How Effective Are Compliments...

[Rammstein69]

... in regards to creating attraction with a woman? I've been out of the dating game for a long time now, but I'm trying to get back in the game again. So...I've started giving the odd SINCERE compliment to women I find attractive. I've tried it on women in casual social situations, like waitresses and security guards.

In most cases, they thank me graciously and seem to be genuinely flattered. Still, I don't know if it helps to create a spark. I usually just walk away leaving them with a big smile.

Today I asked a cute waitress if she was new. She said she had worked here a long time ago, but had come back recently. I said I would have remembered her. She smiled and kinda cocked her head and asked why I'd remember her. I said because you're a very attractive lady. She smiled and thanked me very sincerely, and then we parted ways. I don't give out fake compliments or use lines...I only give a compliment if I really believe it, so I know it comes across as sincere. The thing is, I get so nervous I'm almost shaking; this is really WAY out of my recent comfort zone!

How should I follow up on these compliments? Clearly I'm making it known that I find the girl attractive...(in a polite and respectful way), but I'm not sure how to escalate it from here...

 

[FortunateOne]

The thing is, I get so nervous I'm almost shaking; this is really WAY out of my recent comfort zone!

Practise makes perfect. Sincerity is key. An overused practised pick up line can be spotted a mile away, so I am sure they can spot the difference and appreciate the compliment. The only way to work through the nerves is to keep doing it and eventually you will become more comfortable.

 

[moi]

i used to waitress and got lots of compliments. I would say the best thing for me was when i got a compliment from a guy, and i liked him too, sometimes he would leave a little note with his phone number not being too pushy n leave it at the table.
If i felt a connection i'd call, if not i'd throw it away.

Good luck on your endeavours!!!

 

[Keithks]

I'd use them sparingly. A lot of women perceive an overly nice guy as weak, as screwed up as that is.

Don't do coffee dates. Really, how often do coffee dates end in sex? You want to take her someplace where there's alcohol. Grease the skids, so to speak.

And finally, don't take advice from women on women.

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

Don't do coffee dates. Really, how often do coffee dates end in sex? You want to take her someplace where there's alcohol. Grease the skids, so to speak.

I agree. I completely i dont lunch (unless she;s married of course lol) or coffee. Neither has ever gotten a guy laid.

 

[littlejonny]

Perhaps Moi is the exception, but I've found that women rarely have the guts to call a guy first. Take it from experience that if a girl doesn't give you her your number, just move on. Giving them your number and expecting them to call is an exercise in futility.

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

Perhaps Moi is the exception, but I've found that women rarely have the guts to call a guy first. Take it from experience that if a girl doesn't give you her your number, just move on. Giving them your number and expecting them to call is an exercise in futility.

I just had 2 diff. chicks call me from friday night trawling.

 

[littlejonny]

I just had 2 diff. chicks call me from friday night trawling.

LOL. Maybe I'm just an asshole then. Seriously, giving my number out has rarely worked for me unless there was at least some kissing or something between us. Whatever. Maybe you've got the right lines down when giving out your number.

 

[bruce_lee]

Lunch or coffee means you are in the friend zone. You don't go out for lunch of coffee with a girl unless you are friends, or thats what she thinks of you as. Dinner or drinks is where its at

 

[misterniceguy]

i'm not sure how effective flattery works

Flattery has always been a tool in my arsenal but the results were not always the best. I read "The Game" and found out that mild insults are the way to go, and you know what...It works. Ladies respond well to compliments, but in my experience, they respond much better to insults. I was totally surprised. Any thoughts?

 

[BC_Boy]

Flattery has always been a tool in my arsenal but the results were not always the best. I read "The Game" and found out that mild insults are the way to go, and you know what...It works. Ladies respond well to compliments, but in my experience, they respond much better to insults. I was totally surprised. Any thoughts?

true but i wouldn't call it mild insults. making fun of her in a joking manner is the best way to put it.

also depends on the girl......telling Jessica Alba that she is beautiful won't make u stand out from the other guys.

 

[Rammstein69]

also depends on the girl......telling Jessica Alba that she is beautiful won't make u stand out from the other guys.

I don't usually compliment really attractive women, partly for this reason alone. This waitress I complimented had many tattoos and was dressed in a pretty cheap way.

I was really sexually attracted to her though, even though she would never be my type to have a long-term relationship with. She struck me as being a pretty loose chick to say the least.

Maybe I should have outright propositioned her?? You know, something like 'I'll give you a fantastic tip if you put a big smile on my face.' I definately would have too. Wonder what she would have said to that?

 

[Markl]

She'd of probably slapped you, and rightly so.

 

[Rammstein69]

She'd of probably slapped you, and rightly so.

Jeez, lighten up...it was said tongue in cheek.