi who gave a flying fuck about the women in this,
yeah I would like to do it all again
All this is true for me but to add to this, I was always afraid of making a bad first impression. The disclaimer that a lady can end the session at any point if they feel threatened or uncomfortable made me self conscious and I was afraid of inadvertently doing something wrong.
The other thing is that while there are some unreputable people in this business, there is no more or less than in any other kinds of business. Do your homework and you should be able to find the person you are looking for.
Still snickering at myself for being afraid to tell the lady what a nice shy boy craved for fear of rejection, judgement, or ...snickering. Now I have little problem articulating my innermost desires, kinks, and perversions, although I often mentally reherse a bit first. Once I accepted that my needs are part of me and beautiful, it became much easier to talk about them. I thank the ladies for inquiring, accepting, and making me feel comfortable talking about it.
I also snicker at myself for the little things I have brought to sessions. Good wine, thoughtful gifts, chocolate (but never Snickers). Lol.
I also snicker at myself for the little things I have brought to sessions. Good wine, thoughtful gifts, chocolate (but never Snickers). Lol.
From the female side the of the aisle:
First I learned how to get into elaborate stockings and garter combinations in a tiny washroom stall at work.
Then I learned that no one cared what I was wearing.
First I thought that it was about finding out how to please a man. Ok....men.
Then I learned that they actually just wanted to learn how to please me.
First I wondered how I'd manage to be attracted to someone not conventionally attractive.
Then I realized that everyone has something innately lovable about them. All one has to do is find it, and love the heck out of it.
I guess I've come a long ways. Good thread, Elsi!
First I learned how to get into elaborate stockings and garter combinations in a tiny washroom stall at work.
Then I learned that no one cared what I was wearing.
First I thought that it was about finding out how to please a man. Ok....men.
Then I learned that they actually just wanted to learn how to please me.
First I wondered how I'd manage to be attracted to someone not conventionally attractive.
Then I realized that everyone has something innately lovable about them. All one has to do is find it, and love the heck out of it.
I guess I've come a long ways. Good thread, Elsi!
